"Bergen...I know where you are coming from.
Asyou may remember from some earlier posts of mine way back, my marriage was not ideal. We were quite normal and happy for 17 years and then we retired. He lost purpose from having nothing to do, no one to…"
"Bergen...you are being way too hard on yourself. You did what you felt was right at the time and in all likelihood was probably the right thing to do. We make choices for ourselves and others our entire life and some we may get wrong, but most are…"
"Riet...your post spoke to me. I’m coming up on six years.
My story is different than most people here, though. I had a good marriage for 17 years, but after he retired it began to turn sour. I won’t go into the boring details, but…"
"Oh my REIT...my husband also died of glioblastome almost 6 years ago at 68. It was sudden. He had a bad reaction to the chemo and died after only a 5 month diagnosis.
I also responded to another lady here just the other day whose husband had…"
"2 months! That is totally wrong for anyone to think you’d be better in just that short of a time. My goodness, you are still in shock and the full reality hasn’t even hit yet.
Please try not to let that get to you...those…"
"Lisa...my husband dies of brain cancer (glioblastoma) almost 6 years ago at 68. I was 66. It is a terrible terrible cancer. Each of our paths are very different to getting to the 1,2,5, year mark and beyond and everything is right and nothing is…"
"Here is a poem I’ve always loved especially the first stanza.
BY ALFRED, LORD TENNYSON
Tears, idle tears, I know not what they mean,
Tears from the depth of some divine despair
Rise in the heart, and gather to the…"
"I don’t have a sense of purpose at all, but I’m not particularly depresuabout it. It’s going on 6 yrs for me and I have a new life and I’m fairly content, but no purpose. No new man....don’t want one.
i say do whatever…"
"This is an old post, but I always go back to it, not only to see my own comments and if there is any change in 2 years, but to see what others say and have experienced. I still struggle about the hurt and yes, resentment after 5 years now.
"I don’t post much anymore, but still read and your post caught me. So heartfelt and true.
The hardest lesson to learn in all this is that we are alone and on our own. Yes we may have friends and family that are good and do care, but life…"
"Great point, Bergen. I see people over and over asking why..why did God do this etc. they do themselves a great disservice with this because it is just random.
Reit...it will take time..lots of it. My husband too died of glioblastoma. They thought…"
"Ok I did something really weird with his ashes. We had lived in NC in the mountains, so when I moved I sprinkled some of his ashes several places on our land along with a little of our two dogs. I knew I'd never be back to this home, but I…"
"The mornings have always been my worst time. It's that waking up as you say and looking at another day to get through and I also do TV at night. A glass of wine helps too, in the evening to sleep.
I also got use to being alone in…"
"I don't have children either and have thought sometimes I wish I did, to have some comfort through grief and as I age. But there's no guarantee they will be loving and supportive, I guess. This is very sad to me that the world has become…"
Maggie, my husband's and my 35th anniversary is Oct 10. I know you and I will both be sharing some very sad thoughts that day. I am trying to be grateful for nearly 34 years with him but I will be tearful all day anyway and I know you will too. Do know I will be thinking of you too.
Thank you Maggie for your kind words and for friending me. Yes, it sure is tough being on your own. The aloneness is probably the hardest thing to deal with. One and a half years for you...that's a long time. At the minute, for me, three months seems like an eternity. Do hope you have some brighter days and look forward to connecting with you again. Sending you blessings ☼
Thanks for friending me. It is now 4 months since my husband died of lung cancer. It was a 1 1/2 long battle with his being in hospital for 10 months of it and driving everyday to visit. So at age 72 after spending 42 years together it is a struggle to push myself to find things outside the house as I am normally a reserved person and a homebody. It is good to see other people struggles and knowing I am not the only one finding it hard starting over.This site is a blessing.