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JUDY1951
  • Female
  • Escondido, CA
  • United States
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JUDY1951 replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"I lost my husband 4 years ago and we have lived in our home for 31 years. Our sons and grandchildren grew up here and feel they would be devastated if I moved. This home has been a safe haven for all of us. I have 3 acres but am in Southern Calif so…"
Aug 22
JUDY1951 replied to Rich's discussion Until Death do us part.....not really
"It has been a little over 4 years for me and I agree, together till the end of time. Lonely, sure, but I as well talk in my mind to my husband all the time, he was my rock and soul mate.My life will never be "normal" after spending over…"
Aug 4
JUDY1951 replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"Yes, without a doubt. 2nd marriage for both of us and 32 +, he was my soulmate and gave me the best years of my life."
Aug 3
JUDY1951 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"When my husband was in the hospital is hands had become swollen and they had to remove his ring. On previous occasions this  had happened before. We had plain gold matching bands and I always put his under mine for safe keeping. It has been…"
Aug 3
JUDY1951 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Hi, I live in Escondido."
Aug 1
JUDY1951 replied to desare's discussion what to say to people who tell you how to handle things.IM STUCK.
"I too am a "loner" only spent time with my husband and sons and grandchildren. Being your first year is very hard, so don't beat yourself up, and others although trying to help, well until they walk in your shoes have no idea what you…"
Jun 20
JUDY1951 replied to Susan's discussion First Time Grandma without Grandpa ?
"My husband and I together had 22 grandchildren. Two were born after he died, but I know my sons will keep his memories alive for  them. He was a terrific Grandpa and all the kids still share special memories of him which is heartwarming. It…"
Jun 20
JUDY1951 replied to Anna's discussion Are you able to read a book?
"My husband and I were both readers and loved thrillers, mysteries. After 4 years I still look forward to crawling in bed and reading a good book. That is one part of my life that has not changed. Found it helpful too to be so involved in a good…"
Jun 20
JUDY1951 replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I was 61 and he was 67. He was my rock so being on my own as been a shock but after 4 years am coping better and know this is what he would want. I have 5 sons but have found after time they expect you to move on and don;t understand when you spend…"
Jun 20
JUDY1951 replied to NoLongerInBergenJC's discussion Discussion thread -- for those who had to "pull the plug"
"After 5 weeks in the hospital my husband was recovering nicely. One Friday morning walked in his room ( was their 12 hours a day for 5 weeks) I was told he had Sepsis and organ failure. They had perforated his colon the week before but said…"
Jun 20
JUDY1951 replied to Dan's discussion Anxiety / Panic attacks
"Imogen, your reply was "spot on". It is nobody's business how you cope with your grief. After 4 years also I finally accepted the alone part and have found my myself a little harder now too. My adult kids are still struggling with…"
Jun 20
JUDY1951 replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"Sure wish I could go but am having guests arriving 8/11 -8/26, just my luck. Would have loved to meet other widows, converse and maybe have a little fun. Been 4 years but still feel belong no where. Anyway, hope everyone has a good time. Judy"
Jun 20
JUDY1951 replied to Rich's discussion What's the point?
"I think we all feel that way at times, but the importance is to not do it. Learning to cope day to day is difficult, painful, lonely and stressful. Been 4 years for me and am only looking for a little peace in my life as I know that is what I would…"
Jun 10
JUDY1951 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am Judy, lost my husband 3/8/13 due to a doctors error. He was hospitalized for an infection from a lung transplant ( was doing amazing) a feeding tube was put in and his colon was perforated, not diagnosed for 5 days and developed sepsis. He was…"
Jun 10
JUDY1951 replied to Hayley_A's discussion Where is everyone from?
"Southern Calif."
Jun 10
JUDY1951 replied to Dan's discussion Anxiety / Panic attacks
"Hello Dan, Panic attacks or PTSD, not sure which but I do take anti anxiety medication. It did help me keep calm during stressful and painful days. Been 4 years for me and finding a little peace despite a lot of family drama but just try to cope one…"
Jun 10

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i LOST THE LOVE OF MY LIFE AND SOUL MATE IN 2013. IT WAS OUR 2ND MARRIAGE OF 32 YEARS PLUS 2 BEFORE TOGETHER. WE WERE LIKE THE BRADY BUNCH HE HAD A SON AND DAUGHTER, i HAD 2 SONS AND WE HAD 2 SONS TOGETHER. WE WERE BOTH INTROVERTS, RAN A FAMILY BUSINESS FOR 31 YEARS, HAVE 21 GRANDCHILDREN, TOGETHER CONSTANTLY. AFTER ALMOST 4 YEARS STILL MISS HIM EVERYDAY, HE WAS MY ROCK. RUNNING THE BUSINESS, A MALPRACTICE CASE AND DEALING WITH ADULT CHILDREN ISSUES HAS BEEN HORRIFIC BUT AM DETERMINED TO FIND PEACE AND GRATEFULNESS THIS COMING YEAR AS I KNOW THAT IT WHAT MY HUSBAND WOULD TRULY WANT. AND AM TRULY SORRY FOR THOSE MEMBERS ON HERE WHO HAVE LOST THEIR LOVED ONES.

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At 4:28am on December 30, 2016, angioguy (Joe) said…

Hi Judy we lost our loves at the same time.  I moved to Carlsbad from San Clemente and trying to make my Connie proud by enjoying life.  I wish the same for you... Peace Joe

At 10:21pm on December 29, 2016, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, JUDY1951. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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