"eternalaura, perfect! Verry clever!
I so appreciate all of the members in this group and this website...thank you for sharing your insight, humor, your stories and empathy. My heart goes out to us all..... "
"KK, I agree with Lauralee...be very cautious and protect yourself when the stepson stays with you. Also, not sure about each state's laws, but my attorney advised me not long after I lost Richard to take his name off of the house title and…"
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"it's amazing isn't it??? I had the same situation: his daughter got PO'd that I didn't let her just go through my house and take whatever she wanted or come and stay in my house while I was gone for a weekend!!…"
"OH, and I also deactivated his Facebook account.....in a crazy fit of "HE's MINE!" thinking.....didn't want his family posting to his FB account......okay, yeah, maybe a little on the crazy side on that one......sigh....."
"I did cancel my husband's cell phone to save money - as we were both on our son's plan. I also have given away his clothes, had an auction and given his ungrateful, mean, nasty, horrible family some of his treasures.....trying to…"
"I so totally understand the "faking/pretending" thing.....I feel like I'm faking everything! all of the time! my whole new life...as you all understand. Still pondering who "me" is without him. sigh.....
"I read this book and found it extremely helpful:
Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas for Rebuilding Your Life, by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg
Having been "suddenly widowed" now twice, I can attest that yes, daily life does get…"
"Hi, all, I'm new to this group, but have been in WidowedVillage in the Suddenly Widowed group. I, too, am twice-widowed (1985 and 2011) and losing my beloved last October has been the hardest thing ever! So sad all the time, not wanting…"
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