"Venting is a good thing and you're certainly doing it in the right crowd. Here you get empathy, not sympathy. God bless you and yours. Juliana"
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Juliana commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I found this site almost a year ago; however, I didn't really understand its value until now. It's such a great tool in the healing process because you know you're not alone. Other people experience the same feelings and…"
Juliana replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome - descriptions, symptoms, hope...
"I watched my husband die in the emergency room as well. He had just had hernia repair surgery, and the doctor forgot to give him some vital information he needed when taking the pain meds. It was a very grusome death, and he looked…"
Juliana commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Oh my, you could be speaking for me. I've started into my second year of unexpectedly losing my husband. I guess I should be made of tougher material. I live in Florida as well. Maybe people just don't like…"
Juliana replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion 3 Good Things
"1. My parents are able to get around and happy in my home.
2. My three dogs are getting along better.
3. I'm able to laugh at funny things again."
Juliana commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"I know. I hope my children never have to go through this. Of course, I'm much more compliant than my parents. My mom has dementia...but thinks she doesn't. Oy vey, that's another story. There should be a…"
Juliana commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"It's been quite a while since I've been on this site. I've been busy caring for my mom (94) and dad (95). What a zoo! I'm learning the ropes of getting services for OLD folks. My dad still drives. I…"
Juliana replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Do you have any favorite poems or quotes that have helped you?
"Hi Linda, You know the only anger I have is toward the surgeon who simply called in more pills when I called him the day before my husband died. Had he seen Ken, he would have found out that he had a complete intestinal blockage. I…"
Juliana replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Do you have any favorite poems or quotes that have helped you?
"You are so right, Kit (May I call you Kit?). We do seem to be in the same place. There is a since of wonder within the sense of despair. What will tomorrow bring? What will I do? Who will I meet? When will I be…"
Juliana replied to dadoffour (Floyd)'s discussion Do/did you put your grieving on hold or change the way you needed to be to accommodate others?
"I've been caring for my 93 and 94 year old parents since my husband died. I had cared for him for so many years through various health problems that it just comes natural. We actually do quite well together...three people and three…"
Juliana replied to Sherbear's discussion Wesite for ideas on scattering ashes
"My husband was a traveling man. He was a Coast Guard Search and Rescue pilot. So far, he has had ashes put in Barrancas National Cemetery, Scattered on Mt. Lafayette in Maine, spread over his parents and brothers resting…"
Juliana replied to Jody's discussion The Card Section
"I've made it a tradition to buy my husband a card for every event. I write a message in it, seal it, and put it in my drawer. I think that it helps me move forward while not leaving him behind. I also think it will be a lovely…"
Juliana replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion 3 Good Things
"1. I'm finally starting to get a feel for what I was put on this planet for. I taught school for 30 years. I loved working with the parents and children, but couldn't seem to make sense of so many administrative issues.…"
Juliana replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Do you have any favorite poems or quotes that have helped you?
"I just bought the book. I've spent a lot of time alone living with the grief. I haven't tried to hide it or deny it. Gradually, things seem to be coming into place. I don't expect a quick fix; however, I am…"
Juliana replied to Jill's discussion Share one small but very special, unique trait or memory about your late spouse. Something to make you and the rest of us smile.
"My husband, Ken, was temperamentally a polar opposite from me. He was calm, well planned, and thought everything through many times before making a decision. I, on the other hand, am "go with the flow", spontaneous…"
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- At 5:38pm on May 23, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
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- At 12:30am on May 18, 2012,
Joyce said… It does in the beginning but if you read for a while it becomes less so. Also, reading some of blogs and discussions might turn out to be helpful. Take your time, you'll get it.
- At 5:06pm on May 13, 2012, Joyce said…
Welcome Juliana: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 10:12am on May 11, 2012,
Arnie (New Normal) said… Hi Julianna,
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room.
1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
7. BE READY:
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.
ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
- At 8:54am on May 11, 2012,
smit09 said… So sorry for your loss Juliana. but welcome to this wonderful community! Here I hope you find strength, hope and healing!
sorry for your loss. (hugs)
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