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LP
  • Female
  • Cambridge
  • United Kingdom
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LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, the replacement idea is insulting. No one tells my daughter she’ll get another father. I wince when people say, “ But don’t worry, you’re still young!” when  I haven’t even expressed any desire to meet…"
Saturday
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It is a sunny, mild autumn afternoon, with a cloudless sky (rare in England), so I went into the garden to try my hand at pruning and tidying. It makes me feel closer to Chris, because was the gardener in the family (and I haven't a clue what…"
Saturday
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley, I know just how you feel around friends. My friends are very dear and have helped me a lot since Chris died almost 9 months ago, but none of them has suffered the loss of someone close (they even still have their parents), and they just…"
Saturday
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"October 15th - it's my darling Chris' birthday today. I got thought my birthday, our wedding anniversary OK-ish, but this one is really awful. It's raining hard outside and all I want to do is curl up in bed with the cat and dog. But…"
Oct 14
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Absolutely normal. I doubt there is anyone here who hasn’t done the same on passing milestones. It’s not been long at all I’m any case.  C’ Birthday is next Monday. I have to work that day but I have my darling…"
Oct 9
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Beautiful words, Shelley. I know what you mean. Sometimes I can imagine Chris walking next to me holding my hand and I find myself smiling.  I managed to get through my wedding anniversary this week, the first without Chris. The grief…"
Sep 27
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, Irishlady and Susan, weekends are really the worst. Before, it was just Chris and I pottering about at home and relaxing after a week at work. I still have work, so now I -weirdly-  look forward to Mondays! How perverse is…"
Sep 2
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Does anyone else have days like this? Sunday- I get up late, distract myself, cry, distract myself some more with ‘busyness’, walk the dog, have a glass of wine and some cheese, take a sleeping pill so I can go to bed early and get…"
Sep 2
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"All of us here recognise that- the pointlessness of everything, the. Absoluteness of death, how the one thing we want more than anything - the return of our loved one -  will never come true. It is all so very painful, and the feeling of loss…"
Aug 29
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Talking to my husband is very comforting. I do it all the time. I don’t care who thinks I’m crazy- I do whatever gets me through the day. I talk to his pictures, I talk to him as though he were standing next to me, and it helps me…"
Aug 29
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2018
"Hi Bruna This is so recent for you. All of us here know just how awful the pain is. But you will get through although it’s really the toughest thing you’ll ever do. The only advice I can give is to cry as much and as loudly as you need…"
Aug 23
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"That should have said “kept him with me all night “. I’m writing this on my phone without my glasses "
Aug 22
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you Shelley. I kissed my husband too, and kept him withmwallnoght, holding his hand. I was glad I did that. Even though his hand was cold, his arm was finally limp- his neurological illness had caused his limbs to go stiff so that he…"
Aug 22
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My 59th birthday today and the first without C in 23 years. In 6 days it’ll be six months since he died. Everything has changed. Next month is our wedding anniversary and the month after that, C’s birthday. I’m just Trying to…"
Aug 22
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter - no - there is no “have to” about anything! You do what you feel the need to do. i will wear the ring Chris placed in my finger for the rest of my life.  I wear it in his honour and in the memory of twenty-three…"
Aug 16
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Gary's wife, death is such a mystery. I can understand the despair of those like Melissa who were not present when their spouses died. The anguish must be unimaginable. But death is such a mystery that even when you are there, it is difficult…"
Aug 9

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I lost my husband of 23 years to Multiple System Atrophy. I cared for him at home for three years. He died at home next to me.

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At 3:21am on June 2, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, LP.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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