You are not alone. Our roads are unbearably difficult. I finally deduced that I am experiencing what is termed "an existential crisis". Basically stated, or world has been so turned on is head (for us by grief) that our old…"
" Not sure if I qualify as seasoned ( 4+ years) but I relate to how you feel. For me I guess a good analogy is that I'm walking on shifting sands. If I turn around the path behind me has disappeared. If I look ahead the mirage that was the…"
You are so correct that not everyone is a pet person. I find it helps but of course I understand what you're saying.
That whole idea of not having answers seems to be a big one, doesn't it? I personally think…"
"That doesn't sound strange at all. Sounds perfectly normal to me.
I actually came across another thread here on WV that is titled "Has Anyone Else Gotten Worse As Time Goes By?" It seems there are a lot of us in…"
"Dear Everyone, My deepest condolences to one and all. I'm right there with you. Just over 4 years for me. I was writing to some newer widows just the other day. They are at 3-6 months and wondering why they are feeling worse.…"
"Dear Patra, KJPE, RFZ and anyone else in the early stages,
My heart goes out to you from one who has been going through this for 4 years, 4 months and 7 days. No, I don't keep track of it on a daily basis, but it's easy to calculate…"
" In my present life I try to stay "in the moment" so I don't go down the rabbit hole of anguish but I think I'm starting to realize that I'm in a phase where I'm purposefully suppressing memories to avoid the pain of my loss. Therefore when something comes up that that makes me think about my beloved I am immediately reunited with that hot searing grief of the original pain. Just needing to know I'm sorta normal of I'm not one of those people who is doing "better" at this point in time."
I do the EXACT same thing....it is too painful still!!!! I think you and I ARE normal...grief is a strange thing. I actually feel worse now....I think it's a good idea to stay in the moment. That's what do. Now, I don't try to fight my sadness - I think it is just appropriate and recognize that what it is.
I'd love to chat with you - I'll send you a friend request.
I put in a friend request. Then we can talk. I live near downtown LA in Montecito Heights. I co-lead a local Soaring Spirits group. We are meeting next at Twohey's restaurant in Alhambra on August 13at 7 p.m.y6. See you then..
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