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Hopesmom
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relationships after

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Feb 10. 4 Replies

I read a post from a member who was just a couple of months out from the loss of her spouse. She was kind of entering into a relationship with a friend of her husband, who is currently divorcing. I…Continue

miscellaneous

Started this discussion. Last reply by DIVA70 Feb 5. 1 Reply

I love going through the forum and reading the stories. They have helped me so much, and give me a lot to think about. So here's just some of my thoughts. When my husband was first diagnosed and I…Continue

New born baby

Started this discussion. Last reply by DIVA70 Jan 25. 3 Replies

I remember when my first child was born, I realized I was responsible for this new life. At first, that thought scared the heck out of me. But I did it. I had 4 boys, all healthy and grown. I was…Continue

runaway train

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Jan 19. 4 Replies

I'm coming up on one year. Some days are good, some bad. There's going to be changes for me this year, I'm going to lose the house that we moved into just 3 weeks before Mike was diagnosed and the…Continue

 

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Hopesmom replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"So far away by the Offspring"
Mar 7
Hopesmom replied to Rich's discussion Premonitions
"Ok, I know this is going to sound weird. About a year before my husband died, we were talking and I mentioned to him that my dog Cinnamon had been looking at me and that it was like she knew something about me or that was going to happen. It was a…"
Feb 26
Callie2 replied to Hopesmom's discussion relationships after
"Oh Barbee, what a nightmare!  It’s not only widows but widowers, or anyone older and alone are all vulnerable. Hard to believe there are people capable of doing things like this. So often, I read in the paper stories about elderly people…"
Feb 10
Callie2 replied to Hopesmom's discussion relationships after
"Maybe I look at the situation differently, but it is no secret that widows are quite vulnerable. For someone to make a move so quickly on her, makes me wonder about his intentions. Something similar happened to a friend of mine a year or so…"
Feb 10
Hopesmom replied to Patricia's discussion I Forgot His Voice
"My husband has been gone just over a year. In my bathroom shower is a washrag he hung there, I have no idea how long I'll leave it there. I guess I'm just trying to hold on to a piece of him. Oh yeah, I also have a hair tie with a few…"
Feb 10
Frank replied to Hopesmom's discussion relationships after
"Hi, When Susan passed, I camped out here in WV ( the winter snows were so bad it was unsafe to drive the 100 miles over the passes into Denver) and when the snows abated, I joined a Grief Group in Denver.  I was shocked one meeting when one of…"
Feb 10
barbee replied to Hopesmom's discussion relationships after
"Sometimes we cannot be too careful, especially when we are stressed with grief. Many years ago my grandfather died. A week or so after the funeral Grandma answered her door. It was a man who said he had been a friend back in Michigan (the obit said…"
Feb 10
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Hopesmom's discussion relationships after
"Apology not necessary, this issue is worth pointing out ... Being alone/unwed takes time to adjust to. Widow brain drastically interferes w/any type of clear head decision making. Many widowed either deny or do not believe they have widow brain. In…"
Feb 10
Hopesmom posted a discussion

relationships after

I read a post from a member who was just a couple of months out from the loss of her spouse. She was kind of entering into a relationship with a friend of her husband, who is currently divorcing. I wasn't able to post a comment but ,man did I want to. Yes there are legitimate friend's that want to be there and comfort and help us. We all know the extreme lonliness we are going through, and we would love to just be not alone! But I wanted to scream...Don't do it. I have also been approached by…See More
Feb 9
DIVA70 replied to Hopesmom's discussion miscellaneous
" 36 years ago my dad passed away . He was everything to me. I was his princess. I couldn't imagine anyone hurting more than me. Yes, he and my mom had been high school sweethearts. Yes, they had been married 43 years and had faced so many…"
Feb 5
Hopesmom posted a discussion

miscellaneous

I love going through the forum and reading the stories. They have helped me so much, and give me a lot to think about. So here's just some of my thoughts. When my husband was first diagnosed and I knew how it was going to end, a friend told me how things would happen. Like the fact that after the funeral people would most likely disappear, and they did. Shortly after Mike died, a good friend of mine had a real bad accident. I wanted to go see my friends spouse because we are good friends also.…See More
Feb 2
Hopesmom replied to patter's discussion Rules of Widowhood
"Exactly Susan, I love it."
Feb 2
Hopesmom replied to loveboo's discussion Different aspects of the pain and sadness.
"My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer with mets to the liver. He was gone way too fast. We didn't have time to talk about things.He was on high  oxygen and the bi pap machine other times, so besides struggling to even breathe ,…"
Feb 2
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Let's Grumble
"You mentioned the toilet seat Misty, that's funny. I once asked Mike why he couldn't put it back down for me and he says, "Why don't you leave it up for me? " Geeze that makes sense. He didn't let things get to him, and…"
Jan 27
DIVA70 replied to Hopesmom's discussion New born baby
"I totally understand. About four months after my Tony passed away (its been nine months now) the power went out in the house. I never panicked before because he was always there. In an instant I realized I didn't know how to change the fuses.…"
Jan 25
Rainy (Misty) replied to Hopesmom's discussion New born baby
"Hopesmom what a wonderful analogy! "
Jan 25

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At 7:44am on August 26, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Hopesmom. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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