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Handling this journey

Started this discussion. Last reply by BlueHaze Jan 8, 2014. 5 Replies

Boy I thought I was having a good day but I sit here crying I just miss my husband so much. He really was my true love and I just don't know if I will ever get over his loss, it will be two monthes…Continue


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LindaLou commented on Leosadie's blog post Everything
"I am 21 months out..I had the sleeping issues too...could not sleep long enough....for me it lasted about a the sleeplessness happens now... I finally had to give in to it and allow it play itself out..when I did that…"
Feb 15, 2014
Leosadie replied to New-widow's discussion celebration of life ideas needed
"My husband always said to bury him in a pine box. The funeral home that we used actually sold them that were handmade one at a time but we ended up choosing something else. We did not have a church service at all just graveside and then we went to…"
Feb 11, 2014
Leosadie commented on Leosadie's blog post Everything
"Sundays are really hard it is so lonely I'm sleeping in our bed because I want to feel his prescience all the time. I still have about a dozen thank yous to do yet hoping to get them done soon. Thanks for all the support"
Feb 11, 2014
Keroleen commented on Leosadie's blog post Everything
"I am about a month and a half out and I feel the same way. I'm tired all the time but can't stay asleep for long enough to recover. There has to be a balance somewhere, I just hope we find it soon."
Feb 11, 2014
marti67 commented on Leosadie's blog post Everything
"I wasn't able to come back to our bed for several weeks after my husband died. And then to fall asleep was really a challenge. I had the TV on for all the night. But it will be a bit better day by day.Where are you (trying to) sleep?"
Feb 10, 2014
marti67 commented on Leosadie's blog post Everything
"KayRo, it is only one month for you... for mw 4 and half. I remember my1st month as it is a century far from me... I started to work pretty early but I could't do all the things I did before. Ok, it's ok. Be patience. Even if I felt I was…"
Feb 10, 2014
lonelyinaz commented on Leosadie's blog post Sleep
"Grief counselor told me about black strap molasses, the real dark stuff, you can get it at a local Sprouts or Whole Foods. Whole milk only, not any low fat, etc.  Mix one cup with two teas. of black strap and warm it up to a little better…"
Jan 21, 2014
missincin (Dan) commented on Leosadie's blog post Sleep
"I've tried everything from over the counter pills, teas, and herbal concoctions nothing ever worked. Got Ambien from my doc and its working. I have cut down the amount and will reduce it down again in a month. Don't like pills but…"
Jan 21, 2014
Patrick commented on Leosadie's blog post Sleep
"I never managed to find a reliable solution, if I hadn't slept well for a few days I'd take an over the counter sleeping tablet so that I'd get one good night's sleep occasionally and break the cycle of lying awake because I…"
Jan 21, 2014
Susan commented on Leosadie's blog post Sleep
"When I started yoga, I learned some breathing techniques that helped me get to sleep. One is berating in bad then out of one nostril, then switching nostrils. Concentrating on the sequence helped me quiet my mind. Another technique is the rule of…"
Jan 19, 2014
BlueHaze replied to Leosadie's discussion Handling this journey
"I agree w/Ladyvic wholeheartedly! No matter where you go or what you do your heart goes with you. Don't ever feel ashamed or embarrased about grieving or beat yourself up b/c you're not able to function. We're hardwired to grieve, to…"
Jan 8, 2014
Joyce commented on Leosadie's blog post Today
"Hi Brenda:  Tylenol pm or the generic works for me and doesn't make me groggy.  Sending you hugs"
Jan 8, 2014
my roses commented on Leosadie's blog post Today
"My roses Another aspect that I forgot to say is regarding relaxation and tension in the body and how sexuality can bring a release to the pelvic region of your body and promote endorphins If you go to women only private discussion group and read My…"
Jan 7, 2014
my roses commented on Leosadie's blog post Today
"My roses When my my Wes could not sleep, and also me as a Carer we used 2 different things.  One was melatonin.Our Dr. did  special prescription for us and we took it to a compounding pharmacy( i.e. one that makes something  rather…"
Jan 7, 2014
lonelyinaz commented on Leosadie's blog post Today
"Hi Brenda,  I know all about the lack of sleep.  I personally take a walmart allergy otc medication.  Just the equate brand, there usually red/white capsules, but no addiction.  There is also a generic Unisom that they sell as an…"
Jan 6, 2014
Ladyvic replied to Leosadie's discussion Handling this journey
"Sweetie, I lost my husband a year ago. I had a huge break down tonight. Crying like the day I lost him. Allow yourself to grieve as long as you need, anywhere you are, and any way you need to. 2 months is just like yesterday.  I think the day…"
Jan 3, 2014

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Posted on February 9, 2014 at 11:15am 5 Comments

It has just been a little over 3 monthes since I lost my husband. I don't seem to be getting over it, as my no sleep has seemed to get worse and worse I just miss him so much all the time. I don't feel like doing anything but sitting and just begging out. I used to love to go into my craft room and scrapbook and he would always come and see what I was doing and it used to irritate me and I so would give anything to have him come and bug me. If I could just sleep better I know I would feel… Continue


Posted on January 16, 2014 at 7:04pm 4 Comments

Does anyone have any good remedies to help me get some good sleep



Posted on January 6, 2014 at 6:39pm 4 Comments

Boy did I get a combination of mail today. I got an eob for my husband for hospice for his care on 11/01 and he passed away 11/02. I also had a sympathy card, and then I got a life insurance check. Boy isn't that the combination it really started the water works for me. I have had chronic insomnia for many years and of course since my husband has passed away it has gotten worse. I'm on sonata and lorazepam and I'm sleeping about every other night and I really am starting to hate it. Does… Continue

Christmas and thanksgiving

Posted on December 21, 2013 at 1:48pm 6 Comments

I just lost my husband of 33 years on November 2 and my daughter and my only granddaughter moved to Boise I'D they won't be here this Christmas because everyone used the time to come and help take care of my husband. So today on the phone I asked if they would come and spend Christmas with me next year and she told me no. Mind you her husbands parents also live in Boise. Just literally broke my heart all over again. What is wrong with kids these days I was so looking forward to next Christmas… Continue

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At 5:35pm on November 30, 2013, judy said…

Hi Leosadie,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


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