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Hopesmom
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Sep 22. 7 Replies

So heres something I think about, My husband has been gone alomost a year. And although I haven't reached the wanting to date anyone phase I wonder what to do about the fact that I'm scared to meet…Continue

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Started this discussion. Last reply by Hopesmom Sep 16. 4 Replies

I feel like i should be doing something but then again  I;m not sure if I;m readt toContinue

 

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Hopesmom replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion OK, I have to ask this....(true confession time)
"Hope, I could have written your statement. My husband was not "diagnosed" until a month before he passed. But for 5 or 6 years he did love me but he was mad all the time, mostly at me. He had resentment and animosity for me that had no…"
Nov 28
Hopesmom commented on only1sue's blog post Nobody loves me
"I feel like I could have written this. It's exactly how I feel."
Nov 15
Hopesmom replied to ricepop's discussion others have a family and husband to go home to, wheras i have none....
"I have plenty of life going on around me. My 2 sons and one with a wife and kids live here, but I'm still incredibly lonely.My son gets to climb into bed with his wife and I climb into a cold empty bed. He always says they're here for me…"
Oct 31
Hopesmom replied to catapan's discussion I’m so hurt
"I'm sorry for your loss. I kinda take it as this, when we lose our spouse part of our life just stops right there, but for our friends it doesn't. They still love and care, they just have to continue on with their lives.Try not to take it…"
Oct 29
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"I have trouble remembering stupid silly stuff. I'm usually pretty sharp, but with the axis of my life being thrown off kilter I hear this is normal so I don't worry about it. I just has all of my labs and stuff done and there's…"
Oct 24
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"I have trouble remembering stupid silly stuff. I'm usually pretty sharp, but with the axis of my life being thrown off kilter I hear this is normal so I don't worry about it. I just has all of my labs and stuff done and there's…"
Oct 24
Hopesmom replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Losing my home.
"I'm kinda in the same situation. We had been living in our 5th wheel for almost 3 years in a friends back yard. So buying this house was our new hope for the future and a new start. We had lots of hopes and dreams that are all now gone. This…"
Oct 23
Hopesmom replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Losing my home.
"We moved into our house only 11 days before Mike was diagnosed. It's been 9 months and I'm now probably going to lose it . I don't get enough money from my VA widow pension. I'm not looking forward to having to move, but…"
Oct 23
Hopesmom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unmarried Widows & Widowers
"This is my first time on this group. I lost my husband of 23 years suddenly in January of 2018. He had been sick,and wouldn't go to the doctor because we were right in the middle of buying a house. So shortly after we moved in I finally told…"
Oct 20
Hopesmom replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Does anyone actively journal?
"I started journaling when I was in rehab in 2010, for my alcoholism, and I have done it ever since. It helps me alot to be able to put my thoughts down on paper. And yes sometimes it starts to turn to me writing to Mike. I will usually stop my…"
Oct 20
Hopesmom replied to Luv4Z's discussion Crying in the front lawn
"I never thought I could cry so many tears as I have. I have a few of our kids here and they have helped me with so much of the decision making that had to be done. Even though they were grieving as much as I, they have been a huge help to me. I have…"
Oct 18
Hopesmom replied to Angela's discussion Sudden loss
"HI I'm Janet. I totally get the envy you feel, Every time I see a couple about the same age as my husband Mike and I , I get so jealous. I guess its normal, Everything is the new "normal". I'm not too thrilled with that. I keep…"
Oct 9
Hopesmom replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
" HI, Janet from Apple Valley, California."
Oct 9
Hopesmom replied to Miss Em (Emma)'s discussion Other people's wedding anniversaries
"When I see couples our age together I actually get jealous that they get to have each other and I'm all alone. Life is so unfair. I hope they appreciate each other. Lotsa love and hope to you. Janet"
Oct 9
Hopesmom replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushy, boy can I relate to how you feel. I was in such a fog and I never thought I would stop crying. I did allow myself the space to cry and reflect. I "talk" to Mike alot, I used to write him love notes and I still do. It has been 9…"
Oct 9
Callie2 replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"Athena—gratitude is how I felt and still feel after a number of years. Love is all we really have that is truly worth anything! It is a gift not enjoyed by everyone, so having experienced it, I am grateful. I admire the way you keep going,…"
Sep 22

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At 7:44am on August 26, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Hopesmom. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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