"Amby, that is really inspiring the way you just took small but steady steps to reclaim the things you love from the appalling pain of grief. I’m sure you’ll get there and you’ll be able to enjoy the wonderful memories too. I think…"
"That’s so great that you’re able to go in the boat. It may be hard at first, but step by step, you’ll be able to feel you’re carrying on the happiness and paying homage to a wonderful partnership. I immagine your husband…"
"Thanks, Tess. I find that now, 2 years and 7 months on, I can remember the happiness without too much pain. At first it was unbearable because I had lost so much. But as the fog begins to settle, I realise that remembering the happiness is a great…"
"Today is the 21st anniversary of our wedding. Back then, it was a warm sunny day. We married at the registry office, had a lunch for family and friends, and then trooped off to Duxford air museum so that my Amerindian nephew, who had turned 10 that…"
"Keeping some of your partner’s close is comforting - the favourite things, the things you always think of them in. I sometimes wear some of C’s favourite sweaters (ok, so it’s easier for a woman to do this with her…"
"Hi Rebekah, I know that book, it’s really good. There are quite a few books out there for young widows. It must be difficult to have to deal with other people’s shock. I was 58 when my husband died, and people were still shocked that I…"
"Dreams can be very vivid when you’re in crisis. One of my early widowhood dreams felt so real: my husband got up off the sofa and walked towards an open door into bright light, turned to smile at me and say he was now better ( he had been…"
"I too moved, to be close to my son and grandkids, which is fine. But I can’t / don’t want to be there every day, and it is not easy to meet people right now. Today is even worse where I live because it is crazy hot,, so…"
"I can totally relate to the days running together. Sunday was kind of special though as we had a sort of ritual of listening to a radio show and brunch in the morning, an easy, comfy day together reading or whatever, then a nice dinner. …"
"I feel the same, except on Friday after work/evening. This used to mean the beginning of a fun weekend with Greg - we would almost always have plans with friends, to go to the movies, or sharing dinner. The contrast between then &…"
"Weekends were really tough at the beginning, but not so much almost nine years later.
Now that most of us are quarantined, it's understandable that negative feelings will come and gnaw at us. We should make the most of our ability to…"
"I didn’t associate how Im feeling to Sunday’s or weekends, it makes sense —I don’t hear from the few friends I have on the weekends. For me, the days have started running together. I hope I’m not jumping around too much…"
"As I was trying to go to sleep last night, I was thinking about posting something like this here today.
Sundays have been the hardest since my first week as a widow. We weren't church-goers, but the weekends were always the most fun. When the…"
"Sundays are the worst. Loneliness bites worse than usual. Why? Because it is family day. Neighbors and friends are with their relatives. They are having a nice day. just like we used to. But that's all over. Only memories and sadness.And now…"
"Always. San had such a great faith and I have always admired that. I struggle to have the child like faith she had. I go to our church (virtually now) each week and volunteer there because it makes me feel closer to her but the loss and sadness is…"
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