"I am soooo sorry. OMG I can feel your pain! That first year is AWFUL.
It’s OK to wander around lost.
It’s OK to break down into sobbing, soul wrenching tears.
Its OK to feel like you are crazy. To hear his voice…"
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Our Why of Life - character Odd Thomas, Dean Koontz
Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Dec 2, 2018. 2 Replies 1 Like
I haven't visited here in some time. When I found this online, I cannot remember where. It seemed so comforting to me. reading it over and over again is helping me understand what is slowly happening…Continue
What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 6, 2018. 10 Replies 0 Likes
My counselor and husband's cardiologist (I stay connected with him because of his compassion for my husband over the years) identified what I described as "anxiety attacks."I added time to my morning…Continue
request for prayers and positive energy for ANC final services
Started this discussion. Last reply by InsideLove Mar 1, 2018. 5 Replies 0 Likes
This Wed, Feb 28, at 2 pm, is the first date Arlington National Cemetery gave me for his full military service, and I took it. Otherwise holding on to his ashes until March or April seemed…Continue
Ever heard of "continuing bonds?"
Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 1, 2018. 6 Replies 0 Likes
I've been emailing with a friend I've made here about such a thing, a continuing bond. She calls it integrating the life loved, with the life we are now given. I'm working on my place in my heart…Continue
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Gwamma replied to InsideLove's discussion Unfortunately finding myself here in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Beautiful song. "Something you get through." My grief counselor told me on day one of seeing her (her husband died at 47 years of marriage too): "You won't get over it, you won't get through; but someday somehow you will…"
InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am so sorry for your loss, andy61453. My husband of 47 years died suddenly, unexpectedly, 3 days after his 69th birthday. In connecting with widows/widowers here and in my community, time in a relationship doesn't mean the pain can be easier…"
Rainy (Misty) replied to InsideLove's discussion Our Why of Life - character Odd Thomas, Dean Koontz
"I needed to re-read that today! Thank you Inside!"
Flower replied to InsideLove's discussion Our Why of Life - character Odd Thomas, Dean Koontz
"Thank you for sharing that, I agree that the best way to honor our loved ones is to keep trying to live our lives with a purpose. It’s really hard and some days just getting up and showing up is a victory."
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Our Why of Life - character Odd Thomas, Dean Koontz
I haven't visited here in some time. When I found this online, I cannot remember where. It seemed so comforting to me. reading it over and over again is helping me understand what is slowly happening to me. It's bringing more meaning to what my grief counselor told me in just Sept 2017: "You won't get over this. You won't go through it. But somehow, ever so slowly, you will learn to live with it and it will soften over time.""Grief can destroy you - or focus you. You can decide a relationship…See More
InsideLove commented on TamiK's blog post Too much sadness
"Tami, I am so sorry for your losses. My experience is with multiple losses in just 10 months.
Nov 2016, first my dad, 92, fell and broke his femur bone. He never recovered and died within 2 months of hospitalization and rehab. Except for my…"
Noelene T replied to InsideLove's discussion Unfortunately finding myself here in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I know what you mean. Just sittting here reading these posts i am in floods of tears. The evenings are the worst as i can manage to keep busy in the daytime. I yearn for him with all my heart and soul and don’t think i will ever get over…"
Navywife0219 replied to InsideLove's discussion What kind of feelings from Arlington National Cemetery service? in the group Military Families
"My husband passed away early January of this year and having served proudly and honorably in our U.S. Navy, his wishes were to be buried at Arlington National Cemetery. I knew that we would have to wait several months and finally I was…"
InsideLove commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"shelley, IBelieveInYou, Melissa. Thank you for this discussion. I already planned to bring it up with my counselor next week. I'm 7 months 2 weeks into my husband of 47 years dying. My dad died 6 months before him and my mom just 2 weeks after…"
SweetMelissa2007 replied to InsideLove's discussion What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
"Acupuncture, also ...
Many people complain it's not helpful or they don't feel anything - that's the time when a better practioner needs to be found!
This was very relaxing, relieved anxiety as well as kept me from continually…"
InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"RogueFour I am following this thread and want to THANK YOU for letting me see hope in your reply to RedWidow. I'm just 7 months into it and look for hope, so I can keep trusting God, in this season of my life. Thank you."
InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am so sorry for your loss nayajivan. As a few have said, you are so early in your loss. And we each are going to mourn and grieve differently. For me even 7 months and a week into this season of life, the anguish, anxiety, broken heart is so…"
InsideLove replied to kenslove 's discussion No music for us
"This was for certain, a God Wink to me about 4 weeks after Marty died. I took his Jeep to the dealer for something and I had his favorite radio station on. I heard the very last minute of it with a man singing the last few sentences:
So don't…"
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A man of many faces and passions
Now I've created 1 photo blanket for evenings on my sofa, and another on my bed, both with all photos my Marty. Helps me be less anxious. At least in those 2 places.
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
"Ma_Megabyte I love what you've made your body pillow! I often reach over to Marty's pillow just to rubs my hands all over it.
Over at collage.com I created a sherpa photo blanket with some of the many faces of my husband. I do…"
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- At 6:31am on November 9, 2017,
NancyD said… Yup, that's me!
- At 7:18pm on October 14, 2017,
judy said…
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