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LandL (Linda)
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Another Holiday

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs.Linda May 2. 4 Replies

I'll be having my 2 children and their families over for Easter afternoon.  My husband died shortly before Easter in 2015.  We went out of town for the first one, when we were still in shock.  We had…Continue

Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord on Friday. 39 Replies

At 4 years, I am in the deepest depression and can't find my way out.  I was better in the first years than I am now.  I am on an antidepressant and seeing a therapist, but I've lost all hope.  I was…Continue

Dreams

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs.Linda Apr 18. 8 Replies

Sometime in the night I got wrapped up in the covers and in my half awake state I thought my husband was behind me holding me in his arms.  He was always the one who liked to sleep curled up together…Continue

Debilitating morning grief

Started this discussion. Last reply by Portpom Mar 22. 11 Replies

It's been 4 years and I still wake every morning with debilitating grief and longing for my husband.  I can't immediately get out of bed because I have severe anxiety and it makes me so shaky and…Continue

 

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Timelord replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Hello Linda - I'm not at all sure if this helps...but right now I'm in a worse place than I was a few years ago (I will post my tales soon) - so...for whatever it's worth - it's possible. I guess perhaps I'd ask...do your…"
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J in Florida replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"I'm a year in, and the frequency is getting less and less, but still minor things trigger me. While I understand this is normal, it still sucks when it happens. WRT calls from vultures, at first it was like the teenagers storming the gates at a…"
Friday
Mrs.Linda replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"I got a note in the mail just yesterday offering to buy my house!  There is so much to do here in upkeep.  My husband loved tinkering about the place and all the yard work.  I am losing count of how many replacements and repairs I…"
Friday
LandL (Linda) replied to Dee1960's discussion Death Anniversary
"Diane, my friend, you can do whatever is comforting to you.  I know you have trouble with just doing what you want to do.  I personally don't think you'd be comfortable on that day with your usual group of friends, only because…"
May 10
LandL (Linda) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ron, I think it took a lot of courage for you to write what you're going through at this time.  !5 months is a very short time in the grief timeline.  Depression and anxiety added in makes for a more difficult time than those who have…"
May 8
LandL (Linda) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My son and daughter were very kind and helpful in the beginning, but in the 4 years since their dad died very suddenly, they have distanced themselves.  My daughter calls every day, but I can tell she really doesn't want to.  She…"
May 6
pricytapestry replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"I can relate to the calls and letters from people wanting to buy her house, just spoke with one of the vultures last night. He has called our home phone, and both our cell numbers. Creepy!"
May 5
MargieOh replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Yes, 3 and a half years for me. I moved to FL last year to get a fresh start, a very active community. Joined clubs, lunch groups, etc. It was good (better than my old home) but now the novelty has worn off and I am so tired of being alone. But I…"
May 5
KJPE replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Yes, thinking ahead to growing old alone is scary!  At 6 months, I find it is better to avoid planning too much for the future, as it seems that what I want & feel could change a lot from month to month.   Anyone else getting…"
May 2
Mrs.Linda replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Another Holiday
"This first Easter without Dan was bitter sweet.  My oldest son and family (1 granddaughter) and my brother were with me.  My younger son chose to be elsewhere and he has been distant. I felt strongly that half of my family was missing,…"
May 2
Mrs.Linda replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"It is now 6 months for me as well.  I just took a few days  of retreat to think and pray and that has brought me more peace.  You might think this is silly but I was wearing both my wedding ring and my husband's.  I took…"
May 2
KJPE replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Thank you for this thread, Linda & everyone.  I'm just at 6 months since my darling died, but now know this renewed grief can happen & maybe can plan for it, be ready for it, etc."
Apr 29
chef (John) replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
""...I personally think grief has brought Me to an existential crises which includes not being able to put faith in any kind of beliefs.  Just hanging in, one day at a time, day after day. Lather, rinse, repeat..." Yes...and…"
Apr 26
LadyG replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Dear LauraJay, You are so correct that not everyone is a pet person.  I find it helps but of course I understand what you're saying. That whole idea of not having answers seems to be a big one, doesn't it?  I personally think…"
Apr 25
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Apr 25
LadyG replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Dear Everyone,  My deepest condolences to one and all.  I'm right there with you. Just over 4 years for me. I was writing to some newer widows just the other day. They are at 3-6 months and wondering why they are feeling worse.…"
Apr 24

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4 years

Posted on February 16, 2019 at 11:25am 9 Comments

Tomorrow, Feb. 17th, will mark 4 years since my husband's death. That was the last "normal" day of my life.  I died that evening too, and can't seem to come back to life.

I met my husband when I was 16, married at 18, and was 64 when he died.  So we were together for 48 years.  He was my first and only love.  He died in an instant from a blood clot to the heart.  He was a strong, healthy man who loved life.  I…

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At 10:39am on March 18, 2019, Frank said…

Hi,

Yes I would enjoy chatting with you.  Please write as you find the time.

Hugs

Frank

At 12:55pm on January 16, 2019, Timelord said…

Absollutely!!!!

At 3:30pm on December 2, 2018, Dee1960 said…

Thanks for your friend request -- my husband also died suddenly in 2015 -- seems like it should, well everyone says, it gets better with time...   I don't know, miss him still everyday. and seems like just yesterday.  Anyway, we got that in common.   I am looking forward to our friendship.

Diane

At 5:35am on September 11, 2018, SweetMelissa2007 said…

Hi Linda,

PM me, it will automatically be sent to my e-mail ...

Take it easy ...

Lissa ...

At 3:34pm on August 25, 2018, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville, Lostandlonely. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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