"Yes, Riet and Cynthia, as Joni Mitchell once sang, you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone. I’ve had a woman who was bitterly divorced say to me, ‘ oh it would have been so much easier if he had just died’.…"
"My husband died this past February. During his illness, when he had lost the ability to move, he would always say “take me with you in spirit wherever you go”.I have had a small silver pendant made with a pinch of his ashes sealed…"
You don't have to move! At least not anytime soon - as long as you don't want to. I understand the pressure of what other people might think - or to be fair, what WE think other people might think, which may not be what they…"
"I know what you mean about filling time. Sometimes the distractions work, sometimes they don't, and I think, "what's the point?". Sometimes I feel like I'm just marking time. But I do think that exercise - any kind of…"
"the morning does stretch ahead. It's when I walk downstairs, I think, now what? i do have work to do and a dog and cat to look after, but after having looked after my husband during his three-year illness, I'm at loose ends. knowing I…"
"Yes, Barzan, no one to share jokes with, pet names. I am in the UK and we are going through something called Brexit at the moment - my Chris was an economist and he could explain all the ramifications to me. There is no one to ask now. I planted his…"
"Yes, Riet and Melissa, i go through that too. I was with good friends for lunch Sunday - sunny, warm day, beautiful garden - and I could smile and join in the conversation, but always thinking "Chris isn't here". Although I…"
"I’m sorry to hear that. I haven’t got children of my own, but I would have thought that children would be a comfort. It must be so hurtful when they aren’t -on top of losing your partner.
I keep telling myself that no one…"
"Thanks so much for your words. Melissa, I’ve been told too to stop playing “that card” -and only three weeks out! I’m sorry to hear that that remark came from your son. Perhaps he was scared at seeing you inconsolable-some…"
"I’m feeling raw today. I’m three months in, and some days are ok-ish and others horrendous. But today was dreadful. I tried all my usual ‘feel better” tactics -did some household chores, put a few plants in the garden, walked…"
thank you so much for your words. As you know, even with a long illness, you still go through shock. And I know that there is no “getting over”it. It is traumatic to see your spouse deteriorate physically. And 50years…"
what you describe is close close to my experience. You’re not alone. It is still early days for both of us, and the horrible thing is that there is no shortcut to the time when we feel better able to cope. But…"
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