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Kmelli3 (Kate)
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Question about companionship

Started this discussion. Last reply by laurajay Feb 7. 4 Replies

OK, here goes...My husband passed away 2.5 months ago, so I am pretty new to all of this.  The thing is, I am super lonely.  I am 43, so I'm not ready to live the rest of my life alone.  A friend…Continue

 

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Heidi57 replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Going out is so hard in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi Kate.  I'm sorry for your loss.  I'm new to this site too and my husband passed away on Sept. 22/18.  We'd been together 44+ yrs and married 42+m years.  My first time out was with my kids and I still felt out…"
Feb 25
My4pumpkins replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Going out is so hard in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi Kate,  I totally get how you feel!  I lost my husband in June of 2018 to cardiac arrest, he was 47.  We were married 23.5 years and Ive never been alone.  This is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through.  I…"
Feb 7
Rainy (Misty) replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Question about companionship
"I think you've answered your own question.  If you are having feelings of guilt for any reason, it's too soon.  If you do pursue a relationship with him please guard your heart and be discreet for the sake of everyone. …"
Feb 7
soulmate replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Question about companionship
"I understand, completely your desire to have companionship. I really do! I am dating after my wife died over two years ago, I started a few months after she died. The first relationship was a disaster and I had to go through loss all over again! I…"
Feb 5
DIVA70 replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Question about companionship
"First, let me say I am so sorry for your loss. I think most would agree that the loneliness is what hits you the most. After nine months without my soulmate that is what I find the most painful and I truly understand how difficult it is at this…"
Feb 5
Kmelli3 (Kate) posted a discussion

Question about companionship

OK, here goes...My husband passed away 2.5 months ago, so I am pretty new to all of this.  The thing is, I am super lonely.  I am 43, so I'm not ready to live the rest of my life alone.  A friend that we had both known for the past 20 years texted me the other day asking if he could meet up soon to talk, since he found out late that my husband passed (I couldn't find his contact info to let him know when it first happened).  He said he was also feeling down and lonely because he and his wife of…See More
Feb 5
Kmelli3 (Kate) replied to Jill's discussion What's scaring you these days?
"I am constantly waiting for the next bad thing to happen, that is one thing that scares me.  It seems like since Tom passed, all I think about is what will happen next- and I figure it won't be good. I fear I can never be happy again or…"
Jan 22
DIVA70 replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Feel like I am in a nightmare I can't wake up from in the group Suddenly Widowed
"First, let me say how sorry I am for your loss. What you are feeling is what I believe we all have felt at some point, especially in the very beginning. That is one reason I came to this site. I had family and friends who were very supportive but I…"
Jan 4
KJPE replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Feel like I am in a nightmare I can't wake up from in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear Kate, Your experience is not so different from mine.  My husband died on Oct. 12 so I am also newly widowed and don't have much advice.  All I can say is that I have all the same feelings you do.  I cry so many times a day,…"
Jan 3
Silver fern replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Feel like I am in a nightmare I can't wake up from in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear Kmelli3 i haven't posted for a long time but I saw your message and my heart went out to you. i too have been through exactly what happened to you.  My husband was 53 and died suddenly of a cardiac arrest while I was with him.…"
Jan 2
Allan_sch replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Going out is so hard in the group Widowed in 2018
"Kate I lost my wife of 30 years in May, still feels like yesterday. I did go to a grief class that did help. Christmas was very tough but we made it through. My son still lives with me. He has been a big help. My daughter only lives do the street so…"
Dec 31, 2018
LP replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Going out is so hard in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi Kate im so sorry you lost your love. It’s really early for you and very raw. It’s normal to feel this. Be kind to yourself and don’t push too hard. I’m ten months on and I have a hard time with couples and social…"
Dec 31, 2018
Kmelli3 (Kate) added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2018
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Going out is so hard

Hi there, I'm fairly new to the site.  My name is Kate and I lost my husband of 20 years (Tom) to cardiac arrest on November 23rd at age 46.  I am so lost and devastated.  I have been asked to dinners with his family (I don't have any, and both my parents passed away already), and have tried to go out with my children to do things. but all I see when I go out is husbands and wives together enjoying themselves.  I am happy for them, but the pain is so great because I no longer have someone by my…See More
Dec 30, 2018
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Dec 30, 2018
Kmelli3 (Kate) replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Feel like I am in a nightmare I can't wake up from in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you all for your support.  I have been doing my best to get through each day (and the holidays) for my girls.  I am seeing a counselor, and I start a grief support group in March.  I am hoping that talking with others who have…"
Dec 29, 2018
Rainy (Misty) replied to Kmelli3 (Kate)'s discussion Feel like I am in a nightmare I can't wake up from in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Kmelli, I am 48, I lost Jerry pretty much the same way.  He passed away on Dec. 14th of last year.  I felt the exact same way that you feel right now.  It lasted about 5 months.  I couldn't focus on anything, for those first…"
Dec 23, 2018

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At 9:40am on December 20, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Kmelli3. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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