"Dear Lost Izzie, I offer my condolences. Even though you have seen the passing of people in your line of work, I'm sure you are in a fog right now. If you are and if you don't have to, don't push it away. Looking back on the first…"
"EllenJ - My condolences. Although your reason for joining is terrible, know that this is a good forum for expressing yourself and for finding an online community of people who are on very similar paths. My wife died suddenly about 2.5 years ago.…"
"GracieB, My condolences. Friends saying... That really gets me. I've had some say the stupidest things. I try to forgive them because they have no idea. 30 years, for us it was about the same length. The actual number of years doesn't…"
"Hi Mike, I'm sorry that you are here, but it's a good place to be. I have no problem describing the loss of your beloved as sudden. You are very new to the grief process. Let us know how we can help. You can rant and ask questions all you…"
"Hi Doochee - It is good that you are here - although sad that you must be. I hope that you read our stories and posts and when you want, to post yourself. What you have been thru, the loss of a spouse is terrible. At 3 months I was in a state of fog…"
"Carol, I would like to offer you some thoughts on seeing his face. I totally get it. For my son who did CPR on my wife, his mom it's like that. He couldn't get the image out of his mind. A friend told me that it was important to tell the…"
"Hi James T - It really is hard. For me it's been 2 years and 3 months since my wife died. Even though you are still in a fog, you are progressing as you need to through the grief process. Don't push the fog away if you don't have to…"
"Steph1202 - My condolences. The fog is there to protect you. If you don't have to, let it be. Eventually, the fog will lift but not now. Focus on being there for your kids. The feeling of guilt is normal and understandable. I have felt the same…"
"Dear James T, first of all, my condolences. It sucks that you have joined our group. Nonetheless, it is good that you are here. My wife passed away very suddenly and unexpected on our kitchen floor. Our young adult kids were there and did CPR.…"
"Mareli, It is good that you have found us. Like HelensRay says, use this site to express your thoughts. You may have to ask your friends and family members for help with specific things. All of us have experienced, to some degree, the fact that our…"
"HelensRay I might add something to your theme of letting it out. One of my friends, who is a psychologist, advised me that I should tell the story of Tam's death and life at least 300 times. I don't know why exactly but I know that it has…"
"Greg, my condolences. It is good that you have found us. Please read what we've written and share what you want. There have been many times where the writings of fellow widowers has helped. Reach out to your community for help. Tell them what…"
"Lirvie, I totally get what you are saying. No, there is no excuse for what your drunk friend said. One of the greatest (as in large and awful) is that I have to let stupid comments roll off my back. It is good that you are at WV. We all totally get…"
Welcome to Widville. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.