"Gary's wife, Isn't it funny the things we remember? So long ago and like it was yesterday. I'm glad you're strong enough now to get rid of the box. Any sooner, i suspect would have not been the right time. But now it has served…"
"I am coming up to the second anniversary on the 28th. I heard this song by Eva Cassidy. Have a listen on
"I Know You By Heart"
Midnights in winter The glowing fire Lights up your face in orange…"
that sounds familiar to me. My husband Chris died in Feb 2018 from lo long-term neurological disease called multiple system Atrophy, and was his carer for the last 4 years as he became completely disabled. It was so exhausting but also a…"
"Widow brain is indeed a thing. I still have traces of it nearly 2 years on. It’s actually the effect of trauma and shock. You can suffer shock even though you knew your loved was dying. It’s simply the trauma of having them there one…"
"Peace and good memories to you all. Having a low key Xmas here with good friend and her adult kids in Wales. I have a photo of Chris on the table in his Christmas cracker paper crown ( a tradition in the U.K.). Take good care of yourselves - the way…"
"Lark, it’s doubly hard your husband died around Christmas because you are surrounded by all the “cheer”, whether genuine or manufactured, of everyone else looking forward to the holiday season. It’s galling, yet peoples mean…"
"If staying home with your pups is what YOU want to do, Lark, then you should do it! I think we each have to do what feels right for us, even if it goes against what others expect that we “should” do, especially if they haven’t had…"
"I have the same experience. I have no concentration, so the part of my job which involves research has gone down the tubes - which is why I plan to retire early. Some things I can do and others I still can't. I can go to the cinema alone but…"
"Tekwriter, what a great charity idea! I am so sorry about your pup. My MollyDog was very sick over the last few weeks with a liver infection - a week in hospital on a drip. She's better than ever now, thank goodness, but only because I am…"
"Yes, the season when we have to swat away the dreaded question “are you ready for the holidays?” People don’t realise that losing a spouse is not like losing a parent. The latter is sad of course, but losing my husband was…"
"I have no problem with Rotties- they can be very sweet-natured (I knew one whose best buddy was a tiny kitten). The problem is with backstreet breeders. It is always a risk. The thing to do is to invest some money in classes with a professional…"
"Of the things I’ve started to do since C died 20 months ago, I have found joining a choir (I never sang before) and volunteering to work in the local gardens (I know next to nothing about gardening) the most enjoyable. I was…"
"Dear GKinSD - Please don't say "even after 9 months" - this suggests that you think you shouldn't be as affected at this stage as you were earlier. But 9 months is early days still!!! Give yourself some leeway. I'm at…"
Welcome to Widville, LP. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.