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Living Apart Together.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Patience Apr 4, 2014. 2 Replies

There was an article with about this today in my local paper,Newsday. It was about people that choose to be a couple but live apart. Mainly older widowed people,although some are divorced.The main…Continue

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Living Apart Together.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jerry Jun 22, 2013. 4 Replies

There was an article with about this today in my local paper,Newsday. It was about people that choose to be a couple but live apart. Mainly older widowed people,although some are divorced.The main…Continue

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People don't understand

Started this discussion. Last reply by eliana Jun 22, 2013. 4 Replies

On Saturday I went to one of my cousins children graduation celebration, a rather large party. During the party they brought out a birthday cake for one of my aunts whose birthday happened to be that…Continue

Is this crazy

Started this discussion. Last reply by Morgana (Janet) Jul 22, 2013. 60 Replies

     Just thinking today while in the dentsist chair, its been  27 months since my wife passed away, and I still  have all her clothes hanging where they were.  I havent moved anything that was hers…Continue


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At 4:20am on July 1, 2014, my roses said…

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Hi Jerry -  seen many of your posts on WV - but I saw one today that I wanted to ask you a bit more about.  You mentioned that you had a physical relationsip and then said to your friend that you were concerned about this because you could go to hell.  I am jsut 16 mths out from losing my Wes.  I met a man that my husband I knew for many years... recently I had a coffee and lunch with him.  He  was a widower  - he had lost his wife about 5 yrs ago and said he was attracted to me.  I wanted a friend but the issue of  physical relationships rose up.  I felt like you and gave him my bible to look at  (concordance page  re  sex before marriage) For I do not want to jeapardise my eternity with Wes . He said but you are not married anymore.  It has been quite a struggle...for him to understand.  Have you any thoughts or comments about this? ie. is this likely to be another stumbling block to a companionship?  I am open to meeting someone.. but have not heard anyone but you mention this Christian aspect of  finding a new relationship.   I gather that you did find another love more recently.  I just wonder if this issue will make a new relationship have even more problems. Any clues how to deal with this from a man's point of view? 

Thank  you for your response.  Many good wishes

At 7:18pm on July 6, 2013, babydoll23 said…
Thank you I will try
At 12:21pm on June 23, 2013, Angela said…

Thank you for adding me as a friend. I give you a lot of credit for going to the wedding. I won't even accept dinner invitations from friends. They invited me a few weeks ago and I refused because the last time we went out with them, my husband was with us.

At 6:08am on June 19, 2013, AD1970 said…

thank you Jerry for adding me as your friend

best wishes Andrew 

At 3:22pm on May 29, 2013, missincin (Dan) said…

Thanks Jerry; I will be talking to you on man site.

At 6:04pm on May 20, 2013, Tin_Woodman said…

Hi Jerry, thanks for "friending" me.  Cancer is rough indeed, for everyone.  Kathi will have been gone 3 years in August, and while the searing pain is gone, I still miss her every day.  I am learning to live with this "new reality" one day at a time.  Be good to yourself.


Best, Mike L.

At 5:49am on March 6, 2013, courtice said…

I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time Jerry, I hope that more time will help. My wife told me on the day of her "terminal" diagnosis just before Christmas, that I have her blessing to live life, take care of things, and that included meeting someone new, I'm still fairly young. It was difficult for me to here that, and only time can allow us to move on with our lives, everyone does it at their own pace. Just take it one step at a time.

At 3:04am on February 28, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…

I totally understand keeping busy or putting others before ourselves. We seem to evaluate everything now with open eyes and find reminders of what strengths our loves one saw in us that endured them to us but we never really thought a second about because we did what came natural to us. I believe I notice things and volunteer to assist more to feel some since of normalcy once again.

Stand Strong,Take Care!


At 3:24am on February 27, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…

Hi Jerry, thanks for the request. I'm sorry for your loss. Keep your eyes and heart open to the possibilities that you will find some comfort in talking with folks who know what you are dealing with. Look forward to chatting with you in the chat area.

Keep Smiling


At 11:08pm on January 29, 2013, Sleepless In Seattle ( Nancy ) said…
Hi Jerry! You can never have enough friends or support and people who "get it" after what we have all experienced! Hugs!

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