"Thank you, Judy! Made it through the day - now just have to get through the night. Friends and family even remembered without any prompting from me. I am truly grateful for them. "
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Lauralee commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Today is Robert's birthday. I can't believe that I am now experiencing all these special days alone for the second time. Already, the date of his death has passed (March 3), our wedding anniversary (April 17) and now…"
Lauralee commented on Paul R's blog post Sexist Post Below but men need help
"You are welcome, Paul. And I meant to say first off that I am very sorry for your loss. It must be difficult to be in a new place and not have family close. Making inquiries at your church sounds like a very good place to start…"
Lauralee commented on Paul R's blog post Sexist Post Below but men need help
"Paul - I always read every cleaning article in Good Housekeeping, Martha Stewart Living and Yahoo in search of "easier" ways to keep the house clean. Nothing keeps dust away for long so there is no shortcut for that - dust as often…"
Lauralee replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion 3 Good Things
"I just had to write in this discussion forum today. My three good things for today are:
1) Enjoyed the beautiful sunny day without a cloud in the sky by doing some gardening, weeding and trimming plus refilled the bird feeders and…"
Lauralee commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"adrift - I will pray for you today and for peaceful days to come. Today is my second wedding anniversary without Robert. What a huge difference from this time last year and I don't really want to think about how it was the year…"
Lauralee commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"LJ1 - I have definitely been re-living my own experience while watching this very sad event and have to turn the tv off periodically because it is so upsetting. I feel so badly for everyone there and here on this site. I have a feeling…"
Karen (funnybne) left a comment for Lauralee
"thank you for the friend request. This is the hardest walk I have ever had to take and now I dont have to do it alone, everyone here knows what im feeling. I appreciate the kind words
karen"
Lauralee commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Lori - I also had trouble sleeping for almost a year. I got nightlights for my room and the upstairs rooms and that helped somewhat. I don't particularly think I am afraid of the dark but it did help. I also took up knitting…"
Lauralee commented on Karen (funnybne)'s blog post No happily ever after
"Karen - I am so sorry for your loss. Three months is so fresh so be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to grieve. I am at 13 months and while it never really gets better, it does get easier. It sounds like our stories are…"
Lauralee commented on moderndayjune's blog post Re-writing History
"moderndayjune - I am so sorry for your loss and your additional pain. The more I read the posts on this site, the more I am so disappointed in humanity and the way people treat other people. Like you, my husband had been married for…"
Lauralee commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I have written so many angry and sad posts but now feel compelled to write this one. My husband Robert loved games of chance. Much of our married life involved watching particular number sets for the lottery, betting on sporting…"
Lauralee replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Dreams and signs. Does your loved one appear to you in dreams?
"I have written so many angry and sad posts but now feel compelled to write this one. My husband Robert loved games of chance. Much of our married life involved watching particular number sets for the lottery, betting on sporting…"
Lauralee commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Sue - that is so interesting that you posted something today about dreams because I had the 6th dream about Robert last night on the 13th month anniversary of his death. I have not been able to control when the dreams come like you, and I have…"
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Journal of Love
Posted on March 22, 2013 at 1:02pm 4 Comments 0 Likes
Not wanting to have my grief be all about the anger I felt towards Robert's family for treating me so badly after his death, I started a Journal of Love that I write to Robert often. Below is an exerpt that I wrote on 8/13/12:
"You were the only man in my life who didn't hurt or use me. You were the only one who really loved me. I never experienced anything so intense and wonderful. You had such a tough life too - so many hurtful things happened to you your entire life and yet you…
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- At 11:34am on April 14, 2013,
Karen (funnybne) said… thank you for the friend request. This is the hardest walk I have ever had to take and now I dont have to do it alone, everyone here knows what im feeling. I appreciate the kind words
karen
- At 7:44am on March 12, 2013,
Kathy said… - I lost my husband of 34+ years suddenly to a massive heart attack on August 16. Two months later I lost my mom to cancer. My daughter and I were with her when she took her final breath. Luckily I have a very good relationship with my husband's ex-wife and their children. One of their daughters has been helping me get rid of clutter at my moms house. It is up for sale. Hope we will be friends as we can relate.
- At 4:50pm on February 11, 2013,
Mford4 (Marlene) said… I am glad I could help....that is why we are all here. I believe in sharing my honesty in what we are going through allows us to say to each other...we are normal for the state we are in. We all just hope that sometime in the future "normal" gets redefined to a better spot. Hugs Marlene
- At 2:30pm on August 23, 2012,
bj628(Bonnie) said… (((((((((((Lauralee))))))))) My daughter had surgery in January.. I spent the night in a chair/bed.. Had slept in one of those being with John almost 24/7 . I actually did ok, as I was focused on her. and it was a different hospital. I can say I had some moments.. but kept calm to take care of her. Sending you warm thoughts on taking your best friend to the Hospital ..
- At 9:45pm on June 25, 2012,
Joyce said… Lauralee: I think that the other crying is unfortunately all part of the process along with the reading and crying here. It is all something that we all go through and it helps us in our journey. Hugs!
- At 10:33pm on June 19, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
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- At 9:08pm on June 19, 2012, Joyce said…
Welcome Lauralee: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It". When you feel comfortable, join a group,for instance, I belong to Widowed in 2011 and long term illness. Under forums at the top of the page, there is a tab for forums, scroll down until you find Introduce yourself.. some people start from there. If you have any questions, please just message me.
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