"Lauralee, I can't speak for anyone else but that feeling was normal for me at least. Amanda's mom stayed with us for a few months after she died to help with the baby. And many times I woke up before she did, I was start freak out,…"
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Signs and Communications
Started this discussion. Last reply by Terry's Pam Oct 6, 2012. 27 Replies 3 Likes
I don't know what you all might think of this but I've found that if I talk to Amanda out loud, if I email her or private message her on facebook, I sometimes get a response. A few months ago I…Continue
Firsts without her (or him)
Started this discussion. Last reply by K21 May 18, 2012. 14 Replies 0 Likes
Well, today was a day I'd been dreading for awhile. Taxes. Amanda was the organized one in this relationship. She was the secretary/file management/bill payer/clerical/personal information specialist…Continue
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Terry's Pam replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"Yes, the first was a hawk that came very close to our oldest son's head on the day of the service. This would have been something Terry would have loved to see, he used to stand outside and watch the hawks catch the thermals while they were…"
katerose1 replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"I have. And I know what you mean---it could be just in my mind. But, for example, I was in a bookstore we often went to together, and I had just finished crying up a storm in the car, feeling so sad and lonely. I looked up and right in front of me…"
CharliesGirl replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"Charlie had a thing for feathers (well, anything natural). When he found them, he saved them. He has them arrayed fan like over a gun rack in his office. Occasionally I would find one to add to his collection. He had only been gone a couple of weeks…"
mariantym commented on LarryT's blog post One step behind
"Hi Larry, I sympathize a lot with your feelings and I appreciate your rationalization of things that often seem outside the realm of our cmoprehension. I am glad you had this wonderful afternoon with your son. At times I also feel bitter, it is hard…"
LarryT replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"It does my heart good that people are still responding to this. Glad to know I'm not alone. Jesus talked about miracles and told his desciples "these signs shall follow them that believe..." Psychology says the very act of believing…"
Lori replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
" For the first 2 days no and then on the 3rd morning. I could feel him walking with me and the dog..our priest died a year before and he was walking with us as well. The next day I found a valentine in he had sent this year…"
really_trying replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"I believe in signs. OH, I DO believe in them!
My Husband always, always loved Hummingbirds. We had a feeder on our back deck and he'd sit out there, watching them fly around the feeder. Then, he got ill enough, and…"
Spike replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"Larry, that´s right. Loosing your wife does that to you. But it does not make you crazy though. Other senses awake inside of you.
When Hanna graduated as a teacher her friends gave her a tree. I don´t know the English name of it,…"
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mariantym replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
"Yesterday I was talking to a friend about the moment when Carl and I decided to commit to each other. We had decided to have an open relationship the day before and then we were at a club and we just sat by the window talking and talking, we just…"
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The Wailin' Jennys - The Parting Glass
"Wow Larry. that was lovely. i thought it so spiritual and so real. thanks."
bj628(Bonnie) replied to LarryT's discussion Signs and Communications
" Yes, I find dimes.. in the stragest places... and music has come on the radio.. I miss place things. and feel I am often gided to them..
We had doves start coming to they yard about 3 years ago.. John had seveal bird feeders. So I…"
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Posted on July 24, 2012 at 2:15pm 12 Comments 1 Like
This weekend I went to Amandas moms and Amandas sister was home with her two kids. Isaac (3 years old) and Alana (3 months old). Alana is partially named after Amanda. Alana Nicole, Amanda Nicole. It was the first time I met this baby and the first thing she did when I looked at her was smile and coo and gurgle. It was like she knew exactly who I was. Yeah, I might have gotten a little emotional at that.
Later, Samuel and I went outside so he could swing. He is 17 months old but has…
ContinueGearing up for a Cry Storm.
Posted on May 18, 2012 at 1:54pm 8 Comments 0 Likes
If you live on the coast, there are certain precaustions you have to take for hurricane season. Those of you who live on the west coast have to prepare somewhat for earthquakes. Here in the southeast we have to be ready for tornado season.
And those of us who have lost our beloved sometimes know ahead of time there will be days that will shake us to the core. Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays whatever. Most of the time its seems to be just us crying with those around us rolling their…
ContinuePerspective
Posted on May 12, 2012 at 2:17pm 13 Comments 3 Likes
There is something that happened right after Amanda died that I've hesitated to tell on here. Partly because it's very special and very personal, but mainly because it's too hard to talk about. But for some reason, today, that little voice is really on me to tell it, now. So here goes.
On February 20, 2010, Amanda had a misscarraige. Only 12 weeks and she knew something wasnt right. We went to the emergency and walking in the door she went into labor. They took her on back while I…
ContinueEducation or close to family
Posted on March 28, 2012 at 2:42pm 9 Comments 0 Likes
I have a decision to make.
The decision is simply do I stay or do I go? We live in an area with an ok school system (but not the best) and both my family and Amandas family live almost an hour away. We live where we live because of the proximity to Amandas job. That is no longer an issue. The next town over has one of the best school systems in the state, and it's also where my job is located. We talked several times about eventually moving so Samuel could go to school there. In fact…
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- At 5:01pm on August 2, 2012,
mikeg said… Thanks Larry, much appreciated yes hoping it helps and looking forward to helping others if and where i can :)
- At 4:56pm on July 6, 2012,
chrism said… Cheers Larry,I really appreciate your offer and i,m sure you are correct in what you say,so don,t be suprised if I take you up on your offer,take care Chris
- At 12:16am on May 13, 2012,
dreaming13000 said…
Hello sweet Larry, in 1996 who'd of thunk we'd be here together after all these years dealing with a very similiar yet different grief ....But God has a promise in Isaiah 61....beauty for ashes, an oil of joy for mourning and a garment of praise for sorry, restoration of the ruins in Zion!! (loosly paraphrased hehe) Thank you for telling me about this place
- At 1:20pm on April 21, 2012,
Denise said… - Happy Birthday!!
- At 2:30am on April 13, 2012,
Hunt said… Oops - got that wrong, Larry - happy to support you here too! I am so sorry for your loss.
- At 2:29am on April 13, 2012, Hunt said…
Ash-
Willow is beautiful. It was a pleasure chatting this evening with you. My prayers are with you and your lovely daughter. I hope to get to know you better and to be able to support you.
- At 5:24pm on March 30, 2012,
Marsha said… Thank you for the friend request. I am so sorry for the reason you are here but glad you found WV. Thank you for sharing the pictures of you, Amanda and your precious little guy. A beautiful family. Look forward to seeing you in chat!
- At 9:09am on March 26, 2012,
Rebirth.Tanya (Tanya) said… - Thank you for your friendship Larry...I read your story and I am so very sorry for your loss- your wife was beautiful, as is that little snuggle bug of yours.
It's great that you found this site, and I hope you continue to draw comfort in knowing you are not alone in your journey. As difficult as it is, you will get through it, with your little co-pilot by your side- just take it day by day...
Wishing you peace, strength, and comfort today and always...
Tanya
- At 3:13am on March 23, 2012,
Ace said… LarryT,
That "Am I Dreaming" is what I remember most about the first few months- thought it I just kept plugging along- taking care of business- I would wake up one morning with him next to me telling me I was having a nightmare. I did everything that I thought would make him proud if I was just in a bad dream- took care of my boys needs and forced myself to get out of bed, shower and do everything that needed getting done when all I wanted to do was crawl in bed and never get out. Sorry for the reason your here with us in this club now....but I can tell you that there will be a shift and things will change-how well that is the mystery...who will be be without our partners - what we do with our days now that they are gone? Whatever it is that you do....there is always WV to come back to and checkin with others doing the same journey....so where not alone even if it feels that way most of the time now. Glad you found us and we are friends. Ace
- At 12:41pm on March 22, 2012,
poohpunkie said… LarryT, thank you for friending me ;) Wish you peace.
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