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Jwick
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  • Ardmore, OK
  • United States
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I don't understand.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Hopesmom Sep 17. 5 Replies

Over the course of the last year, I have heard it all from well-meaning family and friends.  But what got me the most has been their views on my marriage.  I keep getting people telling me no…Continue

 

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Hopesmom replied to Jwick's discussion I don't understand.
"Fortunately I haven't had to deal with anyone like that. My husband and I had each been married twice by the time we met. And I think everyone thought that we both had finally found the right person. We didn't really argue, I always said…"
Sep 17
DIVA70 replied to Jwick's discussion I don't understand.
"I say listen to your heart.....only you know what kind of marriage you and your husband really had. Unfortunately people who knew you, especially family only have a single lense to look through so their perception of what your marriage is what they…"
Sep 16
Callie2 replied to Jwick's discussion I don't understand.
"An occasional disagreement does not amount to an unhappy marriage as long as you resolve your differences in an adult manner (fight fair!) and move on without holding a grudge. My husband and I agreed upon mostly everything but you know, every once…"
Sep 12
Jwick replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion SEPTEMBER Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"Sept 12th is our son's 2nd birthday without his dad, he turns 11.  I've been a wreck but am trying to put forth the effort to make it a good day for our son."
Sep 11
Frank replied to Jwick's discussion I don't understand.
"Susan and I were married for 35 years when she passed.  I can honestly say that we never fought, or really even ARGUED.  We did disagree and how much usually depended upon the subject.  When we were married, her mother Dotty, sat us…"
Sep 10
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Jwick's discussion I don't understand.
"Unfortunately, some people think pointing out flaws will ease the pain. It's malicious & abusive, regardless, if it is suppose to be well intended. Many times I had to point out to whomever that they were crossing the line. Countless…"
Sep 9
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Sep 9
Jwick posted a discussion

I don't understand.

Over the course of the last year, I have heard it all from well-meaning family and friends.  But what got me the most has been their views on my marriage.  I keep getting people telling me no marriage is ever perfect.  We had to have fought.  We had to have hated each other at one point.  And on and on it goes.I honestly don't get it.  My marriage might not have been perfect for others but it was perfect for us.  We never fought. I do not consider a disagreement on where to live, what car to…See More
Sep 9
Jwick replied to Luv4Z's discussion What are we doing?
"I am 14 months out and I feel the same.  I want to rage at the world that this is not the life I signed up for.  This was not the plan.  I DONT WANT TO DO THIS!  My husband would say the same about doing what I didn't want…"
Sep 9
Jwick replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I was 32, just 14 short months ago.  We have 2 children (11&12).  I am lost."
Sep 9
Jwick replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I was 32 when I lost my husband, just 14 short months ago.  It was sudden and I lost so much more than I ever thought possible.  I lost my sense of family, self, security, future, goals, wants, motivation.  Everything changed in just…"
Sep 9
Jwick replied to Hopesmom's discussion help
"I am 14 months out from losing my husband.  I still have days where I know I should do something but I don't have the energy or will to get up and do it.  The first few months I did not get off the couch to do anything but take my…"
Sep 9
Jwick replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"A widow's ring is just a ring made or bought in memory of your loved one.  Some engrave their loved ones name or date of death.  Other's make "new" jewelry out of their wedding rings.  My sister-in-law had her…"
Jul 30
Jwick replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am so sorry for your loss.  I too lost our family dog 3 months after my husband.  We had him for 10 years and he was the best dog we had ever owned.  It felt like hit after hit kept coming."
Jul 30
Jwick replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"He would say "Howdy" instead of hi or hello.We had this thing where if he said I love you I said I love you more his response would be "no not."  I don't know when we started it or why but I miss it.I never did…"
Jul 29
Jwick replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"I miss that so much, no one says my name.  Not even my own mother.  It is always Mrs. Jwick to doctors and such or my nickname.  I am introduced by my nickname and it had been happening since I was 8 so that's how I…"
Jul 29

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At 8:19am on July 29, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Jwick. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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