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Financial crisis

Started this discussion. Last reply by delaware girl Jan 3, 2015. 3 Replies

Our good credit and my stability has crashed since my husband died 19 months ago. I have been unable to maintain my job as a nurse due to mental and emotional problems. I am waiting on Jims pension…Continue

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Tsunami of Grief

Posted on August 29, 2013 at 5:30am 0 Comments

Waves of grief race toward us like a tsunami.
But there’s no high ground to run to
Because the storm rages deep inside us
There is no place to hide...

My World Disappears.

Posted on August 28, 2013 at 1:30pm 1 Comment

Oh my Jim! My precious Jim...The night we met...Live band...Country music...Smokey dance floor...Blue jeans...Cowboy boots...My white silk blouse...You hand warm...Resting low on my back...My fingers soft...Caressing your neck...How right it felt in your arms...THE WORLD DISAPPEARED...I think I loved you from the start...

Oh my Jim...My precious Jim...Haunting memories...The hospital bed...Pushed tight against my couch...Alarms in the background...You in my arms...Your hand in… Continue

No! You don't know how I feel.

Posted on August 10, 2013 at 1:10pm 13 Comments

Seriously! An older lady, who did not know me well was stupid enough to look this widow in the eye and say I know EXACTLY how you feel. I went through a divorce and it gets easier everyday. You husband was a wonderful sensitive man. You should just be happy you had him as long as you did.

SERIOUSLY! OMG! Lady you have no idea how I effing feel! I don't even know how I feel! Shut the eff up!

I feel my head about to spin. I feel the green pea soup about to come up. I swallow… Continue

Darkness of Grief

Posted on July 20, 2013 at 8:00am 0 Comments

The powers of darkness
That threaten my soul
Have lifted slightly
Looming nearby
Waiting, watching
For a weak moment
To sweep down and
Devour my soul

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At 6:13am on January 23, 2014, BESTBUDS1 [Norman} said…

Hope I am so very sorry for your loss..I have experienced Hospice care for my Wonderful Wife Victoria..To even think of Hospice brings tears of Love.....I admire s much you aand your profession..Blessings Norman

At 2:28pm on August 4, 2013, Turtle said…
Hi :) just learning how to navigate thru the site, continuing to remain sad and lonely.
At 4:28pm on August 3, 2013, music said…

Hi Hope,

Thank you for your friendship offer. I noticed that when I focus only on myself and my grief, it seems overbearing, but when I see others are going through this painful journey of separation, then I am in awe of this short life of ours. Today, my son and I went down to Washington DC and spent time at the Natural History Museum. Then we went to the Mall, and then to Barnes & Noble. This is what we would have done if his father were here, so now we're continuing on as if he were there with us. Keeping busy seems to help a little.  Does that make sense?

At 7:43am on August 1, 2013, Ellen said…

Thank you so much for befriending me, Hope.  In the darkness of this grief journey we are all sharing, thank God there is the light of this site.  I wish you a peaceful day.  Ellen

At 10:31am on July 22, 2013, Potter said…
Hi Hope, sounds like you are having some not so nice advice! Just ignore it and you do what makes you feel better. I am having a not so good day. I have back trouble and it gives me problems off and on. Yesterday it got worse and today isn't any better so am laying down which is making for another long day. I will miss my Grief Share tonight because I just can't sit. Such a pain. Hope your day improves its hard enough on all of us without having other things to deal with. I usually just check my groups which are just two of them. Imam not sure how all of this works. Thanks for the friend invite.
At 9:35pm on July 15, 2013, JerseyGirl said…

Thanks for the friend invite.  So very sorry for your loss, but we'll all help each other through this painful time in our lives.

At 12:42pm on July 15, 2013, barbie115 said…

Thanks for friending me

At 4:47pm on July 10, 2013, sadjanet said…

Thanks for inviting me to be your friend. Love the horse pictures - it sounds like it was your husband's "happy place". My husband was happiest up at our cabin and now the cabin is sitting there empty and I have it up for sale - it absolutely breaks my heart to think we will never be up there together ever again - we were going to retire there. I am sure you feel the same about riding together. It's just so unbelievably sad and I don't know how to get past it - that's why we have each other I guess - right?

At 7:00pm on July 9, 2013, katjames said…
I am so so sorry for your loss Hope. I can truly say I understand how you feel and know the deep pain you have. I live with it too... Hugs to you my friend.
At 7:45pm on June 28, 2013, Joyce said…

Welcome Hope: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"


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