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Husband's family having memorial without me??

Started this discussion. Last reply by laurajay yesterday. 13 Replies

My husband passed away very unexpectedly on 9-19-19 at 50 yrs. I'm a trainwreck. Our 11 yr old is with step-mother in-law. Husband is cremated. Brother-in-law has been texting me, their side of the…Continue

 

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shebert56 replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"You should not have to pay for anything that you did not prepare nor plan.  They moved forward with the planning, they can cover everything related to that.  Don't let anyone pressure you into something you don't want to do. I…"
Sunday
Lola replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Yeah I agree with you too. I got to put a little blurb on Facebook. and I'm not going to pay for my brother-in-law's service either because I'm already organizing a service and Dallas Texas and in Cincinnati. let alone the fact that I…"
Sunday
Lola replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"hi, I think the same thing. Especially because I am organizing to other memorials, one in Dallas Texas and the other one in Cincinnati where my daughter and I live. Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate you guys"
Sunday
Mary replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Lola, I don't know what others think, but I don't feel like you should be obligated to pay for the memorial service that your BIL planned.  He should have discussed that with you before making the plans rather than just assuming you…"
Sunday
Lola replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Hi Shirley, our situations are similar. Glen's brother organized the memorial service at a restaurant this Saturday, but he told me normally the estate pays for it, meaning me. But he chose everything and he estsmated it'd be around $1000.…"
Sunday
Lola replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Thank you for your reply and help. His brother organized the event at a casual restaurant, buffet, free beer and cash bar. He told me last night that usually the memorial service is paid for by the estate, meaning me. I had no say in the…"
Sunday
shebert56 replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Lola, wanted to send some love and light to you..... so sorry about the added family situation. When my Stephen passed, he was cremated.  Some of his ashes were sent to his brother up north, the remainder stayed with me.  I had a…"
Oct 9
Lablady replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Hello, Lola, I am so sorry for your loss. I will cut to the chase quickly, then explain (sorry this is so long). If I were you, I'd write something like the following and send it to ALL of them asap: "I understand some of you are eager to…"
Oct 8
Roxana replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Sweetheart, YOU are the one that should organise this, not them. I dont know how it is in there, but in the UK the spouse has the legal right over the body  to do the funeral etc. My parents in law cut me off completelly from their life after…"
Oct 8
Mary replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Lola, I think you've made a good decision on how to handle things.  Especially since you do have your daughter to consider.  Then, you'll have the military ceremony that you wanted.   It's so hard during those first…"
Oct 3
Lola replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Hi Mary, Thank you very much for replying to my message. Yeah, I was pretty messed up last night after that phone call. For my daughter's sake, I'm going to "show up" at my husband's memorial, stay a short time, and leave.…"
Oct 2
Mary replied to Lola's discussion Husband's family having memorial without me??
"Hi Lola, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband.  It must be very difficult with it being sudden and at such a young age.  As for the memorial, I think your in-laws are being very disrespectful to you.  It would be one thing…"
Oct 2
Lola posted a discussion

Husband's family having memorial without me??

My husband passed away very unexpectedly on 9-19-19 at 50 yrs. I'm a trainwreck. Our 11 yr old is with step-mother in-law. Husband is cremated. Brother-in-law has been texting me, their side of the family really wants to have the memorial already. He calls tonight. He says they keep on calling him and he says they're going to make it happen on Oct. 19th, and it'd be nice if you were there. I flipped out and just started balling, I was so insulted, hurt, devastated he'd say that. I told him that…See More
Oct 1
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for Lola
"Welcome to Widville, Lola. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions for…"
Oct 1

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At 3:06pm on October 1, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Lola. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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