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Hopesmom
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runaway train

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord 14 hours ago. 3 Replies

I'm coming up on one year. Some days are good, some bad. There's going to be changes for me this year, I'm going to lose the house that we moved into just 3 weeks before Mike was diagnosed and the…Continue

after

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Sep 22, 2018. 7 Replies

So heres something I think about, My husband has been gone alomost a year. And although I haven't reached the wanting to date anyone phase I wonder what to do about the fact that I'm scared to meet…Continue

help

Started this discussion. Last reply by Hopesmom Sep 16, 2018. 4 Replies

I feel like i should be doing something but then again  I;m not sure if I;m readt toContinue

 

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Timelord replied to Hopesmom's discussion runaway train
"Hopesmom I hope I hope I pray things get better for you.  I too am here alone with two kids (24, and 20) and the 20 yo still is dependnent on me of course...and I have no one to help either financially or emotionally etc.  So for what…"
14 hours ago
sis replied to Hopesmom's discussion runaway train
"My heart goes out to you, feeling all alone plus all the emotions that I'm sure are running through you is a sad state to be in. Like you, I'm coming up on one year in March, although it feels like it just happened, and that alone is hard…"
17 hours ago
Rich replied to Hopesmom's discussion runaway train
"A friend of mine works for the bank doing foreclosures. He said that it is a long process some taking years. So hopefully you do have more time than you think. I know it is not an ideal situation but maybe the extra time can provide you with options."
yesterday
Hopesmom replied to Jill's discussion What's scaring you these days?
"I'm afraid I'm going to end up out in the street when they foreclose on the house."
yesterday
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runaway train

I'm coming up on one year. Some days are good, some bad. There's going to be changes for me this year, I'm going to lose the house that we moved into just 3 weeks before Mike was diagnosed and the end began. I've just started to get his ssi widow benefits, but it's not going to change the house situation. I've sat down and made a budget with me saving for a place to rent. But I have lousy credit, 3 large dogs, and I've never lived alone. I'm scared to death of all of this. I'm hoping the…See More
yesterday
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Winter time BLUES complicating grief.
" I've been feeling fearful and it seems my confidence in myself is very low. I spoke to a widow friend of mine and she told me all of this is normal. I've lost my rock. I realize that even if Mike and i were a thousand miles apart, he…"
Jan 3
Hopesmom replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion OK, I have to ask this....(true confession time)
"Hope, I could have written your statement. My husband was not "diagnosed" until a month before he passed. But for 5 or 6 years he did love me but he was mad all the time, mostly at me. He had resentment and animosity for me that had no…"
Nov 28, 2018
Hopesmom commented on only1sue's blog post Nobody loves me
"I feel like I could have written this. It's exactly how I feel."
Nov 15, 2018
Hopesmom replied to ricepop's discussion others have a family and husband to go home to, wheras i have none....
"I have plenty of life going on around me. My 2 sons and one with a wife and kids live here, but I'm still incredibly lonely.My son gets to climb into bed with his wife and I climb into a cold empty bed. He always says they're here for me…"
Oct 31, 2018
Hopesmom replied to catapan's discussion I’m so hurt
"I'm sorry for your loss. I kinda take it as this, when we lose our spouse part of our life just stops right there, but for our friends it doesn't. They still love and care, they just have to continue on with their lives.Try not to take it…"
Oct 29, 2018
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"I have trouble remembering stupid silly stuff. I'm usually pretty sharp, but with the axis of my life being thrown off kilter I hear this is normal so I don't worry about it. I just has all of my labs and stuff done and there's…"
Oct 24, 2018
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"I have trouble remembering stupid silly stuff. I'm usually pretty sharp, but with the axis of my life being thrown off kilter I hear this is normal so I don't worry about it. I just has all of my labs and stuff done and there's…"
Oct 24, 2018
Hopesmom replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Losing my home.
"I'm kinda in the same situation. We had been living in our 5th wheel for almost 3 years in a friends back yard. So buying this house was our new hope for the future and a new start. We had lots of hopes and dreams that are all now gone. This…"
Oct 23, 2018
Hopesmom replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Losing my home.
"We moved into our house only 11 days before Mike was diagnosed. It's been 9 months and I'm now probably going to lose it . I don't get enough money from my VA widow pension. I'm not looking forward to having to move, but…"
Oct 23, 2018
Hopesmom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unmarried Widows & Widowers
"This is my first time on this group. I lost my husband of 23 years suddenly in January of 2018. He had been sick,and wouldn't go to the doctor because we were right in the middle of buying a house. So shortly after we moved in I finally told…"
Oct 20, 2018
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Does anyone actively journal?
"I started journaling when I was in rehab in 2010, for my alcoholism, and I have done it ever since. It helps me alot to be able to put my thoughts down on paper. And yes sometimes it starts to turn to me writing to Mike. I will usually stop my…"
Oct 20, 2018

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At 7:44am on August 26, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Hopesmom. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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