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LP
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  • Cambridge
  • United Kingdom
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LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Gary's wife, death is such a mystery. I can understand the despair of those like Melissa who were not present when their spouses died. The anguish must be unimaginable. But death is such a mystery that even when you are there, it is difficult…"
Aug 9
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Mike, you put it beautifully. Some say to me, “But (and it’s always ‘but’) you had such a happy marriage! The not so subtle subtext is ‘you have no right to be sad’. But I am sad, precisely because I lost so much.…"
Aug 6
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Machu Picchu was one of the places on my dream list and Chris and I got there in 2007. I had wanted to see it since grade school Spanish class and it didn’t disappoint! He and I got to almost all our dream places (his top was to come within…"
Aug 6
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This is the place to say the unsayable. Sometimes it helps to say it just to lift the burden a bit. But you can’t say it to the non-bereaved. I know how crass it sounds to others, and it’s especially hard for me to say to a friend whose…"
Aug 5
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I’m the same,  Melissa, I’ll most likely live a very long time - it’s in my genes- and I don’t want to. It’s  not whining, and it’s really common among people who’ve lost a spouse. At nearly 60,…"
Aug 5
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes I know now what it’s like not to be anyone’s great love anymore. I have a lovely stepdaughter and her two children who call me Nana, but my own parents are long gone and my sister and friends all have their own “number…"
Aug 5
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I sometimes feel I’m just waiting- for him to comeback?.to see him again? I sometimes catch myself holding my breath  "
Aug 4
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Mswizard, we here understand how awful it is to lose a partner. It is truly a different world we enter once we suffer that loss, and we grope our way along. And e each may feel alone in our home lives if we’d haven’t got close…"
Aug 4
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks, no longerinbergen. It’s odd that some things I can listen to, like the opera and classical we enjoyed together,  But going places, like the folk festival, is still hard. I think it was hard to be there alone. I had gone to see…"
Aug 4
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I tried to go the Cambridge Folk Festival today. I had bought tickets months ago before I lost my husband. None of the friends who usually come could make it this year, but I thought I’d go anyway. My mistake was that I hadn’t remembered…"
Aug 4
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riet, I’d like to congratulate you on your happy marriage- no one can take that or the memories away from you. Love really doesn’t end, it lives on in you. So keep those happy memories close, but when the painful ones come, let them…"
Aug 4
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hello Tekwriter,  I ‘welcome” you to the club that no one wants to join, but we really do welcome you with warmth and understanding here.  What you describe is normal and we all go through it. It is early days for you and…"
Aug 3
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
" Melissa, I’m glad the reception is at home, because it is really important to have a space you can escape to when it gets too much. If I haven’t got “safe place” to retreat to, then,  I find, it’s more likely…"
Aug 1
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I know they wouldn’t want us to feel sad, but we do feel sad. And that is allowed. next year I turn 60 and friends of mine of the same vintage all want to “celebrate”. While I’d like to celebrate their birthdays, I…"
Jul 31
LP replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I’m so sorry you have suffered such a catastrophic loss, and it is very early days for you. It’s all very bewildering to know what “to do”,  but sometimes, I think, you just need  to “do” nothing and…"
Jul 31
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Back and forth I go, it seems. Had a good weekend with a friend, but then back home, and weeping all morning. Going through the motions of life. All my usual coping mechanisms aren’t working today, so maybe it’s time just for a lie-down.…"
Jul 31

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I lost my husband of 23 years to Multiple System Atrophy. I cared for him at home for three years. He died at home next to me.

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At 3:21am on June 2, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, LP.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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