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Leeky
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  • Morrisville, NC
  • United States
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Steve replied to Leeky's discussion The Long Good-Bye in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Leaky, and everyone. No judgement here at all. I know how difficult it is to walk this journey of loss and try to find some happiness, peace after. I also repartnered, in December of 2013, after my first partner passed March 1st 2009. Its been a…"
Jun 19
Susan replied to Leeky's discussion The Long Good-Bye in the group Long-Term Illness
"Athena,     I understand what your saying. :-)  I still have times where I get weepy... But most of the time I'm OK. ... Susan"
Jun 19
Gaining Strength replied to Leeky's discussion The Long Good-Bye in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Leeky,  The long goodbye is a very appropriate way to describe the process and eventual event.  It is wonderful that you found someone to spend time with. Judging other people for trying to grab comfort is  for those who lack…"
Jun 19
Athena53 replied to Leeky's discussion The Long Good-Bye in the group Long-Term Illness
"Thanks for this, Leeky- a lot of it really resonates with me.  I didn't have the long goodbye you had, but it was clear that my husband Ron was failing fast in the last year or so, and he'd been diagnosed 10 years earlier with a…"
Jun 19
Pointbass replied to Leeky's discussion The Long Good-Bye in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Leeky, it's been quite some time since I have been active here on WV, but your post really struck a chord. I lost my wife of nearly 35 years in May 2016. She had been battling cancer pretty much since 1990 but in particular the last 5 years…"
Jun 19
Susan replied to Leeky's discussion The Long Good-Bye in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Leeky,    Don't worry, I won't be getting in line to judge you. :-) I sometimes feel like I was slowly saying good bye to Paul for about 2 years. If not saying Goodbye, I knew hr was slowly dying. ( He had Glioblastoma stage 4…"
Jun 19
Leeky added a discussion to the group Long-Term Illness
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The Long Good-Bye

My grief counselor just told me about the Long Good-Bye and it made things so much clearer for me.  I was feeling guilty on so many levels over the last month.  I miss Lee terribly - you don't lose someone you spent 34 years with without missing them.  But I've also been moving on with my life.  I've gone on a zip line, saw an off-broadway musical, spent a spa weekend with a girlfriend and I'm doing a segway tour this weekend.  But I'm also dating a wonderful man, a man Lee called the best…See More
Jun 19
Leeky added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2017
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Father's Day

What a bitter-sweet day.  I look at our children and feel so thankful they had such an amazing man for their father.  And I remember all the times we did things together for Father's Day.  When they were little, helping them make the "perfect" gift and then decorating a cake, reminding them to get him something as they entered the self-absorbed teen years, watching the tears come to his eyes after they were grown and sent him thoughtful gifts and called to tell him they loved him. He wasn't…See More
Jun 19
Boo replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"I was 19 when we got married...47 years ago.  And now he's gone from our house. (March 30)  Well, yes, he's here..everywhere.  I can totally relate to your feelings, Leeky.  I just posted on another forum about music..…"
Jun 16
Lady J replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"I can relate. I only been to the grocery store once since he passed 02/26/17. I found myself going on auto pilot and reaching for all his favorite foods. I didn't know what to buy. My life revolved around him, I identified myself as Mrs. ----…"
May 8
Leeky commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"I still cry multiple times a day.  I commented on that to a very close friend and they seemed surprised.  I was surprised that it came as a surprise.  The love of my life hasn't even been gone a full month.  Someone I spent…"
May 3
ashleynicole8378 replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"I absolutely hate being called single. I have a young son, but I can't stand thinking of myself as a single mother. I prefer the term solo parent, because I no longer have anyone to share the parenting responsibilities with, but am not single.…"
May 2
ashleynicole8378 replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"We lost our husbands on the same day. My "babe", Mark passed on January 2 2017 around 9pm. What an awful day that was. "
May 2
Tania replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"Oh, such a great question. Ok,I'm a widow, but single? I don't want to even say it and I sure don't feel that I'm single. I'm still married to the man I love. I still think of myself as part of a couple. My identity has been…"
May 2
Sheena replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"I relate to this Leeky. I feel like I've lost my identity when my husband died. Who was I before him? I wear the clothes I remember him complementing me on. With food, I waiver between eating only what "we" liked and wanting to avoid…"
May 2
mcbeth (Mary Beth) replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"I know exactly how you feel. I lived at home until the day I married Tom at age 20. For 42 years of my life it was "we" everything. I too, wore what he liked me in, I watched what he watched on TV, listened to what he listened to on…"
May 2

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At 4:32pm on April 28, 2017, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Leeky. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.
 
 
 

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