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Maria Louisa
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Rainy (Misty) commented on Maria Louisa's blog post Be Still, My Child (Poem by my son, age 20)
"Your son is an amazing poet, with a beautiful insight.  Please give him a big hug from this widda!  Thank you for sharing this with us.  "
Apr 28
Maria Louisa commented on Melissa's blog post Home Alone
"It is great that you wrote this. I can relate to a lot of what you said. It is good that you make a point of talking to someone every day. I think that is why some women take a part-time job at a place like Macy's or something - just…"
Apr 6
Maria Louisa replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"I am still wearing my wedding band, and his, actually. It is 5 and a half years out. I just never felt to take them off. In the meantime, I started "seeing" an old family friend in October. We dated in a platonic manner for 3 months.…"
Feb 16
Maria Louisa commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post Alone on the Farm
"Dear Misty, I remember the first time I was alone for the weekend. I cried way harder that first night. I felt like I was facing my grief head-on with no relief or distraction.  Yes - life will be beautiful again someday. And it is…"
Feb 16
Maria Louisa commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post My child can't catch a break!
"That is an enormous amount of tragedy all at once. Sometimes it happens like that. I am not sure why. Hold your daughter close. You will get through this. "
Feb 16
Maria Louisa replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Bless your heart. I admire your strength. What a shock to go through that...thinking it is only 4 broken ribs... and he would be well, and then to see him go down so quickly. Your attitude will pull you through My husband died over 5 years ago. He…"
Dec 11, 2017
Maria Louisa replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"It is a sensitive process. It took me a while, but I got rid of his toothbrush and other dental things. I just tossed them in a moment of strength. I knew he would think it ridiculous to hang on to everything. Even so, it was after a year or two. It…"
Dec 11, 2017
Maria Louisa commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Hi everyone,  I know the holidays are hard. I am extending my love to all of you.  ((((((Hugs))))))) Love to all, Maria"
Dec 8, 2017
Maria Louisa commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Hi "
Dec 8, 2017
Maria Louisa replied to JHclecce's discussion Wedding planning for Volume Two in the group Remarried After Loss
"I agree - simplest is best - whatever that means for a couple. "
Nov 18, 2017
Maria Louisa replied to Doug02122014's discussion Who is the best fit to marry a widowed person ? Another widowed person, someone who has never been married, or someone who is divorced ? in the group Remarried After Loss
"Thank you for sharing your remarkable story.  I loved this part: But the greatest risk is to take no risk. Because I have only recently come to that conclusion. My beloved husband died 5 years ago, "
Nov 17, 2017
Maria Louisa replied to Doug02122014's discussion Dealing with the fear of losing a 2nd. or 3rd. spouse . in the group Remarried After Loss
"My beautiful husband died over 5 years ago. We had been together for 37 years, ever since I was age 20. I was 57 when he died. The love was deep and I swore I could not open up to love only to go through such loss again. But as time went…"
Nov 17, 2017
Maria Louisa replied to underthefarmhouse's discussion Wedding anniversary
"My heart goes out to you. All of these milestones can be very hard. My suggestion would be to meet it head on somehow - be cice to yourself. Take time, if you can. Maybe even write a love letter to his soul..."
May 11, 2016
Maria Louisa replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I am so sorry for what you are going through. I was 57 when my husband died, but the youngest of our three kids was only age 19, so I can relate. However, I was very grateful that we had gotten him through high school and into college before my…"
May 11, 2016
Maria Louisa replied to Jill's discussion What would you ask your late spouse right now if you could? And why?
"Oh my God that is beautiful "
Apr 16, 2016
Maria Louisa replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"That is so very sweet. Thank you for sharing. "
Apr 16, 2016

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I met my husband, Timothy, when I was age 20 and we fell in love immediately. We were together 37 years (married for 34). He died August 6th, 2012 from prostate cancer that turned very aggressive. I try to keep a spiritual perspective, but this morning I felt overwhelmed, sad and lost and I found this site.

I am grateful for the love we shared, and for our 3 beautiful children (the youngest is in college - he was 19 when Timothy died)

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When the Miracle is Withheld - Loss and Transcendence

Posted on April 1, 2016 at 6:21am 0 Comments

I wrote this article several months ago . It was a cathartic process, but helpful in the end

When the Miracle is Withheld - A story of Loss and Transcendence

http://www.ananda.org/clarity-magazine/2015/11/when-miracle-withheld/

Love to all,

Mary

Allow Little Children to Come Unto Me

Posted on August 17, 2013 at 3:23pm 0 Comments

Allow Little Children to Come Unto Me

Then were there brought unto him little children, that he should put his hands on them, and pray: and the disciples rebuked them.  But Jesus said, “Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” And he laid his hands on them, and departed thence. Matthew 19: 13-15

Paraphrase:

 “Allow little children to come unto me, do not…

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One year anniversary - August 6 -

Posted on August 11, 2013 at 9:00am 4 Comments

I wondered how to honor him... My Beloved, my husband, Timothy... What is the best way?

I lit a votive candle at a special altar in our home and kept it lit all day. I had quiet time, and also some supportive phone talks with friends, and gently relived some memories of when we first met over 38 years…

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For my Heavenly Father (another poem by my son, for his father, Timothy) (this one was first)

Posted on March 26, 2013 at 9:36pm 3 Comments

For my Heavenly Father

By David Timothy Kretzmann

It’s all right in front me

But why am I unable to see

Before it’s too late for me to tell you

That all of my respect is due

My…

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At 5:59pm on March 4, 2014, twindaddy (Dean) said…

Thank you for the welcome and kind words, Maria. My girls are what keep me going.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

At 7:47pm on January 29, 2014, my roses said…

 

My roses

Dear Maria Louisa  thank you so much for your likes of  the 3 posts/blog that I wrote.  Have just looked at your son's poems and feel he is in a deep place too, where he can write his feelings of his loss.  It is a year since my husband passed away from Cancer on 19 Jan 2013.  From Sept onwards it has been'anniversaries (wedding day) until now.   31st Jan is the funeral and his birthday is on 2nd Feb

so still not out of the FIRST YEAR ANNIVERSARIES.  I have had many signs of

Wes during this year, 3 miracles occurred when he passed away. His sister has seen 2 visions of him, and I have seen one.  Also of course my dream which you mentioned too.  Unusual thing happened on 19th Jan as well.

with much love - what a journey we are on.... so hard to deal with most of the time.

iF YOU WISH TO SEE MY PHOTOS OF WES AND i

http://widowedvillage.org/photo/photo/listForContributor?screenName=3j8mhn0po7v9k

At 2:50am on January 3, 2014, RonB said…

Hi :-)

Looks like church was a big part of your lives together. I hope it will always be for you.

At 8:41am on April 13, 2013, kshy said…

Maria Louisa, I wanted to thank you for your comments on my blog post. I am not sure if it's just because I haven't been ready, or it didn't cross my "widow" brain, but thank you for your suggestion to refer to my husband, as my "late" husband. It just didn't even dawn on me to use this word! And I am pretty sure that in the near future, I will do so. It clarifies things really quickly. Though, I imagine the first time I say the words might be hard. I've been enjoying your photos...your husband looks like such a kind and handsome man. I am so sorry for your and your family's loss. Sending warm hugs your way.

At 1:18pm on April 9, 2013, alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) said…

Dear Maria Louisa (what a pretty name for a pretty lady!). I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. I'm glad my little quote helped you today. I try to post positive notes when I can, although I complain plenty too. I try to be grateful for what I have and the love that we had for 42 years, married for 37 of them...Take care.

At 7:01am on March 28, 2013, saudade said…

Just read your son's lovely poems, so I know that he has been raised with a great faith. Hope that same faith will comfort you today.  Best, Lisa

At 8:37am on March 22, 2013, Stacey said…

Hey their,

thanks for thinking of me, you have a great day.  I am meeting some friends for a light dinner today, yes forcing myself to be social, anyway I will try to chat with you later tonight

At 5:17pm on March 21, 2013, courtice said…

Hi Maria Louisa, thanks for your message. I'm sorry for the loss of your husband as well. I guess that we both know the surreal emotions that come with the experience and all the profound ways that grief shows itself. I hope that you find your way to a better place too! Take care!

At 8:09pm on March 16, 2013, Brucer said…

Maria,

Don't worry about the spelling! Spellcheck ain't purfict! 

Our grandson was born 6 weeks early and is doing great.  He weighed 6lbs, 6 oz. I think there was divine intervention there.  Karen got to see more of him.

You are right about God's advanced course!  Karen was so worried about me being alone and I wasn't sure why.  Well, I know now! She was way smarter than me about that.  When I write about her, I still tear up.  She was so full of life and now, I have a huge hole in my heart.

Thanks again for writing.

Bruce

At 6:52pm on March 16, 2013, Brucer said…

Hi Maria Louisa,

I am sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to you!  I have found this site to be helpful.

My sweetie passed on October 16, 2012 after battling ovarian cancer for 8 years.  Like you and Timothy, Karen and I were married 34 years.  We were together 38 (since 10th grade).  We have 2 children and 1 grandson who is 11 months old.

I try to focus on Karen's "gain" in God's glory and not my loss.  Easier said than done for sure!

I hope you and your family can find moments of peace. God Bless!

Bruce

 
 
 

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