"Dear debbiejerry1, like you, I lost my spouse (Tam) after having been together since we were young. It was sudden, unexpected and awful. After more than a year and half, I still cry and get pretty down. Reading the stories from others who have been…"
"Averysmom, what you are feeling is totally normal (and of course terrible). My brother, who was also a widower, said it this way: A couple is more than just two, there are the two but there is also a third entity, the relationship. What I…"
It is good that you found us; bad that you had too. Your grief is very new and what you are feeling is totally normal and reasonable. I'm at 1.5 years since the passing of my young wife (she was 50). It still hurts and I still get…"
"Hi KMA - Yes. I've noticed that too. People think after a year you should start getting over it. They have no idea. There are many days I just don't want to do anything but sit and stare out the window. Spring is hard for me because my…"
This is a good place to be - though it is sad that we are here. My wife died in October of 2015 from heart failure. It was sudden and unexpected. Read our stories and contribute when you can. Some of the peace I've found since…"
"Our honeymoon was idyllic. Spent time in London, Windsor Glastonbury, Bath, the Cotswolds, Canterbury, Dover, and Worthing. We had a great life together and I miss her everyday. I'm always thankful for her. I talk to her and appreciate all the…"
"Dear Alone, you are in a safe place here. We all get it because we've experienced terrible grief. My wife and I were together for 32 years as well. Early on in my grief process my brother, also a widower (though since remarried), told me this:…"
"Angela, all of your feelings just expressed are ones many of us have experienced. I'm glad you came here to say what you did. As much as you can, stay focused on the present and don't worry about the future. Love your children and be there…"
"Hope - Yes. I feel this frequently. It's been 18 months and yes I am still in shock, and as you say, "I can't believe how life turned upside down in a matter of minutes." The alone part is really terrible. Keep hanging in there.…"
"My new Life - I'm sorry for the reason you are here but it is good that you have found us. Many of us are further out than you. Come here and read and write when you want. There is no judgement. I remember life at 2 months out. I felt (and…"
"Angela, my condolences. It's been almost a year and half for me. Two weeks ago...my friend you are so early on that right now your mind is probably very foggy. This is a good thing. Don't push it away. The pain in the beginning is…"
"Jorja88 - Excellent points. Thanks for sharing them. (I think that most of the action is on the introduce yourself thread). Coincidentally, my daughter (who did CPR on her mom, my wife) came home and shared some strikingly similar thoughts as yours.…"
Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
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