"So, I don’t exactly understand the pension piece. My husband started receiving his pension a few months ago. As his widow, I assumed it would then go to me but it appears I only get a portion of that. Where does the rest go? I’m thankful…"
"I’m in month 2. Our 28th anniversary was August 19. He died August 12. It was so unexpected! He’s an athlete and vegan with no blood pressure, heart or any other issues. His Dr thought he either might have had a piece of plaque break off…"
i was thinking about a cruise too! I’m very nervous about doing this alone be though because I’m pretty shy around people I don’t know. Self confidence is not exactly me either. In theory a cruise sounds…"
"Is it weird to want to just go away for the holidays? Not sure where I’d feel comfortable going by myself but being with my family who all have spouses and boyfriends or girlfriends will be uncomfortable too.
"Tech writer: The holidays!! Yikes! Since my Mom passed away 2 1/2 years ago I’ve taken on the Christmas morning brunch. I’ve already let some family member know I’m not doing it this year. One response was, “oh, what are you…"
"I really love what you wrote your husband. Mine passed away this August. 5 days before our 28th anniversary. I wasn’t in any state of mind to write something at that time but I’ve recently picked up a journal and have been writing him…"
"Tons of tears today as I went to pay bills and saw his handwriting wherever I looked ( I was in his office). It’s funny that something as inconsequential as a note or numbers written on a piece of paper can cause so much grief."
"There were so many hints my husband did that I now am responsible for. I can handle mowing the lawn but it’s the other stuff, weeding, getting plants ready fo winter, getting the snow blower that I don’t even know how to use, ready.…"
"I have thought about doing some volunteering but am unsure what to do. Most of my background is working with children. I’ve though about reading to people in nursing homes and assisted living places but .... Someone mentioned gardening.…"
"Most of what I do right now is for my husband. I go to church for him, because I know that’s what he’d want. He’d want to to eat healthy again, to substitute teach a few days a week, to go on vacations with friends to start living…"
"Tekwriter: you don’t know how grateful I was to hear you drift through your days. I find there are lots of things I COUKD/Should do but can’t seem to get motivated to do it. I told s friend I would help out in her classroom.. have I done…"
"Hilda. I absolutely agree with you. For me, it’s only been 6 weeks. I know I need to start taking better care of myself (better eating and working out). But I’m am really struggling to actually do it. Right now when I do something I tell…"
"First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. I’m hoping that after a year I’ll be as strong as you sound. I am going to a Grief Share group weekly but being able to communicate with you and others like you has been so helpful.Thank you so…"
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I'm so sorry. Yes, it's really painful and I have learned in less than 2 months that some days are ok, then turn for the worse, then back and forth. It's a wide range of emotions that affect you mentally and physically. I still try to find ways to get through the each day. Yesterday, I was ok for the most part, then right before I went to sleep, I broke down into a very deep sorrowful cry.
I have began communicating with others which helps. I talk mostly to strangers but it helps.