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LorraineS
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  • Oak Harbor, WA
  • United States
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Lost My Puppy Too

Started this discussion. Last reply by laurajay Jun 25. 1 Reply

Three days after my husband died suddenly, I had to give up my puppy. He is a giant breed and my husband and I were raising/training him together to become my therapy dog for Complex PTSD.I couldn't…Continue

 

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shelley replied to LorraineS's discussion Companionship in Pets in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi LorraineS, I'm in California, living in San Francisco  now.  My husband and I spent most of our time in Santa Cruz (he loved it there, me not so much) and we rented an old farmworkers' cottage on a farm in a beautiful canyon…"
Sep 14
LorraineS replied to LorraineS's discussion Companionship in Pets in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you Shelly. My son has three mouser cats that are outdoor kitties for the most part. He said he's been finding tails and heads everywhere on the property. Also rat parts too. An occasional mole. Awhile back we had a bad problem with rats…"
Sep 14
shelley replied to LorraineS's discussion Companionship in Pets in the group Suddenly Widowed
"LorraineS, I think your decision to get a cat was a good one.  What you say makes perfect sense.  I have four golden retrievers, love them so much and they are a sweet distraction.  I've also had to deal with mice since my…"
Sep 14
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Companionship in Pets

I know you're not supposed to make major decisions for a year. I just made one. I really need a companion pet and there was a specific cat breed available for a rehome from a breeder. So I decided to bring this gentleman home to my house. No ETA yet. He was one of the breeding males and just got neutered. It's a rare cat breed, I didn't know that when I started researching it. Their dog-like behaviors are what caught my eye; following you around, doing chores with you, interested in your life…See More
Sep 14
LorraineS commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riskybiz : Happy Birthday! Sorry you are suffering so much today with everything going on in the world on top of your loss. Sounds like a tough day for you being alone for the first time in years on your birthday. Gentle hugs."
Sep 13
LorraineS replied to susananne's discussion anti-depressants/anti-anxiety in the group Widowed in 2020
"My therapist has told me that if I had problems 6 months to a 1 after my husband's death then we would talk about using something such as an antidepressant. What you're experiencing is quite normal; hard time focusing/making decisions. I…"
Sep 1
LorraineS replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"For me it's a different story as it was more of a relief when my husband died. What helped me the most is when my therapist told me to accept whatever feelings arise from his death."
Aug 21
LorraineS replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Wow! So similar to what happened to me. On June 7, 2020, I was talking to my husband one minute and in the next he went to the bathroom and was dead less than five minutes later. We had been married nearly 35 years. So sorry for your loss. I have…"
Aug 15
LorraineS replied to Carousel's discussion Being Alone If Something Happens in the group Widowed in 2020
"I never contacted a lawyer as suggested by many websites and people. I went through and made lists of accounts with our names on them and contacted the respective banks. One was our mortgage company with our home nearly paid for. I'm not…"
Aug 15
LorraineS replied to Serendi's discussion Recommendations for Memoirs/Books about Spousal Loss in our Age Bracket? in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi serendi, I found this different kind of book on loss called Finding Your Way Through Grief: A Guide for the First Year. I'm not into reading the typical grief books either and this one isn't one of those. It's the only book…"
Aug 13
LorraineS commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"My biggest problem is allergies to the color of clothes my husband wore. I only noticed an allergic reaction to blue dye in clothes, food, and medicines starting in late 2018. The only colors I can tolerate are true yellow, true red, and white (not…"
Aug 13
LorraineS commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Hey Tom, I don't know if I would consider that a major decision or not. Some decisions are necessities. I had one of those I had to make the same day my husband died. And sorting through our loved one's belongings isn't easy…"
Aug 13
LorraineS replied to Carousel's discussion Being Alone If Something Happens in the group Widowed in 2020
"I got a lawn service here as well. They are hard to come by where I live because they start off reliable and then suddenly don't show up for no reason at all. They must be on island time. LOL! I live on an island. Things work differently here…"
Aug 13
LorraineS commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"* Rather cook or wash dishes: cook* Favorite Pie: Peach or Blueberry* Steak or Seafood: Seafood* Italian or Chinese: both* Pepsi or coke: Neither. Water please.* Favorite ice cream: Vanilla sans lactose* How many tattoos: 0* Scariest insect: big,…"
Aug 11
LorraineS replied to Carousel's discussion Being Alone If Something Happens in the group Widowed in 2020
"Hello Carousel, Do you have a service where you live where you keep in touch with emergency personnel? That might help you feel less alone. You wear a device and press a button. For the first couple of weeks after my husband died, I had to be extra…"
Aug 11
LorraineS commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Ellen, What you've done doesn't sound silly to me at all. What you're doing is making new rituals on how to celebrate a birthday. Keep on keeping on. Sorry you're hurting so much on this anniversary date. I've learned from…"
Aug 11

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At 6:06pm on June 18, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, LorraineS. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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