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Maria Louisa
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Maria Louisa replied to JustLynn's discussion Do you think you’ll get married again?
"Everything in its own time. See my post below. So sorry for your loss. "
Sep 6, 2019
Maria Louisa replied to JustLynn's discussion Do you think you’ll get married again?
"My beloved died in 2012 and I always said I had topped ou with him - so I wasn't looking. We had raised three children - together for 37 years. But a few months after 5-year mark ) I felt my late husband come to me to bless me saying" Be…"
Sep 6, 2019
Maria Louisa replied to JustLynn's discussion Do you think you’ll get married again?
"You are young. I hope you find love again. I did. "
Sep 6, 2019

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I met my husband, Timothy, when I was age 20 and we fell in love immediately. We were together 37 years (married for 34). He died August 6th, 2012 from prostate cancer that turned very aggressive. I try to keep a spiritual perspective, but this morning I felt overwhelmed, sad and lost and I found this site.

I am grateful for the love we shared, and for our 3 beautiful children (the youngest is in college - he was 19 when Timothy died)

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When the Miracle is Withheld - Loss and Transcendence

Posted on April 1, 2016 at 6:21am 0 Comments

I wrote this article several months ago . It was a cathartic process, but helpful in the end

When the Miracle is Withheld - A story of Loss and Transcendence

Love to all,


Allow Little Children to Come Unto Me

Posted on August 17, 2013 at 3:23pm 0 Comments

Allow Little Children to Come Unto Me

Then were there brought unto him little children, that he should put his hands on them, and pray: and the disciples rebuked them.  But Jesus said, “Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” And he laid his hands on them, and departed thence. Matthew 19: 13-15


 “Allow little children to come unto me, do not…


One year anniversary - August 6 -

Posted on August 11, 2013 at 9:00am 4 Comments

I wondered how to honor him... My Beloved, my husband, Timothy... What is the best way?

I lit a votive candle at a special altar in our home and kept it lit all day. I had quiet time, and also some supportive phone talks with friends, and gently relived some memories of when we first met over 38 years ago...

We had a fire and flower ceremony at the special Jesus…


For my Heavenly Father (another poem by my son, for his father, Timothy) (this one was first)

Posted on March 26, 2013 at 9:36pm 3 Comments

For my Heavenly Father

By David Timothy Kretzmann

It’s all right in front me

But why am I unable to see

Before it’s too late for me to tell you

That all of my respect is due



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At 5:59pm on March 4, 2014, twindaddy (Dean) said…

Thank you for the welcome and kind words, Maria. My girls are what keep me going.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

At 7:47pm on January 29, 2014, my roses said…


My roses

Dear Maria Louisa  thank you so much for your likes of  the 3 posts/blog that I wrote.  Have just looked at your son's poems and feel he is in a deep place too, where he can write his feelings of his loss.  It is a year since my husband passed away from Cancer on 19 Jan 2013.  From Sept onwards it has been'anniversaries (wedding day) until now.   31st Jan is the funeral and his birthday is on 2nd Feb

so still not out of the FIRST YEAR ANNIVERSARIES.  I have had many signs of

Wes during this year, 3 miracles occurred when he passed away. His sister has seen 2 visions of him, and I have seen one.  Also of course my dream which you mentioned too.  Unusual thing happened on 19th Jan as well.

with much love - what a journey we are on.... so hard to deal with most of the time.


At 2:50am on January 3, 2014, RonB said…

Hi :-)

Looks like church was a big part of your lives together. I hope it will always be for you.

At 8:41am on April 13, 2013, kshy said…

Maria Louisa, I wanted to thank you for your comments on my blog post. I am not sure if it's just because I haven't been ready, or it didn't cross my "widow" brain, but thank you for your suggestion to refer to my husband, as my "late" husband. It just didn't even dawn on me to use this word! And I am pretty sure that in the near future, I will do so. It clarifies things really quickly. Though, I imagine the first time I say the words might be hard. I've been enjoying your photos...your husband looks like such a kind and handsome man. I am so sorry for your and your family's loss. Sending warm hugs your way.

At 1:18pm on April 9, 2013, alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) said…

Dear Maria Louisa (what a pretty name for a pretty lady!). I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. I'm glad my little quote helped you today. I try to post positive notes when I can, although I complain plenty too. I try to be grateful for what I have and the love that we had for 42 years, married for 37 of them...Take care.

At 7:01am on March 28, 2013, saudade said…

Just read your son's lovely poems, so I know that he has been raised with a great faith. Hope that same faith will comfort you today.  Best, Lisa

At 8:37am on March 22, 2013, Stacey said…

Hey their,

thanks for thinking of me, you have a great day.  I am meeting some friends for a light dinner today, yes forcing myself to be social, anyway I will try to chat with you later tonight

At 5:17pm on March 21, 2013, courtice said…

Hi Maria Louisa, thanks for your message. I'm sorry for the loss of your husband as well. I guess that we both know the surreal emotions that come with the experience and all the profound ways that grief shows itself. I hope that you find your way to a better place too! Take care!

At 8:09pm on March 16, 2013, Brucer said…


Don't worry about the spelling! Spellcheck ain't purfict! 

Our grandson was born 6 weeks early and is doing great.  He weighed 6lbs, 6 oz. I think there was divine intervention there.  Karen got to see more of him.

You are right about God's advanced course!  Karen was so worried about me being alone and I wasn't sure why.  Well, I know now! She was way smarter than me about that.  When I write about her, I still tear up.  She was so full of life and now, I have a huge hole in my heart.

Thanks again for writing.


At 6:52pm on March 16, 2013, Brucer said…

Hi Maria Louisa,

I am sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to you!  I have found this site to be helpful.

My sweetie passed on October 16, 2012 after battling ovarian cancer for 8 years.  Like you and Timothy, Karen and I were married 34 years.  We were together 38 (since 10th grade).  We have 2 children and 1 grandson who is 11 months old.

I try to focus on Karen's "gain" in God's glory and not my loss.  Easier said than done for sure!

I hope you and your family can find moments of peace. God Bless!



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