"I'm with you, thelmaz - definitely miss my "go-to" person to fix things and to check on me. I have a new cell phone now but can't get rid of the old one - the last texts exchanged between hubby and I are still saved threre…"
"Yes, libba, you are right: Silence, Stillness, Soltitude. My best time of the day is now at daybreak sipping my first cup of coffee before I start getting ready for work. At first, it was the roughest time, as Art & I spend that…"
"Dear Adrift - that is the most difficult thing I have had to get past. Off I went to work in the morning, texted back & forth with hubby at lunch time, and then when I returned home from work, he was on the ground. Just can't…"
"Well, Joellen, here's hoping we can be successful one day at a time this year. Not too concerned with being weepy at times (don't think that part of grieving will be over that easily) but I do hope I can get past whatever…"
"May we all have many soft days in 2013 - my goal this year is to regain my sense of balance while still rememering and celebrating the history of Art & my 41 years of marriage. His departure was unexpeted but, when I think of it, it was so…"
"Hello, Arnie - in spite of my husband's unexpected passing, I too believe that God has a reason for taking him that way. Perhaps to spare him from a debilitating stroke or a battle with cancer - who knows. Yes, hubby had a history…"
"I am still avoiding dealing with hubby's clothes, toiletries, etc - he has all his toiletries in the upstairs bathroom which he used so as not to wake me in the am (he normally arose at 3:00am to get ready for work, I get up at 5:30) - so all…"
"Hope we all found something to help us find our balance today. Christmas morning started out a bit rough - remembering the different special Christmas mornings when our kids were small (daughter is 37, son is 34) and spent some time crying…"
"One evening, after a particularly terrible day, while I was playing on the computer, I heard a sound from the living room - sounded just like Art clearing his throat. At first I thought it was my dog snoring, but Jasper was right beside me in…"
"Dear Petal - one of the most difficult things to get past is a feeling of guilt when your loved one dies suddently - although Art had a history of heart disease (had quad-bypass in 2009), had quit smoking 7 years ago, and was doing everything his…"
"Today is the wrost day I have had in a whil. Trying to box up package to mail which is one of the things Art did for me - I am al thumbs. Broke down in tears (mostly of anger) when the box I had thought to be large enough wasn't -…"
"Hi, thelmaz - welcome aboard and hope you find comfort in this club. I've been a window since the end of August this year. Have two grown children, my dtr lives only 15 minutes from me and my sone lives 14 hours away. I now live with my…"
"Well, if you can do it, so can I, Paulak. As long as my daughter understands that I am not ignoring the Christmas holiday and the reason for it, we will be find. Just want to skip the whole big Christmas morning brunch (we started doing…"
"MargoAlone..I came right out and told the family that Ive been thrown into a new like I will have to adjust to and will have to take it one step at a time..I wont be carrying on the old family traditions..I will be scaling down my lifestyle..My…"
Well, if you can do it, so can I, Paulak. As long as my daughter understands that I am not ignoring the Christmas holiday and the reason for it, we will be find. Just want to skip the whole big Christmas morning brunch (we started doing brunch because dtr & son-in-law go to his family for dinner that day). Anyway, like you said: time for the beginning of new traditions. A start on the way to our "new normal".
MargoAlone..I came right out and told the family that Ive been thrown into a new like I will have to adjust to and will have to take it one step at a time..I wont be carrying on the old family traditions..I will be scaling down my lifestyle..My partner is no longer here to share things with me and it just isnt the same, so I will be doing things differently, and I am..Now my Children are forming their own traditions..They have thought up some of their own things to do..Ive passed on the torch..I see no sense in pretending things are the same. They arent..It may not work for everyone but a few people I know have managed to make it work..Hope you find a way to still be together and have a family ''Tradition''
I am so sorry for your loss but am happy you found this site. I to loss my husband suddenly on 2/19/12 from cancer that we did not know he had, it was stage four and no signs of illness until 9 days before he died. I am grateful that he did not suffer, but the disbelief and shock hits me everyday in stomach.. It is getting a little easier handling the pain however him not here with me is something I am still having trouble accepting. The only thing that gets me through is my faith. This is the place to vent all you feel and with people that understand what you are going through as we all are walking the sme journey. One thing I have learn is not let anyone tell me how I should feel and I am finally able to say to well meaning friends don't tell me how I should feel. I pray for peace and with each day passing the pain will get easier to handle.
Welcome MargoAlone: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
I'm sorry for your loss, MargoAlone, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info
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