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MargoAlone said… Well, if you can do it, so can I, Paulak. As long as my daughter understands that I am not ignoring the Christmas holiday and the reason for it, we will be find. Just want to skip the whole big Christmas morning brunch (we started doing brunch because dtr & son-in-law go to his family for dinner that day). Anyway, like you said: time for the beginning of new traditions. A start on the way to our "new normal".
Paulak said… MargoAlone..I came right out and told the family that Ive been thrown into a new like I will have to adjust to and will have to take it one step at a time..I wont be carrying on the old family traditions..I will be scaling down my lifestyle..My partner is no longer here to share things with me and it just isnt the same, so I will be doing things differently, and I am..Now my Children are forming their own traditions..They have thought up some of their own things to do..Ive passed on the torch..I see no sense in pretending things are the same. They arent..It may not work for everyone but a few people I know have managed to make it work..Hope you find a way to still be together and have a family ''Tradition''
Kathy said… I am so sorry for your loss but am happy you found this site. I to loss my husband suddenly on 2/19/12 from cancer that we did not know he had, it was stage four and no signs of illness until 9 days before he died. I am grateful that he did not suffer, but the disbelief and shock hits me everyday in stomach.. It is getting a little easier handling the pain however him not here with me is something I am still having trouble accepting. The only thing that gets me through is my faith. This is the place to vent all you feel and with people that understand what you are going through as we all are walking the sme journey. One thing I have learn is not let anyone tell me how I should feel and I am finally able to say to well meaning friends don't tell me how I should feel. I pray for peace and with each day passing the pain will get easier to handle.
Joyce said… Welcome MargoAlone: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
Hi MargoAlone
Dianne in Nevada said…
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