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Jere-Nine
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Jere-Nine replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Ford, I am sorry for your loss. I also lost my wife due to widely-metastatic breast cancer, also after a 5 year battle. We were initially told that it was a quite curable stage II cancer. Soon the recommended surgery, chemo and radiation, we were…"
Mar 22, 2016
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"Glad something I've said was helpful. I think that's what makes this such a wonderful place for us all. We can come here & know that others "get it" when we have a thought or feeling to share. The people here have been a God…"
Mar 6, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Bobmac, you  bring up a very good point.  I have been pondering that as grieving becomes the "new normal" (no surprise to any of us here), it becomes the only lifestyle we know now. To no fault of our own, inertia settles in.…"
Feb 17, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"BTW, I don't have TV (cable or otherwise)... Years ago when I broke up with a former girlfriend in college, I bought a TV & subscribed to cable to "fill the void".  Just as soon as I did, the first Gulf War broke out, and…"
Feb 16, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Brandy (& others), I know what you mean.  Recently I was asked to complete a questionaire for church. One of the questions was asking us - after answering certain personality-typing questions, to describe who we are.  I thought awhile,…"
Feb 16, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Hope. I can't say exactly why, but  your latest post is inspiring and (dare I say?), it radiates HOPE! I think you have a really great plan there.  Go for it, be intentional and committed to building a "new relationship with…"
Feb 16, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"That was the song at our wedding - which we had on a hilltop high above the Pacific Ocean, near Monterey California."
Feb 15, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Actually, the name of that Seekers song is "I'll never find another you"."
Feb 15, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I'm becoming a vegetable. Turn me over and water me. I can't stand how emotionally frozen I've become. Before Barb passed, there were times when I wished for me to be taken away instead of her.  It is no good being the one left…"
Feb 15, 2016
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for Jere-Nine
"Welcome to Widville, Jere-Nine. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask…"
Feb 15, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"You know, it's seeming like this site is one of the very few places I can go to get a strong dose of "real humanity". We aren't posers here and we aren't trying to impress, convince, convert or entertain anyone. We are just…"
Feb 15, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"A big flaw of mine is that I put out "partial thoughts".  I don't complete my thoughts, &/or I don't balance what I've said with the rest of the story. It's not an intentional thing. It's just that (so it…"
Feb 14, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Kathryn1 - I just read your post.  Though my circumstances are a bit different than yours, I feel exactly the same as you describe. Yes, I've had some family or (former) friends be abusive too. That stings.  The worst, for me, is…"
Feb 13, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"After reading some posts, and putting them together with my experiences and thoughts: It is an interesting commentary on life that many of us had gripes (minor or major) about our spouse while they were alive. Some of us experienced questioning our…"
Feb 13, 2016
Jere-Nine commented on only1sue's blog post Losing myself in a time warp
"It is good to read your story.  It makes me think, we all have our story. Our personal story is one, our married story is another (though they overlap).  I don't know where I'm going with this thought... the point I'm trying…"
Feb 13, 2016
SweetMelissa commented on Jere-Nine's blog post A Hazy Shade Of Winter
"I also posted this in Davidb's blog "Is this real?" ... The first year is about survival ... Expressing pain, disconnection, sorrow, loss of ones beloved ... This song may help put your loss into the words we struggle to find during…"
Feb 10, 2016

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A Hazy Shade Of Winter

Posted on February 7, 2016 at 9:30am 7 Comments

Barb died in September 2015.  But I didn't just lose my wife.  When she lost her life, I lost my own life too.  

Over-dramatic?  Not so much.

She WAS my life.  And not only her, but her family and friends.  Her conversations.  Her thoughts.  

Hey, now I really believe it where the Bible says "The Two Shall Be As One".  

I can't go to any of our former friends or her family and just call and talk or visit.  They have all moved on.  They were really close to Barb.…

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At 11:40am on March 6, 2016, going to make it said…
Glad something I've said was helpful. I think that's what makes this such a wonderful place for us all. We can come here & know that others "get it" when we have a thought or feeling to share.
The people here have been a God send for me.
At 8:37am on February 15, 2016, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Jere-Nine. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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