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Jim
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Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Faolan.  Thanks for your 4th Anniversary sharing.  Thanks for letting me know how difficult it was.  Am rapidly approaching my 2nd anniversary in August and am dreading it somewhat.  I find myself to be more emotionally…"
Jun 25
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Thanks, Barbee.  I love what you wrote here. You're correct.  There is no time for anything else. Planet earth is what? a million years old??? or more??? I appreciate what you've said here, and I am sure my Mabel will say the…"
Jun 5
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Thanks for your sharing "feeling lonely."  Appreciate what your ex-marine husband says about "freedom not being free."  My best friend is a retired Chaplain in the marines.  He was a Colonel and always says the…"
May 28
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Hope. My spouse died unexpectedly August 2015.   I cry when thnking of those last four days before she died.Yes.  I function pretty well, too...but weep inside whenever I think of her.  And yes...I feel lost a lot of time.  I…"
May 18
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Barbee.  Guess we'll never have a chance to meet.  We lived in Seattle a total of about 20 years until we moved on to Stretch Island which is about 40 miles south of Bremerton.   Am glad to hear about your meeting…"
May 7
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"  GrandmaH.  Am glad to hear you will be moving to a town home.  The retirement community I moved to has been a godsend.  You will meet many widowed similar people, and hopefully, you will find some friends with whom you can have…"
May 3
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Good for you, Barbee.  Hope everything turns out great for your family reunion!!!"
Apr 8
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Apr 3
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I just got this from my brother.  I thought the clips are very inspiring. https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/?shva=1#inbox/15b15c47e0f5cf72"
Mar 28
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Thanks, Barbee, for your cartoon.  I realize its my attitude and refusal to accept Mabel's death that pains me so much.  My activities and distractions help take my mind off my loss, but invariably, an image of my spouse would pop up…"
Mar 27
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Faolan.  Its those small, trivial incidences that sets me back, too.  The sort of thing you'd never think was important when I dropped Mabel off at Super Supplements where she ran her errands in picking up her vitamins and…"
Mar 20
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi All.  Thanks for sharing, Alexandra.  Mabel's birthday was in March .  I called my son and told him wanted to be with them.  Didn't want to be alone that day.  I knew I'd be depressed in her absence...I…"
Mar 18
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Yes, Barzan.  I know there is purpose in our lives.  Am still in process of discerning it.  Am very confused right now.  I think God has abandoned me.  I use to think my destiny was to carry out God's plan.  My…"
Feb 27
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Barzan:  I agree with you.  My worse memory and my worse crying is the one of her dying in the hospital those four days.  I want to erase that memory.  i see no joy in it,  just more sorrow...I don't want to live with…"
Feb 26
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Folks.  My wife's birthday will be coming up March 3rd.  This coming Friday.  I've already told my son I don't want to be alone and want to be with him and his family.  He said, "fine...you're…"
Feb 26
Jim commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"GrandmaH and Barbee --Yes.  We were married young, and I realized only after Mabel died how much our lives were shaped by one another. Through the years our thoughts, ideas, habits, preferences and interests continually surprised me as to how…"
Feb 20

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At 3:11pm on June 25, 2016, Don said…

Hi Jim;  Try MATCH.com.    I have met some very fine people that way.   The big problem for me is that most of them are in the Bay Area and hate to move.       Colorado may have the person you seek.   Most ladies there tend to like the outdoor  activities.      If you ski,  the chances of meeting healthy ladies tends to be better.    If you don't ski but would like to, take a lesson at Keystone Ski Area.    You might meet someone in the class.    

Best of luck,

Don

At 3:17pm on November 22, 2015, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Jim. So good to hear from you. You know, I read in one of your posts that you were a minister. How wonderful! You know what I mean, then, when I talk about remembering the 'whole' person...the 'whole' life. It is the whole that matters, Jim. Not one day...and certainly not the last day. In fact, for me, the last day is the least important of all the days God gave me with Rick. If Our Heavenly Father judges us on the products of our 'whole' life, why wouldn't we view each other that way? (Without the judgment part, of course...you know, living in glass houses while throwing rocks, and all that!) What really matters is all that Rick taught me about love and forgiveness, tenderness and strength, laughter and life. Too many lessons to mention. Each day away from the trauma of losing him has made my sight clearer on my 'whole' life with him...on the lessons that matter more than those I learned the day I lost him. I hope you begin to see that soon, Jim. This isn't where you and I and everyone else here wanted to be, but here we are. And Rick and your lovely wife are Home now...safe, and loved, and cherished, and happy like they never could have imagined! That comforts me above all else...to know the One who made such a lovely man as my Rick is holding him in His loving arms right now. Have a peaceful evening, Jim.

At 1:51pm on November 21, 2015, Callie2 said…
Jim, you never have to worry about that here at least as far as I am concerned. Glad to read you are seeking counseling--I benefited greatly by attending a support group. I learned from them what to expect during the grief process and that my feelings were much of the same as many others there. Had a lot of that reliving of that day but when you lose someone suddenly, I think we tend to blame ourselves or question ourselves as to if we did all we could do and if we would have done X,Y, or Z, that perhaps, they would still be here. Once I began to believe that I did my best and that it was his illness that took him and that death was the result of his illness, the thoughts and flashbacks slowly ended. You're going to be OK, Jim. Callie
At 5:35am on November 21, 2015, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Jim. I was so glad to see your invitation to 'friend'. This site is the one place you can count on to have someone who understands the heart ache you feel (usually, there are many, many 'someones'!) It has helped me so much through the last 2+ years, I cannot describe it. I hope you find the light you need here as well, Jim.

At 8:57am on November 15, 2015, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Jim...Cindy here. I want you to know that you must have made a great impression on Hope...she is worried about you and thought a post I recently made may help you. I certainly hope so.

I lost my husband, my Rick, of 32 years in 2013...suddenly...unexpectedly. He was 56 years old.

This road is so very dark, isn't it?

Jim, if you have a mind to, go to 'Widowed in 2015' and read the 2 posts I put up today.

I so hope it helps you think of your beloved wife, and all you had with her, and all that she was, and what you have gone through in a different way...in a full way.

God bless you, Jim.

At 8:45pm on November 4, 2015, Dark Rose said…

Thank YOU, for being a good listener. I hope we can help one another as we travel on this hard, unwanted journey.

Chat soon!

At 12:19pm on October 29, 2015, MFARM said…
Hello Jim, Thank you for the friend request. I'm sure God did not cause your wonderful wife to die. I bet he welcomed her though. He just has more jobs for us to do. I know I have been involved in helping people since my husband died that I would not have dreamed of knowing previously. You'll find your stride too when the worst calms down.
At 12:53pm on October 22, 2015, Callie2 said…
Hi Jim,
Thank-you for the friend request, we are now friends! Callie
At 8:26am on October 20, 2015, Ma-Bie said…
Hi Jim, I hope you are well. Receive greetings and best wishes.
At 8:46am on October 15, 2015, mbmlmw21069 said…
Hello Jim,

Thank you for your message and sharing a very special piece of yourself with me. I am now 2.5 years out from losing the love of my life, but find myself wrestling to get through tough spots still. They are fewer in number and are spaced out more, but floods still come. It warms my heart to hear that you and your wife were fortunate to spend so many years together. I'm also sorry that she is no longer here in person for you to share your life with. Anniversary dates are difficult, especially the first go-round. Today marks the 3-year mark that we first found out Frank's cancer had spread. I remember having a pit in my stomach, but seeing the fear in his eyes, I knew it was up to me to turn the day around. Jim, this day three years ago is one of the best days my husband and I ever had in our 6 short years together, even with horrible news. It's also the day we took my favorite picture of the two of us that I treasure. I know it may not feel like things are healing, but just know you will. I like that you are open to allowing yourself to express emotions as they come. That is very healthy. For me, I tend to fight and hold back, so I admire you for that. Know that you can meet amazing people in this community and if you ever need to talk, I have eyes and ears to listen. Peace and blessings to you, my friend. ~Kristi
 
 
 

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