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Maggiepie
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Maggiepie's Discussions

Handwriting necklace jewelry

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie May 21. 2 Replies

In case anyone is interested, I was introduced to "handwriting" jewelry by another WV member. It's available on etsy. You send a sample handwriting and this is engraved on a bar/tag and can be worn…Continue

Rebirth and connection

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 28. 17 Replies

I believe in rebirth. Based on that, I was wondering. If a person has passed on, and is rebirthed, while their loved one is still living in the current lifetime, can the person passed on (now in…Continue

Selling on poshmark?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Jan 10. 1 Reply

Has anyone sold on poshmark and can offer any opinion? Thanks.Continue

Is anyone here into creative writing, as in fiction?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 10. 5 Replies

I used to dabble with writing speculative short stories. Since Dec 12,  I have not been able to muster any interest in doing that again and I used to love it. I had been with an online writing group…Continue

 

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Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Handwriting necklace jewelry
May 21
CatCo replied to Maggiepie's discussion Handwriting necklace jewelry
"Please send me the link. I would love to get Barry's "I love you" note on a necklace."
May 21
Maggiepie posted a discussion

Handwriting necklace jewelry

In case anyone is interested, I was introduced to "handwriting" jewelry by another WV member. It's available on etsy. You send a sample handwriting and this is engraved on a bar/tag and can be worn as a necklace or bracelet. The costs vary. I got my necklace in stainless steel for $18, shipping included. I have hubby's note written to me from a very long time ago and I used that. See More
May 21
Maggiepie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Yes, the love of our life trumps any possession. It's obvious you shared a wonderful life with your wife. All of us on this site have lost precious and priceless. Five months into this grieving process, I'm still learning to cope with life…"
May 21
Maggiepie replied to Barbara Ann's discussion Where is my grief?
"I'm learning that everyone experiences the process of grieving differently. Our other half passing away suddenly is a tremendous shock. I've gone through non-stop crying and sudden bursts of crying when it seemed nothing triggered…"
May 21
Maggiepie replied to Oskar Ruettiger's discussion Anyone feel like this ? Nightmare, Twilight Zone, Groundhog Day
"Yes, it's happened to me. Five months since hubby passed, I've managed okay, good, badly, or sometimes, in a zombie state, and then, suddenly, from nowhere, I'm bawling or just feeling like the initial period of shock and loss all…"
May 20
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Thanks! Five months into this grieving and the experience is still so raw. I always expected to grow old with hubby, despite his health problems. "
May 19
CatCo replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Barry was in a coma for a week before he made his transition on Saturday (May 16). In a coma he turned lights on. Continued that after he passed away. He came to several friends already. So yes, it is your husband, not your imagination or a bad…"
May 19
CatCo replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Barry was in a coma for a week before he made his transition on Saturday (May 16). In a coma he turned lights on. Continued that after he passed away. He came to several friends already. So yes, it is your husband, not your imagination or a bad…"
May 19
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May 19
Maggiepie replied to Impala Princess's discussion Corona is making my partner's passing so much more difficult in the group Widowed in 2020
"I know the feeling "Don't forget him". My hubby passed away Dec 12 2019. Family (hubby's, as hubby is my only family here) and others rallied around and they were awesome. Then later, whenever they talked about something else or…"
May 19
ahdhu replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Dear Maggiepie. As far as i am considered its very difficult to sleep on and hang on secrets. You made the correct choice clear it and get your head clean. to face the reality love and hugs ahd"
Jan 29
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Here's a kicker. Last week, I saw a message (dated Dec 10, time 12.41pm, 2019) on my phone from hubby. But at that time, he was already in the hospital (admitted Dec 5). I stayed with him in the hospital until I left without…"
Jan 29
Dee1960 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Been reading all the responses, just want to chime in -- I'm 4+ years widowed, still "talk" to my husband, i.e. sometimes stupid stuff, watching a movie on TV  I say out loud  "This movie sucks." or "That was…"
Jan 28
ahdhu replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Thankyou all, This is the greatest help i had got, i would try to be with you all frequently. now i know there are a lot of people with whom i could share my problems. once again thank you all"
Jan 28
shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Same with me.  Quite a few times I've felt Stephen's presence, distinctly.  And I know without a doubt that it is him.  The energy and vibration rise.  I just smile and say thank you.  "
Jan 28

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On Dec 12, 2019, life upended, so here I am, alone. We had no kids.

Lost hubby Dec 12 2019. We have no kids. My family is on the other side of the world. So really, it's just me. And hubby's family. 

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At 9:22pm on January 8, 2020, Frank said…

Hi Maggie,

I kinda did things haphazardly.  About two weeks after Susan passed, and my two boys went back to their homes, I emptied Susan's closet. The first week I got rid of all of her pills and medications.  I mailed back her insulin pump, and took all of her diabetes test strips and such down to Hartsel CO where they were given to other diabetics.   When we moved into the house permanently, we had a second home's worth of furnishings, clothing, and stuff in a 10x20 storage space.  Once the addition was completed and I had the "CO" (Certificate of Occupancy) from the county, I emptied the storage space and moved everything into the addition.  Susan's room was packed floor to ceiling save for an walkway to get from one end to the other.  I would walk in one door through the walkway to the exit door and out into "my room."  At the three year mark, I was walking through and thought "I've got to start going through these boxes and sorting stuff.  I grabbed a bag marked "Personnel Effects" opened it, looked in, shut it and put it back crying. The bag held Susan's clothing and purse from when she died.  I ran out of the room and cried the day through.  Two years later I determined that I had to do something to that room so I could start to organize it.  Just as a trip starts with a step, so does that kind of project start with "A" box.  I made four trips into Denver with a full truck each time taking Sewing stuff, clothing, quilting stuff, and tons and tons of fabric.  That winter I took all of her winter stuff into Denver and donated it.  This will be my 7th year and her room is still not emptied and I still have about 10 or 15 boxes to go through.  She loved brass animals.  I have her collection.  I gave them to her for Christmas, and for Mother's Day.  I doubt that either of my boys will want them, I just don't know what to do with them, so there they sit.

Maggie, unless you decide to move our of your home to another, there is no hurry.  Some of the stuff I had to do right away, For instance, the company that gave her, her insulin pump wanted it back. Things like that need to be done rapidly, otherwise it is whenever you can feel strong enough to do it.  Sometimes you can get family (parents, sisters, brothers) to help. However they may wind up fighting over "A" picture, or they may have the idea that "Everything must go" and you will be torn as to if a specific item should go or if you have to have it.  My advise about the house is to remain in it unless you have to sell.  All the professionals all advise to not make any huge decisions, like selling your home and moving, for at least after the death, and preferably 2-3 years for things like that.

You can reach me at [email protected] or 303-274-0572.

((((HUGS))))

Frank

At 8:42pm on January 6, 2020, Frank said…

Hi Maggie,

I'd be honored to write and chat with you whenever you want.

Sincerely,

Frank

At 12:32pm on December 22, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Maggiepie. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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