"I found this site almost a year ago; however, I didn't really understand its value until now. It's such a great tool in the healing process because you know you're not alone. Other people experience the same feelings and…"
"I watched my husband die in the emergency room as well. He had just had hernia repair surgery, and the doctor forgot to give him some vital information he needed when taking the pain meds. It was a very grusome death, and he looked…"
"Oh my, you could be speaking for me. I've started into my second year of unexpectedly losing my husband. I guess I should be made of tougher material. I live in Florida as well. Maybe people just don't like…"
"I know. I hope my children never have to go through this. Of course, I'm much more compliant than my parents. My mom has dementia...but thinks she doesn't. Oy vey, that's another story. There should be a…"
"It's been quite a while since I've been on this site. I've been busy caring for my mom (94) and dad (95). What a zoo! I'm learning the ropes of getting services for OLD folks. My dad still drives. I…"
"Hi Linda, You know the only anger I have is toward the surgeon who simply called in more pills when I called him the day before my husband died. Had he seen Ken, he would have found out that he had a complete intestinal blockage. I…"
"You are so right, Kit (May I call you Kit?). We do seem to be in the same place. There is a since of wonder within the sense of despair. What will tomorrow bring? What will I do? Who will I meet? When will I be…"
"I've been caring for my 93 and 94 year old parents since my husband died. I had cared for him for so many years through various health problems that it just comes natural. We actually do quite well together...three people and three…"
"My husband was a traveling man. He was a Coast Guard Search and Rescue pilot. So far, he has had ashes put in Barrancas National Cemetery, Scattered on Mt. Lafayette in Maine, spread over his parents and brothers resting…"
"I've made it a tradition to buy my husband a card for every event. I write a message in it, seal it, and put it in my drawer. I think that it helps me move forward while not leaving him behind. I also think it will be a lovely…"
"1. I'm finally starting to get a feel for what I was put on this planet for. I taught school for 30 years. I loved working with the parents and children, but couldn't seem to make sense of so many administrative issues.…"
"I just bought the book. I've spent a lot of time alone living with the grief. I haven't tried to hide it or deny it. Gradually, things seem to be coming into place. I don't expect a quick fix; however, I am…"
"My husband, Ken, was temperamentally a polar opposite from me. He was calm, well planned, and thought everything through many times before making a decision. I, on the other hand, am "go with the flow", spontaneous…"
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Welcome Juliana: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room. 1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first. 2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers. 3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though) 4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it. 5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone 6. Your first entry: This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more. 7. BE READY: Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again. 8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun. 9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here. 10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on. ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.