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Helping Suicidal People Online

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dianne in Nevada Dec 17, 2011. 2 Replies

I have often engaged in conversations with suicidal widows. I am very clear with them that I am a peer not a trained counselor. I have seldom felt like wanting to take my life, I have been willing to…Continue

My Husband's Other Wife - She died, so I could find the man I love.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Scottish Helen Jul 22, 2011. 11 Replies

http://www.slate.com/id/2292956/ Article in Slate... In 2009, Emily Yoffe, Slate's "Dear Prudence" shared the story of her husband's…Continue

Panic Attacks

Started this discussion. Last reply by Branbran36 Nov 28, 2016. 5 Replies

I get asked about tools for panic attacks about 2x a month, so I thought I would post this, as a peer and colleague and not a therapist. Please comment and add your knowledge to the discussion.…Continue

Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rich Nov 2, 2016. 58 Replies

My beloved went from diagnosis to crossing over in 22 days. Pancreatic cancer runs in his family. I worry about the 3 kids. Anyone else dealing with this as a nemesis? Anyone involved with activism…Continue

 

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Grenville25 replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Oh I know what you mean, the things we plan to do. Once he was diagnosed, we thought that was it but instead he became determined. During the two years he was in treatment we went to Barcelona Puerto Rico Chicago and San Francisco, as much as he…"
Apr 5, 2016
Jeanine replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"So many of us had wonderful plans that came to a screeching halt with a terrible diagnosis.  I'm so sorry for all of our broken dreams! My husband had planned and prepared for us to retire early..... I thank God that he did!  We were…"
Apr 5, 2016
Sue replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"grenville and jeanine - it was truly horrible, but it's horrible for anyone. October thru december he was so sick it was just really bad and he'd never been sick before in his life, always healthy. Most days i still can't believe it…"
Apr 5, 2016
Jeanine replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"I, too, am so sorry, Sue... I felt 63 was far too young when my husband died....  44 is truly horrible, as Grenville wrote.  Unbelievably, some on here lost partners at even younger ages.  I'm so sorry for all of us!  No…"
Apr 4, 2016
Grenville25 replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"o Sue 44 thats so horrible, so young. as i read these posts all i can think is how bloody BRAVE our partners were...knowing what they know but still believing they could beat it..heart breaking...and inspiring for us to are still here."
Apr 4, 2016
Sue replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"My husband was diagnosed June 3rd, 2015 stage 4. He died on Jan. 14, 2016. Just over 7 months of moving from one nightmare to the next. He always thought he'd beat it. Even when he came home on hospice. There were some good days when he was…"
Apr 4, 2016
Grenville25 replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Lulu I hope my words give you some comfort, my husband was diagnosed November 2012 and passed November 2014, two years later. He fought every day, he took every treatment and wanted to live to thatfive-year mark. The fact that your husband had seven…"
Apr 3, 2016
Lulu replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Thank Jeanine, that means a lot knowing I'm not the only one that thinks that way. "
Apr 3, 2016
Rich replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Jeanine: Thank you, I will check it out. Rich"
Apr 3, 2016
Jeanine replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Grenville... I don't know if you'll see this, but I think a late reply to recognize your post is better than none. I'm sorry you had to go through this, too. I thought we were young to have it happen at the beginning of our 60s, but I…"
Apr 2, 2016
Jeanine replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Lulu... Absolutely not wrong! I can identify somewhat with what you went through because my husband and I suffered two and half years before he passed. Right after he got the diagnosis he told me that everything he looked at suddenly lost color and…"
Apr 2, 2016
Jeanine replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Rich.... It's been 10 years since we did the research, so I don't really remember specific sites. The main treatment protocol he used came out of New Mexico State University in Las Cruces, New Mexico. They were doing research using a…"
Apr 2, 2016
Lulu replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in 2009.  I underwent the Whipple procedure, chemo and radiation and was cancer free for over 5 years.  He was never fully himself once he had surgery.  There were many complications…"
Apr 2, 2016
Rich replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Jeanine: Thank you for your response. He had the Whipple performed at Sloan two days after Janet passed. They also took some of his intestine, stomach and removed the gall bladder. He needs Chemo for the next six months, 1 day a week for 3 weeks,…"
Apr 2, 2016
Jeanine replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"Rich....  I rarely get on this site any more, but saw your post come in through the feed and felt moved to respond.  I'm so sorry you lost your wife so quickly to this awful disease.  I hope she didn't suffer much pain... My…"
Apr 1, 2016
Rich replied to Alive & Mortal's discussion Widowed by Pancreatic Cancer
"My wife was diagnosed with PC on 12/21/15 and passed on 2/03/16. She ate healthy, exercised everyday, took vitamins and lived right. She never even got her first Chemo treatment. About a week after Janet was diagnosed her 21 year old blood nephew…"
Mar 30, 2016

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Facebook Changes - Timeline will roll out Oct 5...

Posted on September 26, 2011 at 4:36pm 2 Comments

Please see my blog post:

 
Facebook changes and grieving people - a first blush reaction to Facebook's Timeline:…
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Those With Partners, Pause.

Posted on April 13, 2011 at 6:55am 0 Comments

"Here's an exercise to understanding the loss of a life partner. If you have a partner... review this week of your life. How much the two of you:

- interacted with one another

- spoke to each other…

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ᴜɴᴇɴᴄᴜᴍʙᴇʀᴇᴅ

Posted on April 12, 2011 at 6:55am 0 Comments

“Fᴏʀ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪs ɪᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴅɪᴇ ʙᴜᴛ ᴛᴏ sᴛᴀɴᴅ ɴᴀᴋᴇᴅ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡɪɴᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴍᴇʟᴛ ɪɴᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ sᴜɴ?

Aɴᴅ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪs ɪᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴄᴇᴀsᴇ ʙʀᴇᴀᴛʜɪɴɢ, ʙᴜᴛ ᴛᴏ ғʀᴇᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ʙʀᴇᴀᴛʜ ғʀᴏᴍ ɪᴛs ʀᴇsᴛʟᴇss ᴛɪᴅᴇs,

ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪᴛ ᴍᴀʏ ʀɪsᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴇxᴘᴀɴᴅ ᴀɴᴅ sᴇᴇᴋ Gᴏᴅ ᴜɴᴇɴᴄᴜᴍʙᴇʀᴇᴅ?"

- Kᴀʜʟɪʟ Gɪʙʀᴀɴ

Ugly The Cat

Posted on April 5, 2011 at 7:00pm 1 Comment

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Everyone in the apartment complex I lived in knew who Ugly was. Ugly was the resident tomcat. Ugly loved three things in this world: fighting, eating garbage, and, shall we say, love.

 

The combination of these things combined with a life spent outside had their effect on Ugly. To start with, he had only one eye and where the other should have been was a hole. He was also missing his ear on the same side, his left foot…

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At 1:46am on February 22, 2012, hijimhere said…

This is so nice and also profound I have posted it on the WAY site.

At 5:14am on February 13, 2012, honeylee said…

Thank you for the beautiful words of understanding. It was really nice to read that on such a hard day.

At 5:34pm on February 12, 2012, Justme said…

Thank you so much for your comforting words.

At 5:45pm on October 30, 2011,
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Soaring Spirits
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Happy Birthday, you beautiful, brilliant lady! LOVE YA!!!!! XOXOXOXOX
At 9:03pm on October 29, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
At 1:56pm on October 18, 2011, greg'swife said…
Thank you for your beautiful  words.! So appreciated. =-)
At 6:13pm on October 9, 2011, AlwaysMrsLeBus said…
Thank u for the kind words... They are very appreciated.
At 7:24am on October 6, 2011, Vix said…
Thank you for your comment.  I really appreciate it!
At 5:04am on October 5, 2011, lauchavezmx said…
It feels good to have people who really understand what you are going through... I miss him so bad but the good thing is that is true, it gets better with time. Frank I love you so much!!!
At 8:09pm on October 4, 2011, Debbieg217 said…
Thank you...
 
 
 

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