"Ok I did something really weird with his ashes. We had lived in NC in the mountains, so when I moved I sprinkled some of his ashes several places on our land along with a little of our two dogs. I knew I'd never be back to this home, but I…"
"The mornings have always been my worst time. It's that waking up as you say and looking at another day to get through and I also do TV at night. A glass of wine helps too, in the evening to sleep.
I also got use to being alone in…"
"I don't have children either and have thought sometimes I wish I did, to have some comfort through grief and as I age. But there's no guarantee they will be loving and supportive, I guess. This is very sad to me that the world has become…"
"I my husband died of brain cancer 5 years ago. I took all my memories of my life with my him and put them away in a box (figuratively) and I purposely do not look at it. If I did, I couldn't survive it. I moved, started a new life, new…"
"Charlie's Girl......I'm almost at 5 years and also sold our too big home and also moved to Florida. But I did buy a home and have enjoyed decorating it and landscaping it all by myself. It feels like me and I will live here til I no longer…"
"I'm at 5 years almost and I find the fact that time moves right on along is sad, in a way. Like looking at those old family pictures, even of out parents or grandparents. Time makes it all recede and seem distant and for some reason that really…"
"My husband has been dead almost 5 years and nothing..ever. No sign at all. But we were both not religious and didn't believe in an after life. Realistically I know he's just gone, but part of me also feels he no longer loved me, as we had…"
"Susan...that's what my husband died of almost 5 years ago. He was 68. From diagnosis to his death was only 5 months. Glioblastoma is a terrible horrible cancer...one of the worse and always fatal.
Its been a rough road and I still think…"
"Oh wee Slick....I surely wasn't judging you. I was just saying what I'd done and threw out a few things to you not knowing what you may have tried in the past. What I was trying to say was that you don't have to do a lot. I think…"
"Slick...I don't really do all that much. I did move to a smaller home, warmer climate...and I was familiar with the area and knew a couple of people here...two ex SILs, so I did have an advantage. But I volunteer once a week at the hospital and…"
"I know what you mean, Bergen. its a paradox. I've moved to another state ( 2 yrs now) have made a new life, new friends, new hobbies. I feel free to do what I want, go where I want in a way I want. I enjoy my new friends immensely.…"
"Shelley...I had many guilt issues. My husband and I were happily married for most of the 30 yrs, but after his retirement things changed. I won't go into detail but he became depressed and felt no sense of purpose and it changed him. So we…"
"I've been reading all these comments and can relate to them all. I'm only at 5 yrs, but once you pass that mark, I think we are all closer in how we feel, especially if we are still not involved with a man. I, for one, am not looking and…"
Maggie, my husband's and my 35th anniversary is Oct 10. I know you and I will both be sharing some very sad thoughts that day. I am trying to be grateful for nearly 34 years with him but I will be tearful all day anyway and I know you will too. Do know I will be thinking of you too.
Thank you Maggie for your kind words and for friending me. Yes, it sure is tough being on your own. The aloneness is probably the hardest thing to deal with. One and a half years for you...that's a long time. At the minute, for me, three months seems like an eternity. Do hope you have some brighter days and look forward to connecting with you again. Sending you blessings ☼
Thanks for friending me. It is now 4 months since my husband died of lung cancer. It was a 1 1/2 long battle with his being in hospital for 10 months of it and driving everyday to visit. So at age 72 after spending 42 years together it is a struggle to push myself to find things outside the house as I am normally a reserved person and a homebody. It is good to see other people struggles and knowing I am not the only one finding it hard starting over.This site is a blessing.