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Maggiepie
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Rebirth and connection

Started this discussion. Last reply by shebert56 7 hours ago. 12 Replies

I believe in rebirth. Based on that, I was wondering. If a person has passed on, and is rebirthed, while their loved one is still living in the current lifetime, can the person passed on (now in…Continue

Selling on poshmark?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says Jan 10. 1 Reply

Has anyone sold on poshmark and can offer any opinion? Thanks.Continue

Is anyone here into creative writing, as in fiction?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 10. 5 Replies

I used to dabble with writing speculative short stories. Since Dec 12,  I have not been able to muster any interest in doing that again and I used to love it. I had been with an online writing group…Continue

Anyone up at this hour? It's 4.05 am here in Pasadena, CA.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 7. 8 Replies

Same thing. Slept for a couple of hours and I wake up in the middle of the night. Anyone else up? Just wondering. Now, I understand why people were asking about the chat room. Continue

 

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shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Rich, I've learned there are no coincidences.  Janet sent you a sign!  Signs don't always appear when we ask for them.  She is still connected to you and still right here.   SoreEyes, keep talking to her.  She…"
7 hours ago
shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"Well said Laura!  ~Shirley"
7 hours ago
Rich replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"I get my wife's birth date a bit and just when I need it. One of the first times is when I went to an auction a few weeks after she passed. You had to scan your drivers license to get a bid number 001 - 999. The machine was not working for the…"
10 hours ago
shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Rebirth and connection
"Maggie, your husband will decide what's best for his soul.  But you will always be connected to him.  Some souls return as other family members (some  husbands might return as a wife, a son, a daughter, etc.).   Try to…"
19 hours ago
SoreEyes replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"I read the best way to get validation is to ask for specific things.  I asked my wife to give me a sign with dates, coins and a bunch of purple grapes.  In a way that I couldn't explain, the other day my birth day appears on the…"
yesterday
CryinCali replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Yes i too wish very much for my hubby to send me a sign any thing and feel sad when i feel i.m only left with memories instead of a validation of our loce i try not too get too down about it but i do wish and hope often for one."
yesterday
NishaAmanda left a comment for Maggiepie
"Hi,  Thank you for reaching out to me. "
yesterday
SewCraftiMT replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Hello Maggiepie,  I know just what you mean and my prayers are with you. I loss my dear Harry October of 2019 and I do the same thing. I talk to him all day long, in the car, at the store, cooking dinner and even praying over my meals. I wear…"
Tuesday
dolly replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Maggiepie....What a great experience you! "
Monday
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Thanks for the input, Shebert56. I also do not believe in coincidences. I haven't had any more "tv turning on" occurrences. But it solidified for me that I was not going out of mind when certain thoughts from hubby popped into my head…"
Monday
shebert56 replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Maggie, one way those on the other side try to communicate is through electrical methods.  They are, after all, now pure light and energy, and everything is energy.   I have had, and continue to have, some interesting electrical…"
Monday
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Last week, I was on the phone, talking and crying. My tv suddenly turned on. I was not touching the remote and I was at least ten feet away from the tv. Until that happened, I thought the several incidents that happened to me were a result of my…"
Monday
dolly replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"How exciting..I have heard others say similar things.. I have not seen Ray as such but have had a number of dreams with him in them, which give me pause.. lol one was he was back in the SNF and I was sitting on the bed thinking..well I need to let…"
Sunday
dolly replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Hi Maggiepie...Oh I think this is totally normal..well for some of us lol and if not who cares..do what makes you feel good and comforted. .I have a photo of my husband Ray (died 9/11/19) on my dresser and often refer to it. I was fortunate to have…"
Sunday
Maggiepie commented on Lisa_says's blog post 406 Days later
"Yes, Groundhog is a good way to explain this process of grieving. The world is the same and is not. This rinse and repeat cycle is endless. The first week after hubby passed was brutal. That feeling of loss claws like someone scrape. Every day,…"
Sunday
Maggiepie replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"I posted this in somewhere else but I'd do it here too.  I have been doing this. Whenever I feel I'm about to go into another state of extreme grief, I talk to hubby aloud or in my head. I'd say something typical of me. Like,…"
Jan 16

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On Dec 12, 2019, life upended, so here I am, alone. We had no kids.

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At 4:29pm on January 22, 2020, NishaAmanda said…

Hi, 

Thank you for reaching out to me. 

At 9:22pm on January 8, 2020, Frank said…

Hi Maggie,

I kinda did things haphazardly.  About two weeks after Susan passed, and my two boys went back to their homes, I emptied Susan's closet. The first week I got rid of all of her pills and medications.  I mailed back her insulin pump, and took all of her diabetes test strips and such down to Hartsel CO where they were given to other diabetics.   When we moved into the house permanently, we had a second home's worth of furnishings, clothing, and stuff in a 10x20 storage space.  Once the addition was completed and I had the "CO" (Certificate of Occupancy) from the county, I emptied the storage space and moved everything into the addition.  Susan's room was packed floor to ceiling save for an walkway to get from one end to the other.  I would walk in one door through the walkway to the exit door and out into "my room."  At the three year mark, I was walking through and thought "I've got to start going through these boxes and sorting stuff.  I grabbed a bag marked "Personnel Effects" opened it, looked in, shut it and put it back crying. The bag held Susan's clothing and purse from when she died.  I ran out of the room and cried the day through.  Two years later I determined that I had to do something to that room so I could start to organize it.  Just as a trip starts with a step, so does that kind of project start with "A" box.  I made four trips into Denver with a full truck each time taking Sewing stuff, clothing, quilting stuff, and tons and tons of fabric.  That winter I took all of her winter stuff into Denver and donated it.  This will be my 7th year and her room is still not emptied and I still have about 10 or 15 boxes to go through.  She loved brass animals.  I have her collection.  I gave them to her for Christmas, and for Mother's Day.  I doubt that either of my boys will want them, I just don't know what to do with them, so there they sit.

Maggie, unless you decide to move our of your home to another, there is no hurry.  Some of the stuff I had to do right away, For instance, the company that gave her, her insulin pump wanted it back. Things like that need to be done rapidly, otherwise it is whenever you can feel strong enough to do it.  Sometimes you can get family (parents, sisters, brothers) to help. However they may wind up fighting over "A" picture, or they may have the idea that "Everything must go" and you will be torn as to if a specific item should go or if you have to have it.  My advise about the house is to remain in it unless you have to sell.  All the professionals all advise to not make any huge decisions, like selling your home and moving, for at least after the death, and preferably 2-3 years for things like that.

You can reach me at [email protected] or 303-274-0572.

((((HUGS))))

Frank

At 8:42pm on January 6, 2020, Frank said…

Hi Maggie,

I'd be honored to write and chat with you whenever you want.

Sincerely,

Frank

At 12:32pm on December 22, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Maggiepie. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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