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MPMom (Colleen)
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  • Moorpark, CA
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Normal/expected feelings?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lirvie on Friday. 5 Replies

I'm at 17m and for the last few weeks/months I'm tired all the time (I swear I could lie down and take a nap almost any time) -- especially during the day -- and I have almost no motivation to do…Continue

Tired of it all - Tired of doing it all

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lupe's husband May 26. 4 Replies

I'm sure there's a post out there about this somewhere already, but I just had to type out my feelings.I'm so tired of being responsible for everything, all the time.  11 months ago (wow - just…Continue

 

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Lirvie replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Normal/expected feelings?
"I’m 4 years into widowed life.  And everything you describe still affects my daily routine.  The advent of the UberEATS style food delivery services have really helped.  Waking up from a “nap” at 7pm with a hungry…"
Friday
Patrick replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Normal/expected feelings?
"My house got very messy after Sharon died, but seeing as the flat I lived in before I met her was also a mess I can't really pin that one on the grief, it was more a case of a slobby bloke living alone. Go easy on yourself, finding motivation…"
Nov 27
MPMom (Colleen) replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Normal/expected feelings?
"Thanks Dianne and Patrick -- it seems my lack of motivation is mostly centered around chores around the house.  Then I get angry at myself bc the house is a mess, and yet I just can't get anything done.  The girls (10 & 12) help…"
Nov 27
Patrick replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Normal/expected feelings?
"That sounds pretty normal to me. I had trouble finding motivation to do anything for a long time, I dealt with it by taking on projects that I could just pick up when I had the energy and put down again when I didn't. Anything that involved…"
Nov 27
Dianne in Nevada replied to MPMom (Colleen)'s discussion Normal/expected feelings?
"I don't know if it's "normal" but I had this same issue. I had a demanding job and was able to stay on top of that and work long hours, but I had zero motivation to do anything at home. I let my home get pretty messy (no young…"
Nov 26
MPMom (Colleen) posted a discussion

Normal/expected feelings?

I'm at 17m and for the last few weeks/months I'm tired all the time (I swear I could lie down and take a nap almost any time) -- especially during the day -- and I have almost no motivation to do anything but sit around all day.  I am able to get up and get groceries, or whatever I need to do for my kids, but things like cleaning the house, getting through my to-do list, etc seems to take an enormous amount of energy to get started.  Once I do get started, I'm very easily distracted by…See More
Nov 26
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I'm with you.  Nights are the hardest, especially in the beginning.  I lost my husband suddenly in an accident 15 months ago.  We have two children, now 9 & 11.  They are what kept me going in the beginning, as well as…"
Sep 18
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"I wonder if there's laws about this in the states.  My husband has been released all over CA so far, including in some National Parks.  I read not that long ago that you are not allowed to release remains in Disneyland and if you are…"
Aug 16
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"You have found others here who truly know what you're going through.  I lost my husband of nearly 15 years (together for 20, so pretty much half my life)  in a mountaineering accident in June of 2016, 10 days after his mother passed…"
Aug 9
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I was 42 when my husband died suddenly in an accident last year (June '16).  I have had the same thoughts as you -- who is out there?  I hear so many horror stories about ex-spouses, and what little I hear about dating these days…"
Aug 7
MPMom (Colleen) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"On the topic of books, I highly recommend "Tales from a Mediocre Widow"  I connected so much with that book.  It really hit all the points I went though.  "
Aug 7
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"Thank you - I checked and didn't see an email, so I dropped her a message.  :)"
Aug 3
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"Yep - somewhat excited to go, but at the same time so sad I'm even in this "club".  I feel I'm way too young to be a widow, but it's nice to know - and hopefully meet - some others like me.  I plan to have multiple…"
Aug 3
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"I'm driving down from Ventura County Thursday late morning so I can drop off my kids at my parents' house for the weekend.  I will try to be at the hotel around 4, but it really depends on when my Mom gets home from work and how…"
Aug 3
MPMom (Colleen) replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow San Diego 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"I signed up to have a roommate -- will I just meet her at the hotel or will we get names beforehand?  Also, I'll be checking in Thursday -- I think I read there's a sort of meet and greet Thursday evening?"
Aug 2
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"That was wonderful.  I may have to change my schedule so I can sit in on her presentation next month."
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At 1:27pm on May 16, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, MPMom. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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