"Hi Doochee - It is good that you are here - although sad that you must be. I hope that you read our stories and posts and when you want, to post yourself. What you have been thru, the loss of a spouse is terrible. At 3 months I was in a state of fog…"
"Carol, I would like to offer you some thoughts on seeing his face. I totally get it. For my son who did CPR on my wife, his mom it's like that. He couldn't get the image out of his mind. A friend told me that it was important to tell the…"
"Hi James T - It really is hard. For me it's been 2 years and 3 months since my wife died. Even though you are still in a fog, you are progressing as you need to through the grief process. Don't push the fog away if you don't have to…"
"Steph1202 - My condolences. The fog is there to protect you. If you don't have to, let it be. Eventually, the fog will lift but not now. Focus on being there for your kids. The feeling of guilt is normal and understandable. I have felt the same…"
"Dear James T, first of all, my condolences. It sucks that you have joined our group. Nonetheless, it is good that you are here. My wife passed away very suddenly and unexpected on our kitchen floor. Our young adult kids were there and did CPR.…"
"Mareli, It is good that you have found us. Like HelensRay says, use this site to express your thoughts. You may have to ask your friends and family members for help with specific things. All of us have experienced, to some degree, the fact that our…"
"HelensRay I might add something to your theme of letting it out. One of my friends, who is a psychologist, advised me that I should tell the story of Tam's death and life at least 300 times. I don't know why exactly but I know that it has…"
"Greg, my condolences. It is good that you have found us. Please read what we've written and share what you want. There have been many times where the writings of fellow widowers has helped. Reach out to your community for help. Tell them what…"
"Lirvie, I totally get what you are saying. No, there is no excuse for what your drunk friend said. One of the greatest (as in large and awful) is that I have to let stupid comments roll off my back. It is good that you are at WV. We all totally get…"
"Early on my experience of grief was described this way: I would be on the surface of the ocean peacefully floating. Then, without warning, I'd be at the bottom of the ocean floor being dragged across jagged rocks. Moments (or hours) later…"
"Hello Denverkim, You are in a good place here. We've all experienced a terrible grief and I've found it to be very helpful to post and read. You are early in the experience. If you are experiencing a fog in your mind, I encourage you to…"
"Dear H2017, No need to apologize for "rambling" - although I didn't think you were doing so. Condolences. It is good that you are here because although each circumstance is different, we've all lost someone important to us and we…"
"Sosammy, my condolences. It is good that you have found us. Read thru what we have said and please feel free to share what you wish. Our journeys are unique but we understand and will not judge you. Please take care of yourself."
"Hello MidnightBear, First of all, condolences. What you have experienced is terrible. I recall the fog in the first while after the love of my life had a attack of some kind as she got ready for work. Our children did CPR. She was simply gone.…"
"Hello Siouxieg - my condolences. You are in the right spot here and I'm glad you reached out to us. You say you feel numb and that your advocacy for your young kids is making your grief get lost. These are normal feelings. The numbness I…"
Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.