"I'm so sorry for your pain. I was so oblivious to all the invisible suffering around me until it happened to me, now I see how many people there are struggling with this grief. The pain is unbearable. I did some grocery…"
I agree with all that has been shared here along with what you said yourself. The gut wrenching sadness. It's insane at first. That gut wrenching sadness. I lost my 49 year old husband a little over 8 months…"
"Snow, when my husband died I was the last face he saw and I still think I did not do enough. His eyes were wide open and I was trying with my daughter to move him to another bed due to all the bed soars that where starting up that morning. I did not…"
"I'm truly so sorry for your loss. I'm only entering day 4 of LAM (life after Michael) so I can't offer much advice, just my heartfelt sympathy. Like you I nursed my husband at home through a long illness, the last 2 years being…"
"My heart goes out to you, Gamblerhodesclark. The pain of early grief is so brutal. My husband died five months ago after a hard battle with stomach cancer. In the first couple of months I too relived all the days my husband was sick, I…"
"My husband died January 23rd 2018 after a long battle with Parkinson’s disease and the dementia that comes with it. I cared for him so long that I cannot go on without him. I saw him die and think I should have done more. I did not know pain…"
"Hello all its been six weeks since Owen passed away. I've just about finished the paperwork from his estate and have had nothing but help from all those i have had to deal with (i'm in Australia) My councellors have been so helpful in…"
"ShirleyB thank you for sharing, I fell the same as you. Right after he died I thought that I might have those 40+ years alone and it took my breath away. I too struggle to find comfort in remembering him healthy and strong, looking at…"
"Dear Kimmy, thank you for your words, they speak deeply to me too. I am sorry for your loss. My husband died of cancer in May, so it's been almost 6 months. I still cannot believe it and cry a lot. But I too know I have to continue, live my…"
"Ive just picked up my husbands death certificate - wow another reality check that im on my own forever im now listening to UB40 one of his favourite bands and crying my eyes out. Like insideLove i have two counsellors i see one mental health…"
"I have started seeing a wellness councillor who is helping me understand the bigger picture. I am by no means religious but find her so comforting to talk to i feel safe with her and cry for the whole time im there. She is helping me learn to be…"
"Yes, ShirleyB, it feels surreal to me too. I cry a lot. I'm kind of amazed how much I can cry! I do think that this great grief is the price I am having to pay for the great love I had. And while I would never in a…"
"I, too, knew my husband was not going to survive, and yet the end took me by surprise. I find myself obsessively reliving the last day (that I didn't know was going to be his last) over and over in my mind: Would I have done…"
"All you wonderful ladies sharing your story i am so grateful to not be sitting here with my thoughts going round in my head, i started a journel to put my thoughts on paper and im finding that really helps me. I knew my husband was not going to…"
"NancyD I so agree with you...trying to remember them as strong able bodied men, not sick and having trouble breathing and simply no longer looking like they did while healthy. I struggle with that still. When I remember John strong and healthy…"
Soaring Spirits International has partnered with First Light Widowed Association, an organization for widowed people in Australia, to provide a private forum for our Aussie widows to connect. In addition to this online community, First Light hosts local catch ups throughout the country and is working with Soaring Spirits to bring Camp Widow to Australia in the future.
Welcome to Widville, Kimmy. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.