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What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 6. 10 Replies

My counselor and husband's cardiologist (I stay connected with him because of his compassion for my husband over the years) identified what I described as "anxiety attacks."I added time to my morning…Continue

request for prayers and positive energy for ANC final services

Started this discussion. Last reply by InsideLove Mar 1. 5 Replies

This Wed, Feb 28, at 2 pm, is the first date Arlington National Cemetery gave me for his full military service, and I took it. Otherwise holding on to his ashes until March or April seemed…Continue

Ever heard of "continuing bonds?"

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 1. 6 Replies

I've been emailing with a friend I've made here about such a thing, a continuing bond. She calls it integrating the life loved, with the life we are now given. I'm working on my place in my heart…Continue

Do you meditate to help yourself walk with grief?

Started Feb 18 0 Replies

I meditate daily, Christian meditation, so this seminar grabbed my attention. I thought someone might have interest in this?I sat in on it last week: Transform Your Life After Loss With…Continue

 

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Navywife0219 replied to InsideLove's discussion What kind of feelings from Arlington National Cemetery service? in the group Military Families
"My husband passed away early January of this year and having served proudly and honorably in our U.S. Navy, his wishes were to be buried at Arlington National Cemetery.  I knew that we would have to wait several months and finally I was…"
Sep 5
InsideLove commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"shelley, IBelieveInYou, Melissa. Thank you for this discussion. I already planned to bring it up with my counselor next week. I'm 7 months 2 weeks into my husband of 47 years dying. My dad died 6 months before him and my mom just 2 weeks after…"
Apr 13
SweetMelissa2007 replied to InsideLove's discussion What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
"Acupuncture, also ... Many people complain it's not helpful or they don't feel anything - that's the time when a better practioner needs to be found! This was very relaxing, relieved anxiety as well as kept me from continually…"
Apr 6
InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"RogueFour I am following this thread and want to THANK YOU for letting me see hope in your reply to RedWidow. I'm just 7 months into it and look for hope, so I can keep trusting God, in this season of my life. Thank you."
Apr 4
InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am so sorry for your loss nayajivan. As a few have said, you are so early in your loss. And we each are going to mourn and grieve differently. For me even 7 months and a week into this season of life, the anguish, anxiety, broken heart is so…"
Apr 3
InsideLove replied to kenslove 's discussion No music for us
"This was for certain, a God Wink to me about 4 weeks after Marty died. I took his Jeep to the dealer for something and I had his favorite radio station on. I heard the very last minute of it with a man singing the last few sentences: So don't…"
Apr 2
InsideLove posted a photo

A man of many faces and passions

Now I've created 1 photo blanket for evenings on my sofa, and another on my bed, both with all photos my Marty. Helps me be less anxious. At least in those 2 places.
Apr 2
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
"Ma_Megabyte I love what you've made your body pillow! I often reach over to Marty's pillow just to rubs my hands all over it.  Over at collage.com I created a sherpa photo blanket with some of the many faces of my husband.  I do…"
Apr 2
InsideLove replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"RedWidow, I am so sorry we meet. Here. I find this season of my life, an incredible, heartbreaking, gut-wrenching, brain taxing, time. When I visit WV, For me, this is a place of so much understanding, as we've all lost our best friend. My…"
Apr 2
SweetMelissa2007 replied to InsideLove's discussion Ever heard of "continuing bonds?"
"Good for you ... The hardest part of grief is allowing it to process naturally. Keeping busy is not grief work nor are attempts to interfere &/or change it. Building strong beliefs in one yourself or religion or anything that resonates w/self…"
Apr 1
SweetMelissa2007 replied to InsideLove's discussion What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
"Very welcome ... Anxiety attacks caused by trauma does not heal on its own - PTSD develops if it's not cared for properly. Talk therapy w/a mental health worker can provide relief from pent up emotions & the need talk, however if any trauma…"
Apr 1
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion Ever heard of "continuing bonds?"
"OMG Springlight! Thank you so much for this insight."
Apr 1
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion Ever heard of "continuing bonds?"
"SweetMelissa2007, my counselor says something similar to you say, "Any moving on a person does is accompanied w/grief... She too lost her husband at 47 years of marriage and I trust so much of what she says. "You don't get over…"
Apr 1
SweetMelissa2007 replied to InsideLove's discussion Ever heard of "continuing bonds?"
"If it helps, that's great ... For myself, I kept everything in place to desensitize their effect on me to continue moving forward in grief. The triggers subsided, then completely ended ..."
Apr 1
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
"barbee thanks for the reminder of being more forgiving of myself. I pray for trust, patience and joy to come every day."
Apr 1
InsideLove replied to InsideLove's discussion What else have you found to help with anxiety/attacks, if you have/had them?
"SweetMelissa2007 I will ask both my counselor, and new psychiatrist about EMDR Therapy for trauma. Thank YOU."
Apr 1

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At 6:31am on November 9, 2017, NancyD said…

Yup, that's me!

At 7:18pm on October 14, 2017, judy said…

Hi InsideLove,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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