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Just trying to deal with this.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Larryh0823 Mar 4. 230 Replies

Lost my wife on January 20th. Just need to talk with someone who understands what I am going through

 

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Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Kawboy, So sorry to hear about the passing of your dog.  It seems that so many things can come at us as we travel through this journey.  For all intense purposes I lost my wife at home also as I was here with her along.  The…"
Jul 17
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Leslie, While I am much fresher to this situation than you, I will be at 6 months on Thursday, I have found this ordeal to be very hard to go through.  I went from what I thought was a process of recovery to watching her take her last breath…"
Jul 17
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I want to thank you for your words of encouragement.  I am very sorry that you have to go through the death of a husband on two occasions. That would be so hard to deal with.  Especially since your second husband wound up living such a…"
Jul 10
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Kelly, Thanks for writing back to me.  As opposed to you I do not have much of a support group.  There is no one left that knew my wife and I as a couple that I talk to more than once a month.  The vast majority of my support comes…"
Jul 10
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Kawboy, Good luck it sounds like you have a plate full that you are going through.  I am always here and available to listen and offer any support that I can. Larry"
Jul 10
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Kristen, You have found the right group.  Everyone here knows exactly what you are going through.  I lost my wife, Sandra this January 20th.  While I am not fortunate as you to have personal friends and family support, I have found…"
Jul 10
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Leslie, Thank you for your words of wisdom.  From the sound of your post it sounds as though you have been able to deal with all of this and make take the steps to lead you forward.  It is so nice of you to offer support to us in the…"
Jul 10
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Kelly, I fully understand all that you are going through and I admire your determination to not second guess or what if this over and over.  I know how easy that is to do.  Before I went through this I had never even heard of…"
Jul 10
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Kawboy, I understand exactly what you are saying.  I lost my wife on January 20th to a colon infection that spread to other organs and ultimately dropped her blood pressure so low that it stopped her heart.  During those last few weeks…"
Jul 10
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"Yes Sir I sent out a few to the ones I have corresponded with in hopes that responded will in some way help both parties.  I look to give back as much as be supported.  That is how I have survived, giving of myself.  Thank you for…"
Jul 10
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Kelly, The morning I hear of your story the more we have in common.  Except for not getting hit by a car a lot is the same.  It could be that Sandra got sepsis from the number of cat scans that she had.  It is fairly common for…"
Jul 9
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"DD, I so much agree with what you have to say.  I am 62 and I retired in December to be Sandra's caregiver.  At that point I thought this could be long process and she needed me here to help her so I came home.  I honestly could…"
Jul 9
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Bonaroo, Unfortunately that is just a catch all phrase for people to use when they don't know what to say.  It is also unfortunate that people quickly move on from the loss that you suffered and get right back to their life.  They do…"
Jul 9
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Lions fan, My wife and I met later in life.  Next month would have been our 20th anniversary.  Although I was married prior to her she was by far the love of my life.  I am sure you are finding comfort being close to your…"
Jul 9
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"DD, I know ever though you are not bitter and hold no one to blame, it had to be so horrible for you to have no support except for your work as you have gone through this for the past 8 years.  You have reached out to the right place now as…"
Jul 9
Larryh0823 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Lions fan, I can only imagine how you are feeling having to deal with such a tragic and sudden accident.  I understand that the camp you are going to can be very uplifting and from reading your words you seem to be dealing well with what you…"
Jul 9

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At 8:07am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…

Yes Sir I sent out a few to the ones I have corresponded with in hopes that responded will in some way help both parties.  I look to give back as much as be supported.  That is how I have survived, giving of myself.  Thank you for your willingness to reach out.  It goes both ways.  Always here if you need an ear to listen.  Have a blessed week. 

At 7:39pm on March 20, 2017, ashleynicole8378 said…

I lost Mark on January 2nd, so only a few weeks before your loss. I just don't even really know how I'm doing. My mood changes quite a bit, so definitely on that roller coaster with you. I missed him so much today. I always do, but it was just really getting to me today. I kept wanting to text him while I was at work and just talk about my day. I haven't been to his grave since the burial, but my mother in law sent me a picture of his marker because it just got there after we ordered it. It was a harsh reminder that he is really gone. I feel his spiritual presence a lot, but its heartbreaking to think of his physical body being gone. Every one says that it's not healthy to play the what if game, but I don't see how it can be helped. It feels only natural to wonder, but try not to beat yourself up over it. Maybe try to find an in person grief support group, if you haven't already. I went to one last week. It went ok, On one hand, it felt great to actually talk about it openly with people who somewhat get it. On the other hand, I'm the only person in there who has lost a spouse. I've been having a lot of why me feelings lately, like what can't things just go right for me like they seem too almost everyone else. So being the only widow in there, just added to that and got me really angry. 

At 7:15pm on March 19, 2017, ashleynicole8378 said…

Hi Larry, I'm still learning how to use this site.. so just saw your friend request. How are you doing? Hope you are holding on ok.

At 4:11pm on February 11, 2017, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Larryh0823. I'm so sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the help link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.
 
 
 

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