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MPMom (Colleen)
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Tired of it all - Tired of doing it all

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 yesterday. 3 Replies

I'm sure there's a post out there about this somewhere already, but I just had to type out my feelings.I'm so tired of being responsible for everything, all the time.  11 months ago (wow - just…Continue

 

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MPMom (Colleen) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"Yes - I'm convinced he helps me find things, too. Whenever I can't find something, and I've searched high and low, I'll say something like, "Ok Chris - where is it? Can you help me find it?" and generally within a half…"
8 hours ago
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"Wow - these are amazing stories!  I lost my husband 11 months ago and my very first "wink" was just hours after he died.  We had been camping in Italy, in a small mountain town in the Dolomites.  When he died, the S&R…"
yesterday
Callie2 replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Tired of it all - Tired of doing it all
"There was a song about one is the loneliest number, probably before your time though. It is a real adjustment. I have had several issues crop up these past few weeks--you know household things my husband would have handled. Just Sat, my furnace…"
yesterday
MPMom (Colleen) replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Tired of it all - Tired of doing it all
"Thank you for your reply Callie. Exhausting is a good word, but some days that doesn't cover it, right?  I am trying to stay in a place that I'm comfortable in as far as priorities.  I have had some breaks away from the kids - in…"
yesterday
Callie2 replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Tired of it all - Tired of doing it all
"Oh Colleen, I hear you girl. Life can become very exhausting when we have to do everything--not only the doing but making all the important decisions. Having young children to take care of has got to be hard too. In my early days, I tried very hard…"
Wednesday
MPMom (Colleen) replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I'm 11 months out today and I wear my rings.  He hardly ever wore his (long story), and I tried putting it on a chain around my neck, but didn't like it.  Instead, i have a small heart urn that I put some of his ashes in.  I…"
Tuesday
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MPMom (Colleen) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Hmm ... not a very active page.  I'm in Moorpark.  Grew up in N County San Diego."
Tuesday
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"OMG - I grew up going to Juanitas!  I was just down in the area over the weekend.  I wish I had made a stop."
Tuesday
MPMom (Colleen) posted a discussion

Tired of it all - Tired of doing it all

I'm sure there's a post out there about this somewhere already, but I just had to type out my feelings.I'm so tired of being responsible for everything, all the time.  11 months ago (wow - just realized today is 11 months) I became a widow with 2 girls (now 9 and 11).  I'm tired of doing everything and being responsible for everything and everyone.  All the housework, all the meals, all the everything.  I know no one ever really sets out to be a single parent, but I recall specifically telling…See More
Tuesday
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"Yep.  I'm 42 and my husband died in a mountain accident last June (can't believe it's almost been a year).  He was 40.  We'd been married 14.5 years, together for 20 and have 2 daughters 11 and 9.  I…"
Monday
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Debbie - sorry you and I joined this "club" on the same day.  :(  We had been on vacation in Europe when it happened.  After I took care of everything over there (thankfully one of his friends had been in the area and…"
May 17
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you for your reply, Sue.  I, too, will be a little over 1 year widowed at the Camp.  I signed up to go after thinking about it some more and talking with my friends.  My daughters are going to Camp Erin the following weekend, so…"
May 17
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Imogen's discussion Stupid People
""Someone else must have needed him more." This was said to me within the first 1-2 weeks.   Bullshit.  Who could possibly need him more than his wife and especially his two kids."
May 17
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hello - I'm new here.  I lost my husband suddenly and tragically June 23 last year.  He was 40, I am now 42.  We have two daughters, now aged 9 and 11.  We had been married 14.5 years, but together for 20.  Half my life…"
May 17
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for MPMom (Colleen)
"Welcome to Widville, MPMom. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You…"
May 16

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At 1:27pm on May 16, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, MPMom. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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