Linda, everyone grieves differently! Some do it for a short time and others grieve for years and/or forever. I don't believe that there is a certain amount of time to complete the grieving process. The time it takes is the correct amount of time. My wife and I were married for just short of 52 years, we were extremely close and did everything together for all those years. We never even took separate vacations or went anywhere without our children. I had a secretary years ago that said my wife and I were too close and that someday one of us would regret it. I did regret it, but I regretted that we weren't closer than we were. My wife's name was also Linda and I miss her more than anything, but I also know that no matter what I do or think, it will not bring her back and I don't want to be sad and depressed for years and years. I probably surprised myself as much as I have others that I have weathered it as well as I have. I know that I'm probably an exception to the rule, but then I've always been an exception. My wife and I met on a blind date when I was home on a two-week leave from the Navy. We saw each other 4 or 5 days after we met and then I went from Oregon back to the Virginia where I was stationed. We wrote every day for 7 months and I felt like I knew her well enough that I wrote and said I'm coming home for a weeks leave in October, will you marry me? She said yes, and for 52 years we lived as one and I thought that it would last forever, but it was not meant to be and she was taken from me on 8 August 2012. I hope that you and others on WV can find happiness and not be sad and depressed forever, but if you can't, then I hope that you can find peace within yourself! To me, it would be terribly depressing to be depressed forever! Hugs and peace to all on WV, Stan
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