"I think it's important for all of us to be able to acknowledge our feelings and accept that - for better or worse - those feelings are real and we are entitled to feel the way we do. Goodness knows we get enough people among the…"
"I know what Melissa means. I just want to get to the end already. My husband was 20 years older than me, I don’t want to live as long as he did - he had me, but I will have no one (and don’t want to), so all I want is…"
parkinsons and related degenerative illnesses are so cruel. Your grief starts long before your loved one dies. It’s starts as you lose them bit by bit - when you are no longer walking with them, sharing a meal (where you…"
"My husband passed away May 2018 from complications of Parkinson's Disease. He was diagnosed at age 50 and had it for 18 years. The meds they gave him at first were pulled off the market because they caused scar tissue in your organs…"
"Sometimes all you can do is sit tight and know that the really rock-bottom bad feelings ease up. They may not go away entirely, but they do lift a bit. I know the feeling - when everything becomes bleak. I just feel the pain and cling to the thought…"
"Yes, this is all so understandable. I'm coming up to 11 months, and I still want to run home to "be" with my husband even though he's not there. I feel a sort of "push/pull" effect with friends - sometimes I like being…"
"The support you all give each other here is so astonishing - complete strangers reaching out and comforting one another during a time that we all unfortunately know what it’s like to suffer through. You all make me believe in goodness again.
"For the first 6 months or so, I didn’t dream about my husband. I had often had happy dream of him during his lifetime, and it worried me that I hadn’t dreamt of him since he died. But then I had the most wonderful dream. My husband had…"
"New year is hard. Grey, chilly and and anxious about returning g to work. I was hoping i would feel more hopeful, but I’m dreading the year anniversary coming up at the end of Feb. Maybe it’s the thought of a new year of grief that…"
im so sorry you lost your love. It’s really early for you and very raw. It’s normal to feel this. Be kind to yourself and don’t push too hard. I’m ten months on and I have a hard time with couples and social…"
"This is my first xmas without Chris and OMG is it hard. I have never been through pain like this. I knew it would be rough but...this is unreal. I've been really down, and a little up (relatively) and then really down. My mood changes by the…"
"First Christmas is hard for me too. I had to brave the crowds today in the town centre, and at one point t I felt that if one more person said something jolly to me, I would punch them.. of course the next person was the vicar in the church where I…"
i know how people who have not been widowed can say the most patronising things without meaning too. No one says to my stepdaughter “you can get another dad”, but they say to me that I’ll meet someone else, as if my…"
"On another note, for us who were born in the 1950s, here’s a link to a video of a song that has always brought me to tears in a happy/sad way since we did this musical at school in the 70s. Little did I know then how true it would ring for me…"
"Ditto - I get this a lot. I live in a university town (Cambridge, England) and whenever I go out to any cultural event, I am surrounded by a sea of gentlemen of a certain age (retired), silver hair, grey beard, same clothes, just like my darling. It…"
Welcome to Widville, LP. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.