"Rainy, the words you wrote, "I don't see how any of us would live through this if our brains allowed the full brute force of grief to hit us all at once." These are so true. I think, as you do, that our brains are protecting us. In…"
"Shelley thanks for sharing that. I recently visited NYC (alone). Seeing the pools of water at the site of the world trade center towers was a moving experience for a number of reason, not the least of which was that those black pools with a huge,…"
"Shelley, sadly I think that is the way it goes. It's been 2.5 years for me since my wife passed. I miss her every single moment of the day. I'm constantly reminded that she's not here; it's like a big dark chasm that is open…"
"Dear Redwidow, my condolences. It is very good that you have found the WV. I hope that you find peace and helpful, understanding thoughts here. You are very new to this journey that we are all on. It is very hard. If you are experiencing a fog right…"
"PJE, I'm glad that you found WV. Sharing your story will help others and I hope that it also helps you. My wife died suddenly of a heart issue 2.5 years ago. As you say, true heart break. Please share what you feel comfortable sharing and read…"
"Dear Lost Izzie, I offer my condolences. Even though you have seen the passing of people in your line of work, I'm sure you are in a fog right now. If you are and if you don't have to, don't push it away. Looking back on the first…"
"EllenJ - My condolences. Although your reason for joining is terrible, know that this is a good forum for expressing yourself and for finding an online community of people who are on very similar paths. My wife died suddenly about 2.5 years ago.…"
"GracieB, My condolences. Friends saying... That really gets me. I've had some say the stupidest things. I try to forgive them because they have no idea. 30 years, for us it was about the same length. The actual number of years doesn't…"
"Hi Mike, I'm sorry that you are here, but it's a good place to be. I have no problem describing the loss of your beloved as sudden. You are very new to the grief process. Let us know how we can help. You can rant and ask questions all you…"
"Hi Doochee - It is good that you are here - although sad that you must be. I hope that you read our stories and posts and when you want, to post yourself. What you have been thru, the loss of a spouse is terrible. At 3 months I was in a state of fog…"
"Carol, I would like to offer you some thoughts on seeing his face. I totally get it. For my son who did CPR on my wife, his mom it's like that. He couldn't get the image out of his mind. A friend told me that it was important to tell the…"
"Hi James T - It really is hard. For me it's been 2 years and 3 months since my wife died. Even though you are still in a fog, you are progressing as you need to through the grief process. Don't push the fog away if you don't have to…"
"Steph1202 - My condolences. The fog is there to protect you. If you don't have to, let it be. Eventually, the fog will lift but not now. Focus on being there for your kids. The feeling of guilt is normal and understandable. I have felt the same…"
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