"SandyKay, If you feel like talking a little bit I would love to talk with you. I feel a connection to you as my wife's name was Sandra Kay. I lost her on January 20, 2017 from a sudden illness which was supposed to according…"
There is no way to predict this journey for you. I have known some that get over in as few as several months then decide that they want someone new. Of those some have even remarried in less than a year. Then there as…"
I thought I would send a few words to give you a different perspective on what you are going through. As much as you can you need to be able to hang on to those people that are willing to support and help you. I lost my wife in…"
"Allmyheart, How long ago was it that your died? I know what it is like to go through the what ifs. I am pretty much past that point now because it really does no good expect to keep you feeling worse. How much of a…"
"Allmyheart, I am going to tell you a little about my story and if you feel up to it would love to heart what you have been through. To start with my wife died January 20, 2017. She had just turned 64 the month before she…"
I really do know much of what you are feeling. Right up until the very end I had very reason to believe that my wife was going to recover as all of her doctors had said so. She died from septic shock. Her blood pressure went…"
I can only imagine how you are feeling. I am now almost 14.5 months into this journey and it is still so very difficult. Right up until the very end we felt that my wife was going to recover and then our life would continue…"
I fully understand what you are going through. I lost my wife in January of 2017. She had a short illness which we were assured by the doctors would not be life threatening and she would recover. However, they missed and…"
I am so sorry that you lost your husband such a short time ago. I truly know how that feels. I lost my wife very suddenly in January of last year and have struggled with that mightily since. The in August of last my mother…"
Could you possibly have had a worse date for this to happen than 3 days before Christmas? I am some distance ahead of you having lost my wife on January 20, 2017, but mine was just as sudden as yours. She had septic shock…"
I just read what you had to say and felt I just needed to respond. I lost my wife on January 20, 2017. While I am quite behind you in time I can fully relate to much of which you had to say. My wife and I met a little later in…"
I totally agree with you. I have heard that verse quoted so many times and like you I can not find the peace and comfort that verse is supposed to give. My wife died January 20th here at home after we had repeatedly been…"
Yes Sir I sent out a few to the ones I have corresponded with in hopes that responded will in some way help both parties. I look to give back as much as be supported. That is how I have survived, giving of myself. Thank you for your willingness to reach out. It goes both ways. Always here if you need an ear to listen. Have a blessed week.
I lost Mark on January 2nd, so only a few weeks before your loss. I just don't even really know how I'm doing. My mood changes quite a bit, so definitely on that roller coaster with you. I missed him so much today. I always do, but it was just really getting to me today. I kept wanting to text him while I was at work and just talk about my day. I haven't been to his grave since the burial, but my mother in law sent me a picture of his marker because it just got there after we ordered it. It was a harsh reminder that he is really gone. I feel his spiritual presence a lot, but its heartbreaking to think of his physical body being gone. Every one says that it's not healthy to play the what if game, but I don't see how it can be helped. It feels only natural to wonder, but try not to beat yourself up over it. Maybe try to find an in person grief support group, if you haven't already. I went to one last week. It went ok, On one hand, it felt great to actually talk about it openly with people who somewhat get it. On the other hand, I'm the only person in there who has lost a spouse. I've been having a lot of why me feelings lately, like what can't things just go right for me like they seem too almost everyone else. So being the only widow in there, just added to that and got me really angry.
Welcome to Widville, Larryh0823. I'm so sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.
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