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People don't understand
Started this discussion. Last reply by mcmom27 Jun 5. 1 Reply 0 Likes
On Saturday I went to one of my cousins children graduation celebration, a rather large party. During the party they brought out a birthday cake for one of my aunts whose birthday happened to be that…Continue
Is this crazy
Started this discussion. Last reply by Jerry May 17, 2012. 31 Replies 0 Likes
Just thinking today while in the dentsist chair, its been 27 months since my wife passed away, and I still have all her clothes hanging where they were. I havent moved anything that was hers…Continue
Dating
Started this discussion. Last reply by srm541 Feb 16. 6 Replies 2 Likes
My wife passed away a little over 2years ago ,last summer I met a widow on a dating website. We hit it of and have been seeing each other since. The problems I am having are feelings of guilt when I…Continue
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Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
Jerry commented on Sabra's blog post The Widowhood Tree of Tangled Roots: Dating Ready
"This dating after losing a spouse is a real problem for me. I think for me it's down deep in my heart I don't think is the right thing to do, at least for me. I believe it up to the individual. The sex part became a problem, not so much…"
Jerry commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"Enjoying something for both of you I sounds like a great idea. It's hard to understand why things change between family members after someone passes way. I know for a while after my wife passed away my daughter was,always around, then things…"
Jerry replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"It's been three and a half years that my wife is gone and I still take things day by say.I busy working a few hours a day just to pass time and keep my mind sharp. There are still plenty of hours left in the day to think about how things should…"
Jerry commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"Jean,that's what the oncologist told us, cancer always wins. When the diagnosis of cancer first came about the doctor said it was a slow growing cancer, he had patients that had it 20 years.But it didnt turn out that way for my wife.18 months…"
Jerry replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"I sort of understand and feel the same way,although I have been dating . The lady I am dating is a widow, and she feels different then I do about this. I told her from the beginning I just wanted a friend. We hit it off good and have a lot in…"
Jerry replied to mimi's discussion What got into me today! Bought a new car!
"I know how you feel about cars. I have 2, both were used by my wife. One is 8 years old, hardly any miles on it. We went to the dealer and picked it out together. I hardly drive it. The other is 20 years old, I use it every day. I bought this for…"
Jerry commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"Hal, I understand how you feel. I I remember correctly there was a country song years ago called Why Me Lord, guess many of us feel like that at times. But as bad as this is,I read every day others have it worse.i don't know why but I am still…"
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Although the VA may be a great service to vets, my experience with my dad was devastating. He was in for a wound on his lower leg. I was visiting him one evening and he complained to me that his stomach hurt. I called the nurse and she came in…"
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"After seeing what went on in the hospital during one horrible episode of my wife medical experiences,I saw many mistakes made. She was in ICU for a month and I did meet some caring doctors and nurses,but also a few nasty ones. I can honestly say…"
Jerry commented on SkipM's blog post I am in Recovery
"I am glad I found this message, it makes me remember to think about the good times and try to forget the bad days."
Jerry replied to EvilDad's discussion I want a date. But I don't want a girlfriend.
"You seem to have had the same idea about dating as I do. I put that in my profile on Match.com. about 2 years ago. A nice widow contacted me and we meet for coffee. We hit it off well,and I have been seeing her since. The problem is she want to go…"
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People don't understand
On Saturday I went to one of my cousins children graduation celebration, a rather large party. During the party they brought out a birthday cake for one of my aunts whose birthday happened to be that day. As everyone began singing happy birthday she busted out crying. Not everyone at the party knew her,so,they may have thought they were tears of joy. The truth is her husband passed away almost 4 years ago and that is why she was crying.They were married 55 years and were a great couple. I talk…See More
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I think people just don't know what to say, they either don't stay anything, or say something stupid or hurtful to us. I don't hunk they do it intentionally,they just don't understand how it feels to lose a loved one.
As far as a…"
Jerry commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"No I am not that nuts.After my dad passed away my mom got rid of most of his clothes, but kept some things that she wouldn't part with. One was a sweater that she would wear in the house when she said she felt chilly, but probably put it on for…"
Jerry commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"After over 3 years there are times I don't think about my wife all the time,and I guess that's normal. But for some reason I can't seem to even think about getting rid off her clothes. Still have them hanging in the closet,and her…"
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- At 7:22pm on May 29, 2013,
missincin (Dan) said… Thanks Jerry; I will be talking to you on man site.
- At 10:04pm on May 20, 2013,
Tin_Woodman said…
Hi Jerry, thanks for "friending" me. Cancer is rough indeed, for everyone. Kathi will have been gone 3 years in August, and while the searing pain is gone, I still miss her every day. I am learning to live with this "new reality" one day at a time. Be good to yourself.
Best, Mike L.
- At 9:49am on March 6, 2013,
courtice said… I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time Jerry, I hope that more time will help. My wife told me on the day of her "terminal" diagnosis just before Christmas, that I have her blessing to live life, take care of things, and that included meeting someone new, I'm still fairly young. It was difficult for me to here that, and only time can allow us to move on with our lives, everyone does it at their own pace. Just take it one step at a time.
- At 7:04am on February 28, 2013,
LostCactus (WoodyC) said… I totally understand keeping busy or putting others before ourselves. We seem to evaluate everything now with open eyes and find reminders of what strengths our loves one saw in us that endured them to us but we never really thought a second about because we did what came natural to us. I believe I notice things and volunteer to assist more to feel some since of normalcy once again.
Stand Strong,Take Care!
Woody
- At 7:24am on February 27, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…
Hi Jerry, thanks for the request. I'm sorry for your loss. Keep your eyes and heart open to the possibilities that you will find some comfort in talking with folks who know what you are dealing with. Look forward to chatting with you in the chat area.
Keep Smiling
Woody
- At 3:08am on January 30, 2013,
Sleepless In Seattle ( Nancy ) said… - Hi Jerry! You can never have enough friends or support and people who "get it" after what we have all experienced! Hugs!
- At 2:30pm on December 16, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… Sending birthday wishes your way today, Jerry. Hope it's a good day for you.
- At 2:26pm on November 16, 2012,
avgypsy said… Looked up Mark 12:25 and I thank you so much for that information.
- At 2:19pm on November 16, 2012, avgypsy said…
Thanks Jerry for the friend request. I am delighted! Hugs!
- At 12:53pm on October 14, 2012,
Don A said… hi Jerry, thanks for he comments. i am just having a hard time remembering those good times right know. i just remember her going through all that and the last week.
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