"My Mother died back in 1990 from Ovarian cancer and she was 80. I miss her to this day and think of her everyday. I'd give anything to hear her voice and discuss what all has happened in my life; widowhood, moving and all that has been life…"
"I haven't been able to read in 4 years and I use to love reading. I thought about getting books on tape for in the car, but I'm not in the car everyday and often for just 30 min. So not sure about that. But I can watch a good moving movie…"
"I can relate to all of you. For me it's been almost 4 years. My worst time in when I wake up. The feeling is "oh here is another long day to get through with this emptiness and loneliness. But like many of you I stay as busy as I can and…"
"My husband and I were from the same era. He LOVED late 60's early 70's R and R. It's been almost 4 years and I still can't listen to that music. It instantly makes me sad and depressed. I doubt if I'll ever listen to it…"
"Cee, I understood completely. So far I'm able to do most small things and even get on a ladder, but I know I could fall tonight or trip on a rug and it would all change. A handyman would be so good, but they are hard to come by and even the…"
"It isn't for me either and I realize it more after almost 4 years than ever before. Too tired now and I liked the type of relationship I had with my husband and I just have this gut feeling that he was the only one....I'll live out my life…"
"It's been almost 4 yrs. for me and Ive also moved. I have the oddest feeling that were those 30 years real? It seems so long ago yet sometimes it can still hit me like a sledgehammer. It's surreal. I also find I can't listen any music…"
"Maybe Barbee it's the one below about the picture in our head, as the newer post is blank for me too. Either way this post on expectations ran so true for me. Made me realize we have a whole scenario running constantly in our minds of…"
"Slick, there was a practical side to my moving as well. The house was way too big, I wanted a warmer climate and I knew people. I don't think I could have moved somewhere just cold turkey where I knew no one. In fact my ex SIL has shared my…"
"I moved a year ago to a different state where I did know a few people. I feel like I left my life behind and all that it was and all that it could have ...should have been. I feel it was someone else now who lived there...another couple...another…"
"Tate, I'm sorry for your loss. Grief and trying to find a new life is the hardest most exhausting thing Ive ever done or will ever do. I too was married 28 years and my husband died of brain cancer and has been gone almost 4 years now. For me…"
"It's odd that I saw this post because I don't ordinarily come here, but to just the groups I belong to. But I've been thinking the exact thing lately about alternative universes or timelines. It's been four years for me and these…"
"Ah Sue, I enjoyed your post here. I can relate to the loneliness and the longing for a hug. A recent blog infollow calls it skin hunger and they weren't referring to sex. I think this is common with older widowed people without a new partner."
"My husband died from brain cancer, but I too dealt with his depression after retirement. Initially we were quite happy, but retirement changed him. We had moved and he felt he had no purpose and was way out of his comfort zone for 11 years. This had…"
Maggie, my husband's and my 35th anniversary is Oct 10. I know you and I will both be sharing some very sad thoughts that day. I am trying to be grateful for nearly 34 years with him but I will be tearful all day anyway and I know you will too. Do know I will be thinking of you too.
Thank you Maggie for your kind words and for friending me. Yes, it sure is tough being on your own. The aloneness is probably the hardest thing to deal with. One and a half years for you...that's a long time. At the minute, for me, three months seems like an eternity. Do hope you have some brighter days and look forward to connecting with you again. Sending you blessings ☼
Thanks for friending me. It is now 4 months since my husband died of lung cancer. It was a 1 1/2 long battle with his being in hospital for 10 months of it and driving everyday to visit. So at age 72 after spending 42 years together it is a struggle to push myself to find things outside the house as I am normally a reserved person and a homebody. It is good to see other people struggles and knowing I am not the only one finding it hard starting over.This site is a blessing.