"I'm almost at 5 years and had a thought the other day that perfectly fits me. I'm doing ok, have moved to a place I like, have a few friends, go out, volunteer once a week at the hospital, garden a bit etc. BUT the thought "I am not…"
"I will tell you it just sucks. The only thing that will make it better is time and having a social network and perhaps if you still work at a job you like. My husband has been gone close to 5 years now. He died of brain cancer.
I have moved,…"
"I had a friend where I use to live that went to a hospice group with me. Her husband died a few months after mine in 2013. I hadn't heard from her in awhile and got an email from her and she got married this past Dec. she is 74 and seemed so…"
"I feel so many of the things all of you feel. Just lately with a new year heading our way, I just feel the pointlessness of my life. Alone going on 5 years, no children, a few friends, some activities, but inside...alone.
not interested in finding a…"
"I was 66 when my husband died from brain cancer. Now I am almost 71. I am still lonely and still miss him everyday even though our marriage was a bit rocky in the final 3 or 4 years...long story.
I moved to another state, share my home with my…"
"I had an advantage when I moved, as I already knew a few people and my ex SIL moved with me. One new friend I met volunteering at the hospital and another new one I met through my SIL ( her friend). Plus my other ex SIL lives very close as well. No…"
"Pretty much how I feel...I've moved to a place I like, have a few new friends, keep fairly busy. But I still feel the missing, the longing at times. And like you, no one else will really do....just not enough time or energy now to work for that…"
"Slick' if you read over ALL your responses here they "read" as trying to find a way to stay...an excuse, if you will. Your comment to Bergen JC and I quote "where in God's holy name did you read me say I am unwilling to do…"
"I think it's loneliness. Loneliness can be a huge driving force, but it really sounds like you need to get away from what appears to be a toxic relationship. Ultimately, you will feel better about yourself if you do, otherwise you're going…"
"That's the problem with religion....everyone thinks their way is the only way. She seems petty and with some delight on being mean and thoughtless. We are far to judgemental as a species with no regard to the hurt it can cause. Just look at the…"
"@Bundles and Nieta...my husband died in 2013, but I had to respond to you both, as so much you experienced was so like what I experienced with my husband too.
Briefly, after retirement he didn't adjust well. He had a sense of no longer a…"
Maggie, my husband's and my 35th anniversary is Oct 10. I know you and I will both be sharing some very sad thoughts that day. I am trying to be grateful for nearly 34 years with him but I will be tearful all day anyway and I know you will too. Do know I will be thinking of you too.
Thank you Maggie for your kind words and for friending me. Yes, it sure is tough being on your own. The aloneness is probably the hardest thing to deal with. One and a half years for you...that's a long time. At the minute, for me, three months seems like an eternity. Do hope you have some brighter days and look forward to connecting with you again. Sending you blessings ☼
Thanks for friending me. It is now 4 months since my husband died of lung cancer. It was a 1 1/2 long battle with his being in hospital for 10 months of it and driving everyday to visit. So at age 72 after spending 42 years together it is a struggle to push myself to find things outside the house as I am normally a reserved person and a homebody. It is good to see other people struggles and knowing I am not the only one finding it hard starting over.This site is a blessing.