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Leftbehind replied to Trippintoni's discussion What was I thinking?
"I am so sorry that you are scared, what exactly are you scared of?  Your husband, a new marriage, the loss of the old one?"
Oct 25, 2013
Leftbehind replied to laurajay's discussion Share your small pluses ( victories) as you move through your grief
"My six year old asked my this morning if anyone was ever mean to me when I was little.  I said yes, and told him of the situation.  He asked if I knew where this girl lived, I told his yes, and he replied " take me to her house…"
Oct 18, 2013
Leftbehind replied to missing my love...'s discussion Anyone experiencing challenges with adult step children?
"I was with my Adam for close to 15 years when he passed.  I had 2, 15 and half year old step children, who I had been a part of their lives and loved completely for all of.  They were our only children for over 8 years, before God blessed…"
Oct 3, 2013
Leftbehind commented on JK (OK)'s blog post Realization that I am truly alone
"Jake, you are absolutely right, all the small things rolled into one is enormous.  It is so hard being alone, especially after having someone to rescue you for so long.  Prayers for you my friend."
Oct 2, 2013
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Leftbehind commented on Dianne in Nevada's blog post Time
"You are an inspiration, and so proud of you for so many things you have done.  I had my loves 65 Chevy brought home from storage last week, I haven't been able to think about looking at it in the past year and a half.  For whatever…"
Sep 28, 2013
Leftbehind replied to Jolie.P's discussion Still feeling married after death of your spouse?
"It is close to 18 Months since I lost the love of my life, I haven't once taken of my rings, and have such a hard time even contemplating the act.  I am and will always be a Mrs.  Being a young widow, people constantly comment about…"
Sep 27, 2013
Leftbehind commented on Wendy's blog post How to Date Me, a Widow
"Thank you Wendy, that was so perfectly said.  God bless you, and your new journey."
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Sep 26, 2013
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"New treasures are amazing, but are so hard to create with your heart broken in two."
Sep 26, 2013
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Sep 26, 2013
Susan B commented on Leftbehind's blog post How do you learn to ride the waves of grief?
"time doesn't heal by itself, but it allows us the opportunity to remember, reflect, realign, appreciate, forgive, decide, plan, express, support... and finally, to love...starting with ourselves.   Facing grief is frightening, it is…"
Sep 14, 2013
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"The only trick I found any use for was to BREATHE. <3"
Sep 14, 2013
Dianne in Nevada commented on Leftbehind's blog post How do you learn to ride the waves of grief?
"I posted the following on my Facebook timeline and also on the Widville FB page earlier today. It's from Tom Zuba and he says exactly what has helped me to heal. I had to forgive a lot of people and a lot of things and it wasn't easy ...…"
Sep 13, 2013
Morgana (Janet) commented on Leftbehind's blog post How do you learn to ride the waves of grief?
"Time doesn't heal all wounds.  We learn to cope and live with it as best we can.  I learned to not fight it and let it completely engulf me if needed but know that it will pass.  We all grieve differently just as we are all uniqu…"
Sep 13, 2013

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How do you learn to ride the waves of grief?

Posted on September 13, 2013 at 7:58am 5 Comments

I try so hard to love how I want to be loved and to listen how I want to be listened to, but sometimes I want to smack someone for not appreciating what they have!   Being widowed for only 15 months, I knew this pain would never get better, but I prayed that it would get easier.  They say time heals, but how much time?  I can be so strong and confident one moment, and the next on my knees sobbing.  I can't control the waves of grief, and I have yet to learn how to ride them.  How do you…


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At 8:11am on August 9, 2013, JerseyGirl said…

Thanks so much for your friend request.  It sure helps logging in when I need some sanity and knowing we're all in that same boat.

Thanks again!


At 1:11pm on August 2, 2013, Brucer said…

Hi Leftbehind,

I am so sorry for your loss.  It has been 9 months for me and some days still feel like it was yesterday.  I dread having to file documents for taxes, insurance, etc and having to deal with the question of Marital status.  My heart goes out to you!

I noticed you are from Cleveland.  I lived in Mentor, OH all my life until May of 2010 when we moved to Albuquerque for a job opportunity and better weather.

I hope you are able to find moments of peace in this journey.  All my best,


At 8:32am on August 2, 2013, judy said…

Hi Leftbehind,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you.  I look forward to getting to know you and support you in any way I can.


At 7:01pm on August 1, 2013, rodsgurl09 said…

I'm so sorry for the loss that brings you here, but glad you've found us. Take a look around, the Groups are a good place to start; you will find others in circumstances similar to your own. Let me know if I can help you navigate the site.


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