"I have the same type feelings. It is over 3 years my wife is gone, and when I don't have her on my mind all the time I feel guilty. I have been dating a nice lady, a widow of five years.She seems to have moved on to a different place in her…"
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Is this crazy
Started this discussion. Last reply by Jerry May 17, 2012. 31 Replies 0 Likes
Just thinking today while in the dentsist chair, its been 27 months since my wife passed away, and I still have all her clothes hanging where they were. I havent moved anything that was hers…Continue
Dating
Started this discussion. Last reply by srm541 Feb 16. 6 Replies 2 Likes
My wife passed away a little over 2years ago ,last summer I met a widow on a dating website. We hit it of and have been seeing each other since. The problems I am having are feelings of guilt when I…Continue
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Tin_Woodman left a comment for Jerry
"Hi Jerry, thanks for "friending" me. Cancer is rough indeed, for everyone. Kathi will have been gone 3 years in August, and while the searing pain is gone, I still miss her every day. I am learning to live with this…"
Jerry is attending Patience (Diane)'s event
Wayne's One Year Angel Anniversary at New Jersey
May 20, 2013 from 6am to 11pm
It's been one year since my darling Wayne earned his angel wings. To honor him we are "Paying it forward for Wayne" If you'd like do something good for someone in need. Maybe walk an elderly gentleman across the street. Or call a friend with whom you've lost touch. Or maybe just smile at someone new that day. If you'd like , you can let me know about it. (I have to thank Kelley Lynn for this idea :) Hugs to all See More
Jerry commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"Well as far as on line dating,I did meet a nice lady on Match. Com. I had put my profile on and she contacted me. She is a widow and lives not far from me. I have been dating her over a year. She is not looking for anything, she seems to be fine…"
Jerry replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"I sure would go backup my role as caretaker to my wife, just wish she wasn't in pain. I did not at all mind taking her to her appointments or staying home with here. The hard part was her not wanting to eat. As far as living with another…"
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion For those who have dated... how did you know when you were ready?
"Hi Paul, about a year and a half after my wife passed away I signed up on Match.com . I put in my profile I was just looking for a friend to go,to dinner, movies,etc. nothing more was said,like finding a new love, or sharing a life together. I said…"
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I know you may not believe this, but most people have no idea how much it hurts to lose the person your where in a relationship with. It sure is different then losing a parent,especially if you didn't live with them any longer. She probably…"
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thanks for making me smile,first time today."
Jerry commented on Cyna's blog post A Wedding with Tears...of Joy!
"A great way to honor your husband."
Jerry commented on only1sue's blog post waiting till it is time
"I spent a lot of time dealing with my Dad and his medical issues for many years,probably too much. It at times affected my marriage . After he died, my wife and I became extra close with my Mom, they became like mother and daughter.
But as far as my…"
Jerry commented on Tomsgirl's blog post From the beginning 10-5-12
"A nice tribute to the man you love."
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"After my Dad passed away in 94 my Mom did get rid of his stuff as she moved a short time later. She kept one of his button down sweaters and always wore it when she was chilly in the house.She passed away 2 years ago and now I have that sweater…"
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Just this week a friend and I went to our co workers widows house and helped her trade in her husbands two vehicles . One was ohis pick up truck,and the other a high performance car. She waited over a year to do this, but they were just wasting away…"
Jerry replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"About two,weeks after my wife passed away her brother called and and his phone greeting was " How is the man of leisure doing? ". Kind of a stupid thing to say to someone that just spent 4 months being the caregiver to your dying sister. I…"
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- At 10:04pm on May 20, 2013,
Tin_Woodman said…
Hi Jerry, thanks for "friending" me. Cancer is rough indeed, for everyone. Kathi will have been gone 3 years in August, and while the searing pain is gone, I still miss her every day. I am learning to live with this "new reality" one day at a time. Be good to yourself.
Best, Mike L.
- At 9:49am on March 6, 2013,
courtice said… I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time Jerry, I hope that more time will help. My wife told me on the day of her "terminal" diagnosis just before Christmas, that I have her blessing to live life, take care of things, and that included meeting someone new, I'm still fairly young. It was difficult for me to here that, and only time can allow us to move on with our lives, everyone does it at their own pace. Just take it one step at a time.
- At 7:04am on February 28, 2013,
LostCactus (WoodyC) said… I totally understand keeping busy or putting others before ourselves. We seem to evaluate everything now with open eyes and find reminders of what strengths our loves one saw in us that endured them to us but we never really thought a second about because we did what came natural to us. I believe I notice things and volunteer to assist more to feel some since of normalcy once again.
Stand Strong,Take Care!
Woody
- At 7:24am on February 27, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…
Hi Jerry, thanks for the request. I'm sorry for your loss. Keep your eyes and heart open to the possibilities that you will find some comfort in talking with folks who know what you are dealing with. Look forward to chatting with you in the chat area.
Keep Smiling
Woody
- At 3:08am on January 30, 2013,
Sleepless In Seattle ( Nancy ) said… - Hi Jerry! You can never have enough friends or support and people who "get it" after what we have all experienced! Hugs!
- At 2:30pm on December 16, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… Sending birthday wishes your way today, Jerry. Hope it's a good day for you.
- At 2:26pm on November 16, 2012,
avgypsy said… Looked up Mark 12:25 and I thank you so much for that information.
- At 2:19pm on November 16, 2012, avgypsy said…
Thanks Jerry for the friend request. I am delighted! Hugs!
- At 12:53pm on October 14, 2012,
Don A said… hi Jerry, thanks for he comments. i am just having a hard time remembering those good times right know. i just remember her going through all that and the last week.
- At 2:17am on September 26, 2012,
ebwilkie said… Hi Jerry, thanks for the friend invite. I guess you are right about the treatments maybe made his last little while a bit better. I wish now that he would have decided to not have any treatments at all and just live out the life that the good Lord gave him. I think he would have had a better quality of life. Its all water under the bridge now.
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