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Hopesmom
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Sep 22. 7 Replies

So heres something I think about, My husband has been gone alomost a year. And although I haven't reached the wanting to date anyone phase I wonder what to do about the fact that I'm scared to meet…Continue

help

Started this discussion. Last reply by Hopesmom Sep 16. 4 Replies

I feel like i should be doing something but then again  I;m not sure if I;m readt toContinue

 

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Hopesmom replied to Luv4Z's discussion Crying in the front lawn
"I never thought I could cry so many tears as I have. I have a few of our kids here and they have helped me with so much of the decision making that had to be done. Even though they were grieving as much as I, they have been a huge help to me. I have…"
50 minutes ago
Hopesmom replied to Angela's discussion Sudden loss
"HI I'm Janet. I totally get the envy you feel, Every time I see a couple about the same age as my husband Mike and I , I get so jealous. I guess its normal, Everything is the new "normal". I'm not too thrilled with that. I keep…"
Oct 9
Hopesmom replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
" HI, Janet from Apple Valley, California."
Oct 9
Hopesmom replied to Miss Em (Emma)'s discussion Other people's wedding anniversaries
"When I see couples our age together I actually get jealous that they get to have each other and I'm all alone. Life is so unfair. I hope they appreciate each other. Lotsa love and hope to you. Janet"
Oct 9
Hopesmom replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushy, boy can I relate to how you feel. I was in such a fog and I never thought I would stop crying. I did allow myself the space to cry and reflect. I "talk" to Mike alot, I used to write him love notes and I still do. It has been 9…"
Oct 9
Callie2 replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"Athena—gratitude is how I felt and still feel after a number of years. Love is all we really have that is truly worth anything! It is a gift not enjoyed by everyone, so having experienced it, I am grateful. I admire the way you keep going,…"
Sep 22
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"The question of a 2nd widowhood cannot be answered till it's lived. Those who choose to marry a terminally ill person know their spouse will die. What is thought of any time after nuptials is one 's spouse will die at some time later,…"
Sep 22
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"The question of a 2nd widowhood cannot be answered till it's lived. Those who choose to marry a terminally ill person know their spouse will die. What is thought of any time after nuptials is one 's spouse will die at some time later,…"
Sep 22
Athena53 replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"I certainly feel that way.  I'm 65 so odds are that could happen sooner rather than later with a new man.  I'm just dipping my toe in now, almost two years out- have gone on 3 match.com dates,  No fireworks yet, but not bad,…"
Sep 21
Frank replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"It's been 6 years now for me.  One of the things Susan and I discussed was what the survivor should do.  We each told the other that they should go out and continue to life life to the fullest. Get remarried.  At first nothing…"
Sep 21
Hopesmom replied to Jwick's discussion I don't understand.
"Fortunately I haven't had to deal with anyone like that. My husband and I had each been married twice by the time we met. And I think everyone thought that we both had finally found the right person. We didn't really argue, I always said…"
Sep 17
Hopesmom replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"You are very right. I know when I first met Mike and realized that there was something there, all bets were off. I would love to be blindsided by love like that again. "
Sep 17
Callie2 replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"Hi Hopesmom, This might be one of the first thoughts when contemplating the direction of our lives alone. When you reach the point when you are no longer grieving, then you can decide. If you find someone and you have a chance for happiness,…"
Sep 17
booktime (Susan) replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"I think that's normal, whatever normal means! But you might be a little too vulnerable now. Maybe when fear turns to acceptance is an indicator. The truth is getting involved with someone means there is a 50% chance he will die before you. Hard…"
Sep 17
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So heres something I think about, My husband has been gone alomost a year. And although I haven't reached the wanting to date anyone phase I wonder what to do about the fact that I'm scared to meet someone that I really like, start getting involved and they die on me. I don't know if I can go through that again. Is it normal to be afraid to put my heart out there again only to have it shredded again?See More
Sep 16
Hopesmom replied to Hopesmom's discussion help
"I have a question, I'm not ready to date yet but I'm really afraid of meeting someone, getting involved, getting feelings and then opening my heart . Taking the risk at love and then this person dies! I don't know if I can ever move…"
Sep 16

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At 7:44am on August 26, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Hopesmom. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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