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Lisa_says
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  • Barnegat, NJ
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Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Hi No worries you didn't scare me, I am realizing that this is a long process . There is no magic fix.  I have to go through it . It's miserable. I do work 6 days a week from home.  I've been making a lot of mistakes lately…"
Tuesday
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Hi Love, I lost my husband 4 months ago to brain cancer and it's  a battle for me to stop from constantly crying. I am 55 years old. I also dread the mornings. I agree with what Roxi said, I am not afraid of much anymore . Nothing and I…"
Monday
Lisa_says replied to Portpom's discussion Other people making it all about them...
"Yes people literally call me with their problems.  It starts with "how are you?" and then they unload all their trivial BS on me. My sister is miserable because her Mother in law is living with her now and she has only called me once…"
Mar 14
Lisa_says replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"I am so sorry for your loss PortPom My husband died 3 months ago and whenever I tell people how devastated I am they look worried and some avoid me completely as I think it's awkward for them. I joined this site so I can post how I truly feel.…"
Mar 14
Lisa_says posted a blog post

She Loved

She will Never hold his hand againShe will never hear him say her name againShe will never see his boyish smile againShe will never hear him say I love you againShe will never hear him say "it's going to be ok" againShe will always love him, that is certainShe will always be thankful for having him in her lifeShe will never forget the happiness she felt and shared with himShe will never regret one moment of their lives togetherShe will always honor his memory and all that he was. He was Love…See More
Mar 7
Lisa_says replied to Cindy's discussion How do people get through this pain ?
"Thank you Callie, I needed to read your kind and insightful words today.  I have chosen gratitude for the 9 years my husband managed to live with brain cancer.  I am grateful to have been his caregiver, that was an honor to take  care…"
Mar 7
Lisa_says replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion the little things
"My Doug had a southern twang, He always used to greet people with a firm handshake or hug and say" How ya doin" I adored his southern accent and would give anything to hear him say that again.  I haven't heard his voice in 3…"
Mar 7
Lisa_says replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"I haven't had to say the word or check any boxes yet. My husband passed away 3 months ago.  I am not looking forward to the first time I have to check a box or say I'm a widow out loud.  Not mentally ready for that yet"
Mar 7
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion Premonitions
"Rich, I agree there is so much more than we can ever know.  These aren't "coincidences" on these premonitions. They are very real.  I too believe that my Doug and I will dance this dance again. Wishing you peace and…"
Feb 27
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion Premonitions
"Rich, my husband had brain cancer and had a successful  resection and under went chemo for 3 years.  He went off chemo as the oncologist said it was no longer necessary . MRI every 4 months to be vigilant.  He was good for 7…"
Feb 27
Lisa_says replied to frankenpickle's discussion Did your pets help you with your loss? Did THEY need YOUR help?
"Our Yorkie Milton knew my husbands cancer was back before the MRI results came in.  Milton had been avoiding my husband for about a month,  When he did sit with my husband Doug ,he would intensely smell his head.  My husband had brain…"
Feb 25
Lisa_says replied to Cindy's discussion How do people get through this pain ?
"Cindy, I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband 2 months ago and feel the same way you do.  It's hard making it through the day. I take it one hour at a time.  I stay busy with work and cleaning things that no longer need…"
Feb 25
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion How long have you been on the Widowed Village forums?
"Rich, I am truly sorry for your loss.  I too joined this site so that I could feel comfortable speaking my truth here.  Everyone around me is uncomfortable with my grief, I can see it and sense it.  I'm only two months widowed, I…"
Feb 18
Lisa_says replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I am 55 years old and lost my husband 2 months ago in December.  My self concept right now, I'm a widow and the saddest person I know. I pray with time this heartache lessens, but as of right now heartache and sadness is what I live…"
Feb 17
Lisa_says replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am so sorry for your loss.  The flashbacks are horrible.  I can't control when they pop into my mind.  To be honest I'm dreading spring and summer. Dreading everything right now. I can relate to barely holding on to…"
Feb 17
Lisa_says replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Maggie, I am so sorry for your loss.  Thank you for your kind words. I was my husbands caregiver for 9 years during his battle with cancer. I can't get the images out of my mind ,the way brain cancer ended his life and took away…"
Feb 16

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She Loved

Posted on March 7, 2019 at 5:48pm 1 Comment

She will Never hold his hand again

She will never hear him say her name again

She will never see his boyish smile again

She will never hear him say I love you again

She will never hear him say "it's going to be ok" again

She will always love him, that is certain

She will always be thankful for having him in her life

She will never forget the happiness she felt and shared with him

She will never regret one moment of their lives…

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At 4:16am on February 16, 2019, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville,Lisa says.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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