"It's odd that I saw this post because I don't ordinarily come here, but to just the groups I belong to. But I've been thinking the exact thing lately about alternative universes or timelines. It's been four years for me and these…"
"Ah Sue, I enjoyed your post here. I can relate to the loneliness and the longing for a hug. A recent blog infollow calls it skin hunger and they weren't referring to sex. I think this is common with older widowed people without a new partner."
"My husband died from brain cancer, but I too dealt with his depression after retirement. Initially we were quite happy, but retirement changed him. We had moved and he felt he had no purpose and was way out of his comfort zone for 11 years. This had…"
"Chris, I know the loneliness...I deal with it still and my husband has been gone almost 4 years. I stayed very busy and had some good supportive friends, but that begins to fade over time. Some of the busyness ingot tired of and friends don't…"
"I echo what Bergen says. It's been almost 4 years for me. I was married 30 years and we were together all the time. We had been retired for 11 years. I just turned 70.
I have moved to another state and love my new place and home and have made a…"
"Alone...I am so sorry you have to be here, but this is where we all find people who are supportive and understand. There are many different groups that you will feel comfortable in. Everyone is kind and never judgemental. Come here often and you…"
"Athena, I feel just like you do. Almost 4 years for me and I don't want to marry. I too moved and love my new home and definitely would not give it up and I don't think I'd want any man moving in either. I like my stuff and my freedom…"
"I can relate to these comments about husbands coming back. It's been almost four years for me. I've move to a new state in a home that I picked and decorated all myself. I have new friends and hobbies and am feeling I am finding the person…"
"I haven't been here in awhile, but I had some thoughts. My husband too died in July of '13 and I just turned 70, as well, so I understand now at almost 4 years, the aging thing is more of a focus in my mind than the original grief. So far,…"
"I have always felt we don't move on, but instead time moves on through us and the past recedes whether we like it or not.dont worry about people saying to move on or it's time to move on etc. they don't get it for sure. Just know that…"
Maggie, my husband's and my 35th anniversary is Oct 10. I know you and I will both be sharing some very sad thoughts that day. I am trying to be grateful for nearly 34 years with him but I will be tearful all day anyway and I know you will too. Do know I will be thinking of you too.
Thank you Maggie for your kind words and for friending me. Yes, it sure is tough being on your own. The aloneness is probably the hardest thing to deal with. One and a half years for you...that's a long time. At the minute, for me, three months seems like an eternity. Do hope you have some brighter days and look forward to connecting with you again. Sending you blessings ☼
Thanks for friending me. It is now 4 months since my husband died of lung cancer. It was a 1 1/2 long battle with his being in hospital for 10 months of it and driving everyday to visit. So at age 72 after spending 42 years together it is a struggle to push myself to find things outside the house as I am normally a reserved person and a homebody. It is good to see other people struggles and knowing I am not the only one finding it hard starting over.This site is a blessing.