The guy that did the book "Humans of New York" encountered an elderly woman on the streets of New York and took her photograph and shared her story. What she shared made him break down in tears.She…Continue
I was looking at the company website of the place my husband spent the last 15 years of his life. He spent more time with co-workers during those 15 years than with his wife and son. It is a sad…Continue
Thanksgiving is next week, but already I seem to be experiencing a hard time emotionally, struggling to stay present with the here and now, when my heart and mind wander to the past and dwell on all…Continue
I am not ready for dating as it has only been four months since I lost my husband, but I have to get some perspective on something. My husband was the only one married in his family of SIX boys. Yes,…Continue
Ah, the holidays. Lights twinkling, friends and family gathering, candles glowing, and frost nipping at your nose. And then GRIEF tripping you on your own toes. Yeah, it is hard to slog through it. If only there was a fast forward button to breeze my way through this season. All that disgusting joy outside but such sadness on the inside which is why it can be the most miserable time of year.
This time of year is so hard for anyone with a recent loss, especially the loss of a spouse.…Continue
This weekend it will be Father's Day, and as a widow still raising a teen boy, the grief wave has hit me already. Grief rears its head unexpectedly and has a life of its own, so I surrender to it and ride the wave until it passes.
Then today in the mail an envelope arrives with my husband's full name on it and I wondered what could this "time sensitive information" actually be, since he has been dead for 30 months. (It's a little late, don't you think? Sorry, a little warped widow…Continue
"The prism of widowhood clarifies priorities." I wrote that on my planner on the Monday of Feb. 24, 2014, a few days before what would have been our 23rd wedding anniversary. For some reason, today I opened up to that page in my planner.
I guess in a way widowhood is a sort of laser vision. What is important? Family, love, friends, and time spent together with those we cherish.
I now have this effective filter that strains out so much of the rubbish…Continue
That is the expectation that I keep bumping into from well meaning friends and relatives, and those are not the words that come out of their mouths, but it is essentially the message: "Sorry, the allowable time period for mourning has expired." I know that their well meaning words come from a place out of ignorance of not having any comprehension of the heartbreak and devastation of losing a spouse.
I have shared that this month has been hard because of significant…Continue