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Started this discussion. Last reply by Dawn- Clouds Mum May 7, 2011. 19 Replies

We are Widows and Widowers.  We recognize Anniversary's that hold memories. I see the term Sadiversary used here, while I understand that sentiment, it doesn't sit well with me. I don't want to be sad about it forever. I'm not always sad ... does…Continue

Resources for Widows

Started this discussion. Last reply by Aeleice May 23, 2013. 5 Replies

I'm seeing a common theme of Widows not being able to access Counseling and others services due to financial constraints. I was thinking we could start to compile a list of Resources that we've used or been referred to that could be of assistance to…Continue

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My LH Mark was a youth pastor and in June 2006 he took a group of 67 from Oregon to New Orleans, post Katrina, do help in the rebuilding process. On Wednesday June 21st, while in Baton Rouge LA, he got up to give a sermon, collapsed and died. I was in Oregon w/ our son. Life has never been the same. 



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Aeleice replied to Marissa's discussion Resources for Widows
"Another area to look into for counseling and sad to say but it is for veterans and maybe the families, the VA offers counseling for free. "
May 23, 2013
NMWidower replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"Hi Marissa,   Very interesting topic.  I'm not sure what I think.  Honestly while there is part of me that certainly will not use Sadiversary for ever in that I hope I am not always crushed, broken, hurt, and feel lost in…"
May 7, 2011
Momtofour replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"i always wondered about that too."
Apr 19, 2011
Momtofour replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"You know what I use? I just say his death anniversary.  It is what it is, right?"
Apr 19, 2011
Deb replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"I've read the term angelversary, doesn't work for me, but sounds a little nicer than sadaversary... "
Mar 25, 2011
Janine (txmomx6) replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"I think I just say, "It's the day Jim died."  Anniversary implies happiness, but sadiversary sounds way too sad for me. It's been 3+ years for me, so I feel less sad on a daily basis and am feeling more happiness than…"
Mar 19, 2011
Janine (txmomx6) replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"Love it!!  Expiration .... makes him sound like a carton of milk, which is a WHOLE lot less sad to think of. :)"
Mar 19, 2011
Jill replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"It makes sense to me Marissa. One thing that's changed for me over the years is that our wedding anniversary has become a quiet internal memory for me. I don't think I mentioned it to anyone this year, just peacefully and maybe a little…"
Mar 18, 2011
denisec replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"I would rather celebrate Jim's life and don't care for sadiversary.  A friend also described it as his first birthday in heaven.  I probably say, "it has been x-months or one year since he died" rather than referring to…"
Mar 18, 2011
Alive & Mortal replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"I use "Day of Remembrance.""
Mar 17, 2011
christine76 replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"I called it his death date. I have a widow friend who called it his 1st heavenly birthday. I am not comfortable calling it the anniversary of his death because an anniversary you celebrate."
Mar 17, 2011
Soaring Spirits replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"My friend John says he hates the term "widower" because it sounds it should mean "one who widows." I think "widower" is interesting because it's one of the few where the woman gets the active and original word,…"
Mar 17, 2011
mamiller replied to Marissa's discussion Terminology
"I use D-Day..."
Mar 17, 2011
Marissa replied to Scottish Helen's discussion weeping when driving - should the newly widowed be issued with Learner plates
"Close to 5 years out and I STILL will lose it while driving ..."
Mar 15, 2011

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At 3:17pm on February 4, 2011,
Soaring Spirits

OK now I hope your WEEK has gotten better. I got sick Tuesday, then my daughter is 2 days behind me, which means by Monday... it will be my turn to be sick again.

YaHOO!!! Hope you, at least, are warm and well.

At 12:25pm on January 31, 2011,
Soaring Spirits
Hope your day gets better... hope mine does, too!! :-)
At 5:49pm on January 28, 2011,
Soaring Spirits
A little birthday told me it was your birdie today, I mean, whait, something like that!!! I look forward to chatting early next week when our snow days are finally (HOPEFULLY) over! Thanks for all your support.
At 6:43am on January 21, 2011, A Widowed Father said…
I actually grew up in Baldwin, my late wife grew up in Northport, so I ended up moving up here.
At 2:42pm on January 12, 2011,
Soaring Spirits

Hi, M, and welcome! Looks like you resolved your password issues? You're the second person today with that problem.... so WHEW.

Welcome to the great adventure of turning a series of quiet rooms into a thriving community. I guess we just need... some couches and wine?


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