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Lisa_says
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Lisa_says replied to Doug02122014's discussion Do you think your spouse would recognize you today ?
"Hmmmm good question.  It's only been 21 months.  I  think my Doug would be surprised by how quiet I am now but he would recognize me. Thinner more quiet but it's still me "
Sunday
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion Avoiding our favorite places.
"It's been 21 months for me , I still don't go to the places that we enjoyed. I'm hopeful that one day I will be able to. But for the time being it's too sad for me to revisit those places."
Sunday
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion Your reaction to the Coronavirus
"Rich, Agreed , I am also concerned for the younger people just starting out. I believe they aren't telling us the whole truth about the virus. Why? I don't have a clue. My neighbor is an ER nurse at our local hospital and she told me the…"
Mar 22
Lisa_says replied to Rich's discussion Your reaction to the Coronavirus
"I also live in NJ and work from home. I am concerned for my daughters who live in NYC.  Not worried for myself.   Our Shoprite is a disaster, out of everything. Our town has an 8pm curfew.  I am choosing to use this time to catch…"
Mar 17
Lisa_says replied to Jill's discussion A hard question but do you have any regrets about your behavior during your marriage?
"Yes, I have a few regrets and they haunt me . I am trying to forgive myself as I know my husband forgave me so easily and never held a grudge. We are human and not perfect.  The heartache fear and trauma of watching your person be ravaged by…"
Feb 22
Lisa_says replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Sis, I am glad you have someone to lean on and talk to. That's a good thing.  I pray it brings you comfort. I too find yoga relaxing, gives me a break from life in a way."
Feb 17
Lisa_says commented on Don's blog post Eating in restaurants alone
"Hi Don, I haven't been out to eat in a year and two months since my husband passed away.  I haven't even been able to order food from any of the places my husband and I used to go to. Not one slice of pizza, not one burger and…"
Feb 15
Lisa_says replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Hi You are not alone, and I hope your days get better. I too feel safer living in the past.  It's been a year and two months since my husband passed away. We were married 20 years. The stress of losing him, finances and work become…"
Feb 15
Lisa_says replied to Alma's discussion On this date
"I am sorry for your loss and your pain.  I lost my husband to cancer a year ago.  I hope this site helps to bring you comfort. You are not alone.  Hugs sent to you"
Jan 27
Lisa_says replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Hi Dee1960 That's a very interesting question.  Our vows were also "for as long as we both shall live" .  Maybe for some it is about the symbolism of availability, I never thought of it that way.  If you are trying to…"
Jan 25
Lisa_says replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"I still wear my engagement and wedding ring and I've been widowed a year . It's comforting for me to wear them.  I'm sure some prefer to remove their rings and that's fine too.  It's such a personal decision."
Jan 22
Lisa_says replied to SewCraftiMT's discussion New to Soaring Spirits in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi SewCraftiMT, I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my husband a year ago.  I hope this site gives you some comfort. Hugs to you"
Jan 21
Maggiepie commented on Lisa_says's blog post 406 Days later
"Yes, Groundhog is a good way to explain this process of grieving. The world is the same and is not. This rinse and repeat cycle is endless. The first week after hubby passed was brutal. That feeling of loss claws like someone scrape. Every day,…"
Jan 19
Lisa_says replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Donald, I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Doug to Brain cancer a year ago.  No words for the heartache. This site has helped me.  I hope it will do the same for you.  A big hug to you from New Jersey"
Jan 18
Lisa_says commented on Lisa_says's blog post 406 Days later
"Hi Callie2, Thank you.  Yes there is so much to figure out. So many decisions to make.  It's quite overwhelming still.  I keep telling myself "One day at a time" Hugs to you"
Jan 17
Lisa_says commented on Lisa_says's blog post 406 Days later
"Hi Callie2 , Yes there is so much to figure out now. It feel overwhelming.  I keep telling myself "One day at a time" Hugs to you "
Jan 17

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406 Days later

Posted on January 16, 2020 at 9:59am 3 Comments

It's been exactly 406 days since my Douglas went home..

It seems like it was just yesterday, and at the same time it feels like I haven't seen his handsome face and smile in forever.

First year was a blur of existence for me and I'm grateful for the blur.. It has been a brutal relentless heart ache

Now the loneliness is creeping in.. and the reality of it all

I miss our deep (and not so deep) conversations…

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She Loved

Posted on March 7, 2019 at 5:48pm 3 Comments

She will Never hold his hand again

She will never hear him say her name again

She will never see his boyish smile again

She will never hear him say I love you again

She will never hear him say "it's going to be ok" again

She will always love him, that is certain

She will always be thankful for having him in her life

She will never forget the happiness she felt and shared with him

She will never regret one moment of their lives…

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At 3:12pm on April 16, 2019, Morgana (Janet) said…

Lisa please come back into chat when you are ready. Please feel free to jump in and talk about what is bothering you. We don't mind the interruption at all. Very sorry you left so quickly. Also there will be a hosted chat this Friday at 6 pm your time.

At 4:16am on February 16, 2019, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville,Lisa says.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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