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Maggiepie
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Rebirth and connection

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 28. 17 Replies

I believe in rebirth. Based on that, I was wondering. If a person has passed on, and is rebirthed, while their loved one is still living in the current lifetime, can the person passed on (now in…Continue

Selling on poshmark?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Jan 10. 1 Reply

Has anyone sold on poshmark and can offer any opinion? Thanks.Continue

Is anyone here into creative writing, as in fiction?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 10. 5 Replies

I used to dabble with writing speculative short stories. Since Dec 12,  I have not been able to muster any interest in doing that again and I used to love it. I had been with an online writing group…Continue

Anyone up at this hour? It's 4.05 am here in Pasadena, CA.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 7. 8 Replies

Same thing. Slept for a couple of hours and I wake up in the middle of the night. Anyone else up? Just wondering. Now, I understand why people were asking about the chat room. Continue

 

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ahdhu replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Dear Maggiepie. As far as i am considered its very difficult to sleep on and hang on secrets. You made the correct choice clear it and get your head clean. to face the reality love and hugs ahd"
Jan 29
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Here's a kicker. Last week, I saw a message (dated Dec 10, time 12.41pm, 2019) on my phone from hubby. But at that time, he was already in the hospital (admitted Dec 5). I stayed with him in the hospital until I left without…"
Jan 29
Dee1960 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Been reading all the responses, just want to chime in -- I'm 4+ years widowed, still "talk" to my husband, i.e. sometimes stupid stuff, watching a movie on TV  I say out loud  "This movie sucks." or "That was…"
Jan 28
ahdhu replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Thankyou all, This is the greatest help i had got, i would try to be with you all frequently. now i know there are a lot of people with whom i could share my problems. once again thank you all"
Jan 28
shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Same with me.  Quite a few times I've felt Stephen's presence, distinctly.  And I know without a doubt that it is him.  The energy and vibration rise.  I just smile and say thank you.  "
Jan 28
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"I actually felt that before. Hubby passed on Dec 12 2019. Maybe, three weeks ago, I was sitting in his chair and I had dozed off. When I woke up, I felt someone standing behind the chair. I thought someone had entered my place without my…"
Jan 28
ahdhu replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"hi all of you out there. yes we all do have done this and experienced this. how many of you have felt their beloved once behind you while working or at the chair. it a longtime she left me but recently i started to feel this. is this common among…"
Jan 28
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"I wonder if that's the Akashic records you are talking about. These records contain every thought, action, absolutely everything that a soul has experienced. I've heard of soul realignment. Not too sure that anyone on this plane of human…"
Jan 28
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"So far, I haven't spoken to hubby aloud in front of others, but he's always in my head and my one-sided conversation with him seems natural, like he was here. Yes, there are issues that pop into my head and what-ifs and if-onlys take over…"
Jan 28
ahdhu replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"my heartfelt condolences to you to start with. You are not the first and very confident it wouldn't be the last. we all do that specially me. it went to the extent that when among her family many times i spoke out loud. and often get offended.…"
Jan 26
Melissa replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"I've run into a theory that talks about us having different parts of the soul/spirit- the ancestral part (i.e. where that individual's memories, personality, etc are stored) is different than the bit that gets reborn in that particular…"
Jan 26
shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Wow Maggie, that's awesome!  Yeah, he's definitely with you there!  Thanks for sharing, I have a BIG smile on my face just reading this! Hugs, Shirley"
Jan 25
shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"Maggie, kudos to your hubby for the signs!  And yes, you and hubby ARE connected and always will be. Stephen recently sent a sign to me in the form of a text from a relative.  She swears she did not initiate that text, it came…"
Jan 25
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"Thanks for letting us know about Life Afterlife. When I'm in the mood, I might try watching it.  Yes, I'm curious, open and willing. "
Jan 24
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"Yes, well said. I have been receiving several signs from hubby. We're connected except we are living on different sides. As for a spiritual/earthly marriage, yes, there is no right or wrong. From what I've experienced through the signs…"
Jan 24
Maggiepie replied to Lark's discussion Ugh...Christmas. in the group Born in the 50s
"So did you end up getting Chinese food? I think it's great that you decided what you wanted to do for Christmas. We have a right to feel and do. "
Jan 24

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On Dec 12, 2019, life upended, so here I am, alone. We had no kids.

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At 9:22pm on January 8, 2020, Frank said…

Hi Maggie,

I kinda did things haphazardly.  About two weeks after Susan passed, and my two boys went back to their homes, I emptied Susan's closet. The first week I got rid of all of her pills and medications.  I mailed back her insulin pump, and took all of her diabetes test strips and such down to Hartsel CO where they were given to other diabetics.   When we moved into the house permanently, we had a second home's worth of furnishings, clothing, and stuff in a 10x20 storage space.  Once the addition was completed and I had the "CO" (Certificate of Occupancy) from the county, I emptied the storage space and moved everything into the addition.  Susan's room was packed floor to ceiling save for an walkway to get from one end to the other.  I would walk in one door through the walkway to the exit door and out into "my room."  At the three year mark, I was walking through and thought "I've got to start going through these boxes and sorting stuff.  I grabbed a bag marked "Personnel Effects" opened it, looked in, shut it and put it back crying. The bag held Susan's clothing and purse from when she died.  I ran out of the room and cried the day through.  Two years later I determined that I had to do something to that room so I could start to organize it.  Just as a trip starts with a step, so does that kind of project start with "A" box.  I made four trips into Denver with a full truck each time taking Sewing stuff, clothing, quilting stuff, and tons and tons of fabric.  That winter I took all of her winter stuff into Denver and donated it.  This will be my 7th year and her room is still not emptied and I still have about 10 or 15 boxes to go through.  She loved brass animals.  I have her collection.  I gave them to her for Christmas, and for Mother's Day.  I doubt that either of my boys will want them, I just don't know what to do with them, so there they sit.

Maggie, unless you decide to move our of your home to another, there is no hurry.  Some of the stuff I had to do right away, For instance, the company that gave her, her insulin pump wanted it back. Things like that need to be done rapidly, otherwise it is whenever you can feel strong enough to do it.  Sometimes you can get family (parents, sisters, brothers) to help. However they may wind up fighting over "A" picture, or they may have the idea that "Everything must go" and you will be torn as to if a specific item should go or if you have to have it.  My advise about the house is to remain in it unless you have to sell.  All the professionals all advise to not make any huge decisions, like selling your home and moving, for at least after the death, and preferably 2-3 years for things like that.

You can reach me at [email protected] or 303-274-0572.

((((HUGS))))

Frank

At 8:42pm on January 6, 2020, Frank said…

Hi Maggie,

I'd be honored to write and chat with you whenever you want.

Sincerely,

Frank

At 12:32pm on December 22, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Maggiepie. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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