"The support you all give each other here is so astonishing - complete strangers reaching out and comforting one another during a time that we all unfortunately know what it’s like to suffer through. You all make me believe in goodness again.
"For the first 6 months or so, I didn’t dream about my husband. I had often had happy dream of him during his lifetime, and it worried me that I hadn’t dreamt of him since he died. But then I had the most wonderful dream. My husband had…"
"New year is hard. Grey, chilly and and anxious about returning g to work. I was hoping i would feel more hopeful, but I’m dreading the year anniversary coming up at the end of Feb. Maybe it’s the thought of a new year of grief that…"
im so sorry you lost your love. It’s really early for you and very raw. It’s normal to feel this. Be kind to yourself and don’t push too hard. I’m ten months on and I have a hard time with couples and social…"
"This is my first xmas without Chris and OMG is it hard. I have never been through pain like this. I knew it would be rough but...this is unreal. I've been really down, and a little up (relatively) and then really down. My mood changes by the…"
"First Christmas is hard for me too. I had to brave the crowds today in the town centre, and at one point t I felt that if one more person said something jolly to me, I would punch them.. of course the next person was the vicar in the church where I…"
i know how people who have not been widowed can say the most patronising things without meaning too. No one says to my stepdaughter “you can get another dad”, but they say to me that I’ll meet someone else, as if my…"
"On another note, for us who were born in the 1950s, here’s a link to a video of a song that has always brought me to tears in a happy/sad way since we did this musical at school in the 70s. Little did I know then how true it would ring for me…"
"Ditto - I get this a lot. I live in a university town (Cambridge, England) and whenever I go out to any cultural event, I am surrounded by a sea of gentlemen of a certain age (retired), silver hair, grey beard, same clothes, just like my darling. It…"
"This takes a long time to get used to. A year is nothing. It’s absolutely OK to feel this way. I too have withdrawn from friends who haven’t lost anyone and don’t get it. I too find comfort in the company of other…"
"These posts are really moving and helpful to me I haven’t passed the year mark, but I’m already thinking about it as winter comes. For me, it’ll be 28th February. I’m dreading the thought that everyone else will think I…"
"I’m so sorry Shelly. Just let the sadness flow- we are here to hear you. I think that there is nothing we can do do to brace ourselves. They always tell you that if you’re caught by a riptide while swimming in the ocean, you should go…"
"Riet, I know that ache - wanting so hard the one thing in the world that we can’t have. It’s really hard. Just try to breathe and think about getting through the next few hours. I try only to live in the ‘now’ because…"
"You really don't know which holidays will be hardest. I found that C's birthday was hard because it made me think about the whole of his life, and that included the end of it and the fact that he would not live to see the age or ever be…"
"I too dread my first Christmas without Chris. He loved mince pies and all the Xmas trappings. I’ve planned to go away with a friend who is also at loose ends, but the buildup to the season is getting me down. It also means that winter is…"
"Ríete, I’m sorry that you had to experience this. Unfortunately, it’s very common. I find that even some close friends refrainfrom mentioning my husband, so I always bring him up. I refuse to allow him to be forgotten or to be…"
Welcome to Widville, LP. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.