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What are your thoughts - which color for new car?

Started this discussion. Last reply by InsideLove 11 hours ago. 6 Replies

While I know you don't know me well, I do know, you know grief. I'm in my 5th month of saying goodbye to my husband Marty, after 47 years marriage, and know he's in heaven Yet, I cannot always hear…Continue

Is anyone a Marianne Williamson fan?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dianne in Nevada Nov 26, 2017. 7 Replies

I know she doesn't resonate with all people. I heard her speak in person a few years ago, in an open forum, nothing scripted. I've been on her email list but never participated in any of her events.…Continue

Is morning or night worst for you? How do you get through it?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Susan yesterday. 34 Replies

I'm telling myself, "it's only been 2 months and you were married 47 years, loved him for 49" so as other people tell me, it's all so raw. First, that word RAW is awful although I better understand…Continue

Maybe you have a book suggestion for new wid? Is one enough?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Susan Nov 5, 2017. 10 Replies

Intuitively I knew there was something not right for me with the five stages of grieving. Come to find out in a book I am NOW reading (it was just released) the reason there is such a disconnect for…Continue

 

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InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Steph1202 I am so sorry for such a loss. I really don’t know what to say. I’m only 4 months 18 days into this. My husband of 47 years died suddenly and unexpectedly after routine hip surgery. It was devastating and I was in shock. Two…"
11 hours ago
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion What are your thoughts - which color for new car?
"Callie2 I don’t see much flexibility in the whole process. Pick a color and move on. Seems that is where I’m at. Thanks"
11 hours ago
Callie2 replied to InsideLove's discussion What are your thoughts - which color for new car?
"Your loss is still so recent, I understand how making decisions can be very hard. Dealing with grief made me feel insecure, uncertain and confused much of the time. I would try to think what would he do, what would he like, etc.  It takes a…"
16 hours ago
Susan replied to InsideLove's discussion Is morning or night worst for you? How do you get through it?
"Hi Rainy!     That's about right. They are " Essentials". I feel anxious if I don't have my phone etc. with me. Sometimes I feel as though my life is within in my phone... :Pictures, recordings of Paul's voice…"
yesterday
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion What are your thoughts - which color for new car?
"Rainy I wish I could wait. The lease ends in June. I always buy a new car (we each did) and it takes 3 months to get a new one so, I don't have a lot of time to find ME. I wish I had that luxury.  You do say something that helps though -…"
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Rainy replied to InsideLove's discussion What are your thoughts - which color for new car?
"Inside, my suggestion it's going to be what you want to hear but I suggest holding off on picking out a new car for a little bit longer.  I mean, you don't have to pick out something Marty would love.  You matter too, you are…"
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InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion What are your thoughts - which color for new car?
"Thank you Patrick. Yes, useful. "
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Patrick replied to InsideLove's discussion What are your thoughts - which color for new car?
"It's sensible to avoid triggers that ambush you when you're driving, but when you're in a safe environment triggers can also be useful for managing your grief. I used to seek triggers out so that I could sit with them sobbing until…"
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What are your thoughts - which color for new car?

While I know you don't know me well, I do know, you know grief. I'm in my 5th month of saying goodbye to my husband Marty, after 47 years marriage, and know he's in heaven Yet, I cannot always hear him or God.Marty always was excited when it came to buy a new car. He was always so much more decisive and I counted on him for that. I even know which model he wanted me to get next because we weren't in agreement. I'd told him, we'd have to compromise on next one. His selection would have been…See More
Monday
InsideLove replied to Mike's discussion Struggling to get by. in the group Widowed in 2017
"Mike I am so sorry. My husband of 47 years went to heaven Aug 28. I’m not one who can yet say it’ll get easier but I have learned it does from many. This is a wonderfully supportive community. I’ve met only people who know the…"
Monday
InsideLove replied to Rainy's discussion Unfinished plans and a watchdog.
"Rainy I love your hopefulness. I also hope I'll hear God's whisper. Like you and Jerry, Marty and I had so many travel plans -  San Juan Island,  Leavenworth, Ookanoggin Highlands - all in the Seattle or Washington area. Our son…"
Sunday
InsideLove replied to Rainy's discussion Unfinished plans and a watchdog.
"Rainy I do hope I develop wanderlust. Marty and I traveled the world. Both when he served in the Air Force and then when he became an entrepreneur. In just 2013 we said Yes to a timeshare. Now I don't see HOW I can travel without him. We were…"
Sunday
Rainy replied to InsideLove's discussion Is morning or night worst for you? How do you get through it?
"Susan, I to go to bed armed with all my essentials.  Even the dog and I hated it when Jerry would decide to put her in bed with us.  I never liked sharing him with her, I guess.  HA HA  I have turned his pillow long ways and keep…"
Friday
Rainy replied to InsideLove's discussion Is morning or night worst for you? How do you get through it?
"Thanks InsideLove.  I also find myself praying in the mornings.  I've always prayed in the evenings and was to rushed in the morning to take the time.  Well, most mornings.  I find myself praying morning and night and in…"
Friday
Susan replied to InsideLove's discussion Is morning or night worst for you? How do you get through it?
"Hi Rainy,     My mornings aren't as bad as they use to be any more. But nights are slightly different.  I now put my ipad, phone and glasses on his pillow... Because I KNOW I'll be grabbing them in the middle of the night to…"
Friday
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion Unfortunately finding myself here in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Jan I am so sorry for your loss. It's losing so many parts of me that he was. I think my last list count was about 27 things, and of course I'm sure I've missed more than that. It IS a huge loss in my life, and I know you know. Thank…"
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At 6:31am on November 9, 2017, NancyD said…

Yup, that's me!

At 7:18pm on October 14, 2017, judy said…

Hi InsideLove,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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