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Helping Suicidal People Online
Started this discussion. Last reply by Dianne in Nevada Dec 17, 2011. 2 Replies 0 Likes
I have often engaged in conversations with suicidal widows. I am very clear with them that I am a peer not a trained counselor. I have seldom felt like wanting to take my life, I have been willing to…Continue
My Husband's Other Wife - She died, so I could find the man I love.
Started this discussion. Last reply by Scottish Helen Jul 22, 2011. 11 Replies 4 Likes
http://www.slate.com/id/2292956/ Article in Slate... In 2009, Emily Yoffe, Slate's "Dear Prudence" shared the story of her husband's…Continue
Panic Attacks
Started this discussion. Last reply by Alive & Mortal Apr 11, 2011. 4 Replies 0 Likes
I get asked about tools for panic attacks about 2x a month, so I thought I would post this, as a peer and colleague and not a therapist. Please comment and add your knowledge to the discussion.…Continue
Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
Started this discussion. Last reply by camry Jun 20, 2012. 34 Replies 0 Likes
My beloved went from diagnosis to crossing over in 22 days. Pancreatic cancer runs in his family. I worry about the 3 kids. Anyone else dealing with this as a nemesis? Anyone involved with activism…Continue
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Patience (Diane) replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome - descriptions, symptoms, hope...
Suz replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome - descriptions, symptoms, hope...
"I am trained as a therapist, but as a child and school psychologist. Jjordan, you described it better than I ever could. I also have had EMDR for PTSD and it does work. I, of course, had to read all the research in grad school. In the beginning,…"
jjordan replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome - descriptions, symptoms, hope...
"I cant recall what EMDR stands for, but it is a great therapy. I have gotten beyond the overwhelming emotions that are related to certain memories of Steve's death. The first step is to create a safe and serene place in your mind…"
Juliana replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome - descriptions, symptoms, hope...
"I watched my husband die in the emergency room as well. He had just had hernia repair surgery, and the doctor forgot to give him some vital information he needed when taking the pain meds. It was a very grusome death, and he looked…"
SoSadinMichigan replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Have you lost stepchildren when the natural parent has died?
"I did."
Alive & Mortal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's blog post Join the blog hop: Widowed people review NBC's "Go On" sitcom
"I blogged about it here: HERE"
camry replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Has anyone read the book "Dream New Dreams" by Jai Pausch? I just started reading it and I had one of my anxiety attacks when she discussed when the doctor said they found a mass of her husband's pancreas. God did that bring back a…"
ebwilkie replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Dear Camry -
I know just what you mean. It was a year on the weekend that I lost my husband and when I think about it I still feel the same way! As I was told by my sister (who is also a widow) …"
camry replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"I lost my husband Peter to pancreatic cancer on May 10. It doesn't run in the family. It started off as a lower back pain, and a year later he was gone. He was only 48. I'm 38, we have three kids ages 14,11 and 9. Just hearing the words…"
Jeanine replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Hello All,
I'm relatively new to this site, but not new to pancreatic cancer, since my wonderful husband died from it June 23, 2008. He was diagnosed with it in March 2006, after three months of pain that was first diagnosed as GERD and…"
Suz replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"eb,
That sounds particularly hard. Jud had fourteen months, had the cyber knife first. It helped the most. No chemo worked. He had one month that he felt reasonable and we went to Monetreal and the South of France. What a gift to get that time. Then…"
ebwilkie replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Hi - I lost my honey to pancreatic cancer in June of 2011. It will be a year tomorrow and I am dreading the date. He was sick for almost 2 years with constant diahrrea but was treated for colitis! Of course, it didn't…"
Nancyfc replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Dear Suz:
So sorry for your loss. The only thing our doctor at MD Anderson could recommend at the time was to see if Ken's BRACA2 gene was defective. It is a blood test and I think the cost was about $500.00.
I too have no energy to work…"
Suz replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Hi grey eyes and Nancy,
I missed this discussion. Jud died of pancreatic cancer on Feb 24 after fourteen months. He had two grandmothers that he lost to PC, so some on each side. Interestingly the research centers we were at that are looking at…"
Nancyfc replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Dear Mod:
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and about this family history. Of course you are concerned with your children - may I ask how old they are? Also, if this isn't too private, was your husband Jewish. Statistics have…"
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Facebook Changes - Timeline will roll out Oct 5...
Posted on September 26, 2011 at 8:36pm 2 Comments 3 Likes
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Facebook changes and grieving people - a first blush reaction to Facebook's Timeline:…
Those With Partners, Pause.
Posted on April 13, 2011 at 10:55am 0 Comments 1 Like
"Here's an exercise to understanding the loss of a life partner. If you have a partner... review this week of your life. How much the two of you:
- interacted with one another
- spoke to each other…
ᴜɴᴇɴᴄᴜᴍʙᴇʀᴇᴅ
Posted on April 12, 2011 at 10:55am 0 Comments 0 Likes
“Fᴏʀ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪs ɪᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅɪᴇ ʙᴜᴛ ᴛᴏ sᴛᴀɴᴅ ɴᴀᴋᴇᴅ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡɪɴᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴍᴇʟᴛ ɪɴᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ sᴜɴ?
Aɴᴅ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪs ɪᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴄᴇᴀsᴇ ʙʀᴇᴀᴛʜɪɴɢ, ʙᴜᴛ ᴛᴏ ғʀᴇᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ʙʀᴇᴀᴛʜ ғʀᴏᴍ ɪᴛs ʀᴇsᴛʟᴇss ᴛɪᴅᴇs,
ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪᴛ ᴍᴀʏ ʀɪsᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴇxᴘᴀɴᴅ ᴀɴᴅ sᴇᴇᴋ Gᴏᴅ ᴜɴᴇɴᴄᴜᴍʙᴇʀᴇᴅ?"
- Kᴀʜʟɪʟ Gɪʙʀᴀɴ
Aɴᴅ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪs ɪᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴄᴇᴀsᴇ ʙʀᴇᴀᴛʜɪɴɢ, ʙᴜᴛ ᴛᴏ ғʀᴇᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ʙʀᴇᴀᴛʜ ғʀᴏᴍ ɪᴛs ʀᴇsᴛʟᴇss ᴛɪᴅᴇs,
ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪᴛ ᴍᴀʏ ʀɪsᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴇxᴘᴀɴᴅ ᴀɴᴅ sᴇᴇᴋ Gᴏᴅ ᴜɴᴇɴᴄᴜᴍʙᴇʀᴇᴅ?"
- Kᴀʜʟɪʟ Gɪʙʀᴀɴ
Ugly The Cat
Posted on April 5, 2011 at 11:00pm 1 Comment 3 Likes
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Everyone in the apartment complex I lived in knew who Ugly was. Ugly was the resident tomcat. Ugly loved three things in this world: fighting, eating garbage, and, shall we say, love.
The combination of these things combined with a life spent outside had their effect on Ugly. To start with, he had only one eye and where the other should have been was a hole. He was also missing his ear on the same side, his left foot…
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- At 5:46am on February 22, 2012,
hijimhere said… This is so nice and also profound I have posted it on the WAY site.
- At 9:14am on February 13, 2012, honeylee said…
Thank you for the beautiful words of understanding. It was really nice to read that on such a hard day.
- At 9:34pm on February 12, 2012, Justme said…
Thank you so much for your comforting words.
- At 9:45pm on October 30, 2011,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… - Happy Birthday, you beautiful, brilliant lady! LOVE YA!!!!! XOXOXOXOX
- At 1:03am on October 30, 2011,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
- At 5:56pm on October 18, 2011,
greg'swife said… - Thank you for your beautiful words.! So appreciated. =-)
- At 10:13pm on October 9, 2011,
AlwaysMrsLeBus said…
- Thank u for the kind words... They are very appreciated.
- At 11:24am on October 6, 2011,
Vix said…
- Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it!
- At 9:04am on October 5, 2011,
lauchavezmx said… - It feels good to have people who really understand what you are going through... I miss him so bad but the good thing is that is true, it gets better with time. Frank I love you so much!!!
- At 12:09am on October 5, 2011,
Debbieg217 said…
- Thank you...
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