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Lisa_says
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  • Barnegat, NJ
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Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"I myself have no interest in dating.  I lost my husband 11 months ago. I am 56 years old.  We were a perfect match.  Married almost 20 years. In my humble opinion, I think the lonliness is deafening when you lose your spouse.  I…"
Nov 6
Lisa_says replied to DIVA70's discussion Choosing to be a recluse
"My husband passed in Dec 2018 Brain cancer. I was his caregiver for 8 years, and I also am now a recluse. I love your analogy "static on the radio".  That is exactly how I feel.  I live in NJ and work from home. I'm 56 years…"
Sep 7
Lisa_says replied to Melissa's discussion Loneliness
"I'm sorry for your loss.  I am 8 months widowed.  My husband Doug was my person, my best friend.  Lonliness is starting to set in as the numbness wears off.  I started taking hot yoga classes twice a week.  Relives the…"
Aug 27
Lisa_says replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Some Days are Just Sad Days
"It will be 8 months for me on july 6th.  I think the "numbness" is wearing off and I am having a really hard time.  Constant crying and sadness.  I miss my husband so very much. I do believe grief takes a long while to…"
Jul 31
Lisa_says replied to JustLynn's discussion Do you think you’ll get married again?
"It's only been 7 months since my husband passed.  I was his caregiver for 9 years (brain cancer) I can't see myself going through that care giver process again. Too painful emotionally. Chances for me remarrying are NONE .  I…"
Jul 25
Lisa_says replied to Julie's discussion Anxiety/panic attacks in the group Widowed in 2018
"I lost my husband to cancer almost 7 months ago and have now started having panic attacks. Not easy dealing with the loss, sadness, grief, and now panic attacks."
Jun 19
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"Yes yes yes... I was so blessed to have had him in my life.  So blessed to have been his caregiver. My husband was and is my everything. I would do it all again . Zero regrets. And I know he and I will dance this dance again"
Jun 18
Lisa_says commented on Lisa_says's blog post She Loved
"Thanks Tony, I appreciate your kind words.  "Coasting through life" for me is correct right now.  Many blurred days, weeks and months so far. I do have hope, that like you, I too will get to that point where I am participating in…"
Jun 18
MidnightBear (Tony) commented on Lisa_says's blog post She Loved
"I have often heard said, and have often repeated, that we grieve so hard because we loved so deeply.  It isn't easy finding our path alone now, but try to find outlets and think of new things that are interesting to you.  It…"
Jun 17
Lisa_says commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Interest
"Tony, I am 6.5 months into the loss of my husband.  I'm still hanging in there day to day. What I am realizing is that I need to find my interests.  I'm still sort of numb.  I was my husbands caregiver for nine years and…"
Jun 17
Lisa_says replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"I'm sorry for your loss.  I am feeling the same way and it has been 5 months since my husband passed.  I work from home .  I do see a grief counselor and honestly it hasn't made much difference.  I think with time we…"
May 23
Lisa_says commented on Marina's blog post Rollercoaster
"A hug from me to you.  I feel the same way..A roller coaster ride and groundhogs day over and over again..It's been 4 months since my hubby passed and I still cry every single day. I still feel disoriented mentally. The numbness is…"
Apr 18
Lisa_says replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Thank you Mrs. Linda for your kind words.  You were very blessed to have such a good husband for so many years.  Many good memories. I too am glad to have been my husbands caregiver for his last 9 years.  I was holding his hand when…"
Apr 18
Lisa_says replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Mrs.Linda, I am so sorry for your loss.  I am in the same situation.  Grass has to be cut and we have a large commercial lawn mower that I can't navigate.  I have raked up 16 huge bags of leaves and also work from home. Mentally…"
Apr 18
Lisa_says replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Thanks for your kind words John. I am sorry for your loss. I will read and educate myself on this process as much as possible, it helps to understand. And yes Ground Hog's day every day for me. Feels insane"
Apr 17
Morgana (Janet) left a comment for Lisa_says
"Lisa please come back into chat when you are ready. Please feel free to jump in and talk about what is bothering you. We don't mind the interruption at all. Very sorry you left so quickly. Also there will be a hosted chat this Friday at 6 pm…"
Apr 16

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She Loved

Posted on March 7, 2019 at 5:48pm 3 Comments

She will Never hold his hand again

She will never hear him say her name again

She will never see his boyish smile again

She will never hear him say I love you again

She will never hear him say "it's going to be ok" again

She will always love him, that is certain

She will always be thankful for having him in her life

She will never forget the happiness she felt and shared with him

She will never regret one moment of their lives…

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At 3:12pm on April 16, 2019, Morgana (Janet) said…

Lisa please come back into chat when you are ready. Please feel free to jump in and talk about what is bothering you. We don't mind the interruption at all. Very sorry you left so quickly. Also there will be a hosted chat this Friday at 6 pm your time.

At 4:16am on February 16, 2019, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville,Lisa says.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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