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Lostandlonely
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Depression

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) on Saturday. 3 Replies

Does anyone else here suffer from severe depression, not only from your grief but from outside stressors as well?Continue

Christmas

Started this discussion. Last reply by sis Dec 24, 2018. 21 Replies

Is anyone else having a REALLY hard time with Christmas, even if it's not your first?  It's my 4th and both my family and I are really struggling. Worst than the first 3.  Continue

Anxiety and depression upon waking

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord on Tuesday. 20 Replies

A few weeks ago I asked about anyone who suffers from anxiety.  One responder asked me if I wake up in panic in the morning.  I never got a chance to answer her because my post veered off in a new…Continue

Will I ever find myself again?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lostandlonely Dec 3, 2018. 6 Replies

It's been 3 years and 9 months.  I was a strong, self confidant woman before my husband died suddenly.  I tried to stay strong, but it seems as the years go by I only get more weak.  I still miss him…Continue

 

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Rainy (Misty) replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Depression
"I don't think "outside" things make me depressed, I'd say more anxiety-riddled.  I wasn't depressed or taking anything for depression or anxiety until after the death of Jerry.  I've always had anxiety…"
Saturday
loveboo replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Depression
"What kind of outside stressors?  Is it anything you have any control over?  Even if it's to just stay away from it? I got depressed when I found out that my family decided to remove all remnants of pictures of my wife from the house…"
Thursday
Timelord left a comment for Lostandlonely
"Absollutely!!!!"
Wednesday
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Depression
"Hello - I would say yes, but/and mine is just severe anxiety...to the point of sometimes just being almost debilitating...."
Wednesday
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Wednesday
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Hello Rich - I'm so sorry I hadn't replied earlier.  You are so absolutely correct.  100000 percent correct! And I too do not like "moving on."  One doesn't "move on" from something like this. …"
Tuesday
Rich replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Timelord: When I go shopping and see Raspberries I find myself thinking I should pick them up for Janet. Happened just a few days ago. But it's OK, I want her memory with me always. I'm not moving on, never will...... just waiting until…"
Jan 14
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Rich, yes, this is...I'm not sure if it's anxiety or remembrance.   I...I remember that even a year or so after my Melinda passed, one time I was getting Chinese take out for myself and the kids and literally said to myself that…"
Jan 13
Rich replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"This is probably anxiety induced. Woke up this morning in the middle of a dream that Janet was at her parents house because she was sick. Had my feet on the floor ready to get her and then reality hit home. She is gone three years next month. Her…"
Jan 13
bayoured replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"As long as i stay busy they don't make me too sleepy. Also if they anxiety is bad enough there is not issue with being drowsy at all. I only take them when i can tell it is starting before it gets too bad"
Dec 31, 2018
Broken Diva replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"So sorry you are feeling this way too.  It IS horrible.  I have anxiety meds but I take them at night because they make me sleepy.  Afraid if I take them in the morning they will make me feel drowsy all day! Do you feel that way too?"
Dec 30, 2018
bayoured replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
" I have had issues with anxiety for many years before my husband passed. After he passed it morphed into something new. Something much more physical. I too wake in a panic somedays and it feels horrible. I do have anxiety meds but I was not…"
Dec 30, 2018
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Loveboo... I wish I could sleep forever...I don't feel the dread and anxiety when I'm asleep..."
Dec 29, 2018
Broken Diva replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Anxiety that I feel is like a hopelessness panic.  Nothing to look forward to.  Thinking and worrying about the future and feeling very depressed. That's what I feel anyway.  Maybe some people are different."
Dec 29, 2018
loveboo replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Could someone describe the anxiety you feel as best as you can? I certainly feel the sadness and depression but not sure if I feel the anxiety. I do feel "what do I do now?" type of thoughts - is that an example of an anxious thought you…"
Dec 29, 2018
Broken Diva replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Loveboo, I like your idea; I wish I could do that but memories of my husband and what he would want to me to do are horrifying still.  I am just so sad.  Maybe that is what is wrong with me - avoidance.  But I know my husband would…"
Dec 29, 2018

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At 12:55pm on January 16, 2019, Timelord said…

Absollutely!!!!

At 3:30pm on December 2, 2018, Dee1960 said…

Thanks for your friend request -- my husband also died suddenly in 2015 -- seems like it should, well everyone says, it gets better with time...   I don't know, miss him still everyday. and seems like just yesterday.  Anyway, we got that in common.   I am looking forward to our friendship.

Diane

At 5:35am on September 11, 2018, SweetMelissa2007 said…

Hi Linda,

PM me, it will automatically be sent to my e-mail ...

Take it easy ...

Lissa ...

At 3:34pm on August 25, 2018, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville, Lostandlonely. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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