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LP
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  • Cambridge
  • United Kingdom
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LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Yes, Riet and Cynthia, as Joni Mitchell once sang, you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone. I’ve had a woman who was bitterly divorced say to me, ‘ oh it would have been so much easier if he had just died’.…"
Sunday
LP replied to Miss Em's discussion Memorial jewellery
"I also have a lock of my husband’s hair. Like you, I bought an antique glass jar with a silver top and out the hair inside. It sits on my bed table "
Jun 10
LP replied to Miss Em's discussion Memorial jewellery
"My husband died this past February. During his illness, when he had lost the ability to move, he would always say “take me with you in spirit wherever you go”.I have had a small silver pendant made with a pinch of  his ashes sealed…"
Jun 10
LP replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Dear Steph, You don't have to move! At least not anytime soon - as long as you don't want to. I understand the pressure of what other people might think - or to be fair, what WE think other people might think, which may not be what they…"
Jun 10
LP replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"My bedroom is the same. I have Chris' ashes, photos, a lock of his hair, a poem he wrote for me. It is a sanctuary for me."
Jun 5
LP replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"I know what you mean about filling time. Sometimes the distractions work, sometimes they don't, and I think, "what's the point?". Sometimes I feel like I'm just marking time. But I do think that exercise - any kind of…"
Jun 5
LP replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"It will change. I know it's impossible to speed time up to the point at which it hurts less - that's the hard fact. But it will come. Hang in there."
Jun 5
LP replied to Tess's discussion The hardest time of day in the group Born in the 50s
"the morning does stretch ahead. It's when I walk downstairs, I think, now what? i do have work to do and a dog and cat to look after, but after having looked after my husband during his three-year illness, I'm at loose ends. knowing I…"
Jun 5
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, Barzan, no one to share jokes with, pet names. I am in the UK and we are going through something called Brexit at the moment - my Chris was an economist and he could explain all the ramifications to me. There is no one to ask now. I planted his…"
Jun 4
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes, Riet and Melissa, i go through that too. I was with good friends for lunch Sunday  - sunny, warm day, beautiful garden - and I could smile and join in the conversation, but always thinking "Chris isn't here". Although I…"
Jun 4
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I’m sorry to hear that. I haven’t got children of my own, but I would have thought that children would be a comfort. It must be so hurtful when they aren’t -on top of losing your partner.  I keep telling myself that no one…"
Jun 3
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks so much for your words. Melissa, I’ve been told too to stop playing “that card” -and only three weeks out! I’m sorry to hear that that remark came from your son. Perhaps he was scared at seeing you inconsolable-some…"
Jun 2
riet replied to LP's discussion Neurodegenerative disease MSA anyone else? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Dear LP, lots of Hugs and Love to you, Riet"
Jun 2
LP commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I’m feeling raw today. I’m three months in, and some days are ok-ish and others horrendous. But today was dreadful. I tried all my usual ‘feel better” tactics -did some household chores, put a few plants in the garden, walked…"
Jun 2
LP replied to LP's discussion Neurodegenerative disease MSA anyone else? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Dear Steve, thank you so much for your words. As you know, even with a long illness, you still go through shock. And I know that there is no “getting over”it. It is traumatic to see your spouse deteriorate physically.  And 50years…"
Jun 2
LP replied to LP's discussion Neurodegenerative disease MSA anyone else? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Dear Riet, what you describe is close close to my experience. You’re not alone. It is still early days for both of us, and the horrible thing is that there is no shortcut to the time when we feel better able to cope. But…"
Jun 2

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I lost my husband of 23 years to Multiple System Atrophy. I cared for him at home for three years. He died at home next to me.

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At 3:21am on June 2, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, LP.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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