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Debilitating morning grief

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lostandlonely 4 minutes ago. 8 Replies

It's been 4 years and I still wake every morning with debilitating grief and longing for my husband.  I can't immediately get out of bed because I have severe anxiety and it makes me so shaky and…Continue

Depression

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Jan 19. 3 Replies

Does anyone else here suffer from severe depression, not only from your grief but from outside stressors as well?Continue

Christmas

Started this discussion. Last reply by sis Dec 24, 2018. 21 Replies

Is anyone else having a REALLY hard time with Christmas, even if it's not your first?  It's my 4th and both my family and I are really struggling. Worst than the first 3.  Continue

Anxiety and depression upon waking

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord Jan 15. 20 Replies

A few weeks ago I asked about anyone who suffers from anxiety.  One responder asked me if I wake up in panic in the morning.  I never got a chance to answer her because my post veered off in a new…Continue

 

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Lostandlonely replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Thank you, Don. I do read the chat some mornings, but everybody there seems so up, don't want to be a downer.  You're very kind to invite me."
4 minutes ago
Don replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"I understand the morning sadness. You may have seen some of us in chat in the mornings, come join us for virtual cawffee. its a good group."
4 hours ago
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Hi No worries you didn't scare me, I am realizing that this is a long process . There is no magic fix.  I have to go through it . It's miserable. I do work 6 days a week from home.  I've been making a lot of mistakes lately…"
4 hours ago
Lostandlonely commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Thanks for your response, Frank.  I am certainly not happy.  Like you, I'm happy when something good happens in the lives of my children and grandchildren, but it's also bittersweet because my husband isn't here to share in…"
6 hours ago
Lostandlonely replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Thank you, Lisa.  You are also new to this, and I so hope I haven't scared you. My husband was also an optimist, and was always my rock when anxiety got me down.   Most widows don't take nearly as long as I have to get…"
yesterday
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Hi Love, I lost my husband 4 months ago to brain cancer and it's  a battle for me to stop from constantly crying. I am 55 years old. I also dread the mornings. I agree with what Roxi said, I am not afraid of much anymore . Nothing and I…"
yesterday
Roxana replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"We need to support each other, the best we can.  Thank you for your kind words, but I will have to go through my own personal hell, no way around it, and hang on the idea that we will see each other again. So i am focusing on continuing to…"
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Lostandlonely replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Roxana, thank you for taking time to respond to me.  I'm so terribly sorry for your loss at such a young age.  It should be me trying to help you. I'm sorry I'm still in such terrible shape.  My husband also died of a…"
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Frank left a comment for Lostandlonely
"Hi, Yes I would enjoy chatting with you.  Please write as you find the time. Hugs Frank"
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Roxana replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Debilitating morning grief
"Hi, honey. I am 35 and my husbsnd died of a heart attack in January. The longing and pain are unbearable at times,and I am a very fearful and anxious person by nature,  but the idea that keeps me going is that one day I will die too and I will…"
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Debilitating morning grief

It's been 4 years and I still wake every morning with debilitating grief and longing for my husband.  I can't immediately get out of bed because I have severe anxiety and it makes me so shaky and weak I have to wait until I can safely do so.  I get better as the day goes on.  I'm 68 and otherwise healthy, physically anyway.  Mornings were always my favorite part of the day, but I so dread them now.  My doctor has tried different medications.   My therapist has no answers.  I've posted about…See More
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Lostandlonely commented on Frank's blog post Help
"Frank, you are a very kind and generous man.  I have read about Heartlight Center in many of your posts and so hoped there would be a group like that near me.  Unfortunately I live in a very area rural area.  I have researched widows…"
Thursday
Lostandlonely commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Frank, I am in complete despair and don't know how to climb out.  I was so strong before.  When a problem arose, and we had some big ones with our kids, I found a solution along with my husband.  I worked full time, kept a…"
Mar 13
Lostandlonely commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"How do you move on?  It's been 4 years since my husband died so suddenly.  We were married 45 years.  I have done all the things we're supposed to do to try to get on with life, but I feel I am getting worse. I suffer from…"
Mar 12
Lostandlonely commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I forgot to add to my post that my husband and I were married for 45 years.  We began dating when I was 16, and I was 64 when he died.  I never lived alone before being widowed, but I could not live with either of my children. They both…"
Mar 12
Lostandlonely commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hello all, my name is Linda.  I just passed the 4 year mark and I feel I am worse than in earlier years.  I never had a real support group. I live in a small community.  I have grown children and grandchildren and they try but they…"
Mar 12

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4 years

Posted on February 16, 2019 at 11:25am 9 Comments

Tomorrow, Feb. 17th, will mark 4 years since my husband's death. That was the last "normal" day of my life.  I died that evening too, and can't seem to come back to life.

I met my husband when I was 16, married at 18, and was 64 when he died.  So we were together for 48 years.  He was my first and only love.  He died in an instant from a blood clot to the heart.  He was a strong, healthy man who loved life.  I…

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At 10:39am on March 18, 2019, Frank said…

Hi,

Yes I would enjoy chatting with you.  Please write as you find the time.

Hugs

Frank

At 12:55pm on January 16, 2019, Timelord said…

Absollutely!!!!

At 3:30pm on December 2, 2018, Dee1960 said…

Thanks for your friend request -- my husband also died suddenly in 2015 -- seems like it should, well everyone says, it gets better with time...   I don't know, miss him still everyday. and seems like just yesterday.  Anyway, we got that in common.   I am looking forward to our friendship.

Diane

At 5:35am on September 11, 2018, SweetMelissa2007 said…

Hi Linda,

PM me, it will automatically be sent to my e-mail ...

Take it easy ...

Lissa ...

At 3:34pm on August 25, 2018, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville, Lostandlonely. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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