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I am new to this group. I lost my husband of 33 years to a glioblastoma (brain cancer) in October, 2015. He was the healthiest person ever- a marathoner and a triathlete. He was the love of my life and we did everything and I mean everything together. I have two children who are 4 hours away and I am lost without him. The disease sucked the life out of him and it was horrible to watch. I am so sad, so angry, so confused, so lonely.... All of our dreams have been shattered and I have to rebuild and I have loads of anxiety. I have joined several widow groups on Facebook and that has been helpful. Looking forward to sharing with all of you.
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I am glad you will be joining a support group. What has made things even harder for me is that we lost our son-in-law at 38 to leukemia just 13 months before my husband passed. Leaving my daughter a widow at 33 with two little ones to raise. I not only grieve for the two we lost in our lives, but I hurt so for having to watch my daughter's pain and can not change it for her. Our lives will never be the same.
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my husband to a rare progressive degenerative brain disease in November 2013 at age 58 just ten days short of our 40th anniversary. I was numb for a very long time, and exhausted from care giving. I know how you feel, seeing all your plans be taken away from you while you watch others enjoying their lives. I did find a support group that was helpful It is a place that I can talk about him with people that understand how I feel. I can't do that with the people I work with. I am still trying to find what my purpose is now.... It definitely is a path that you take one step at a time.
I do so remember those days! I was mad (a little) at Bruce for leaving me and changing all of our plans for retirement! It is so very hard to lose half of yourself. I am struggling now to figure out who I am - what I want, enjoy. I have felt it very unfair to see other couples together at times - that is something we all go through. It seems so unfair when you have lost yours! That's why the Griefshare has helped me so much - to know I am not the only one with those feelings. My future looks very different now, and it is hard to even figure out who I am now. I really feel that I spent the first year just struggling to deal with the grief. I am determined to spend this next year celebrating who my sweet husband was, and being thankful for the 30 years that we had. Bruce had a seizure at work on Oct 31 - which was the first we knew of his cancer. We started the process of trying to decide what to do and treatment, and I started working from home when he got worse, but he ended up with a blood clot in his lungs which is what actually killed him before the cancer - so he thankfully did not suffer. 3.5 months was a short period of time, yet at least we had that time together. I look at that differently now than I did at first too! None of us wanted to be members of this group - but here we are, and it is helpful to know others dealing with the same issues. I ordered the book you recommended earlier!
No I am not Greek. I've never heard of Tom Zuba - will look him up! I have never been to Mass. Am actually planning a trip flying into Albany and spending a week at a timeshare in Springsomething MA - in the Berkshires in June with 2 of my sisters. Looking forward to exploring a new area and getting away from work for awhile. In some ways, working has kept my mind off of my loss, so I guess that's good. I am too young to retire - so looks like I'll be working for awhile still. Too much time alone can be hard through this I'm sure. I have seen onefitwidow on facebook - but she has moved on with her life and remarried - so didn't seem to be as pertinent to me.
This is such a difficult journey. I have thought of going to camp - but don't know. Where do you live?
My hubby and I were married 30 years - and he had metastatic melanoma which we found the tumors in his brain. He was very healthy and an avid tennis player - so horrible to lose him so early. I lost Bruce Feb of 2015, so it has been longer for me and I am beginning to cope. I took a Griefshare class locally and am taking it again with another group. I have found that to be very helpful.
Welcome to Widville, Karol. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
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