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Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"A Decade of Grief & Transparency Since Thanksgiving the whole grief thing felt like those floaters we have in our eyes. Little black spots that you can see bouncing in your field of vision. Some days harshly bouncing off the concrete wall in…"
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Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Hey all. I have been reading your comments and note and memories with great interest and I'd joy. This is a distant first community for my grief. You all hold a dear place in my heart. I am not I shared with you all that I self published…"
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Donna, A Photo Memoir Of Love and Loss

Posted on March 18, 2019 at 7:03am 0 Comments

My wife Donna died in 2011. I was blessed to find Widowed Village and be introduced to Michele Neff Hernandez.

Early on in the group widowed in 2011 I found voices similar to mine who shared my fears and my grief. Voices that face the same struggles I did. I found my footing here and other places. Though in all honesty I will not abandon (close) my grief because I see closure as indifference and denial said pretty. I will not abandon Donna's memory or our/my love. My grief was a path…


The Barbs and Cortege of Memories

Posted on February 10, 2016 at 1:56pm 1 Comment

February 14th 2016 is Valentines Day for all of us. For Donna it would have been her 64th trip around the Sun. This annual sojourn of circling the Sun ended in 2011. Yet her ashes and memories continue to race through my personal solar system. “All we are is what we leave behind." I am left behind, your memory is not.…


Domesticating The Feral Nature of Grief

Posted on October 28, 2015 at 3:50pm 1 Comment

Sun Magazine had interview that struck a resonant chord with my writings on loss and grief. “The Geography of Sorrow” the interview is with Francis Weller a psychotherapist specializing in grief and sorrow. Below is one of many thoughts and ideas Weller shared on…


My Interview Podcast

Posted on April 30, 2014 at 3:34pm 0 Comments

Podcast #7 Meet Mark: Carolyn interviews me. She was able to elicit much and bring back the emotional memories of Donna’s caregiving and death. As painful as it was it’s a window into why I am doing this and what I’ve learned. You’ll love the part about whole brain radiation evidence vs. quality of life.…


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At 10:31am on November 15, 2012, Renee said…

Hi Mark,

How are you doing? I hope you are doing well and just to busy to be around. 

This time of year is hard, I hope you have family and friends around. Robert's birthday is the 24th (62), it's seems harder this year than last, I think I was just to numb to feel, but not anymore. Were you able to weather the storm?

I've been thinking of you and hope you are okay, Hugs

At 9:41am on September 13, 2012, Len Heisler said…

"Hello, May I respectfully suggest that you check out which has free videos of others who have lost and grieve telling their stories and offering coping strategies that worked for them and perhaps you. Len"

At 5:17pm on August 25, 2012, maddogdolly said…

Hi Mark,

I haven't made that trip to Maine yet.  Very frustrating.  Something or other keeps getting in the way.  It's still on the radar and still on the very short list though.  I hope you make it up there -Fall is so beautiful there.  Where 'bouts are you headed?  Personally, I'd love to tour  the whole state, but I'm really into the coastline.

Take care of yourself.

At 6:43pm on July 10, 2012, Eileen said…

Hi Mark.  You are very welcome.  It is a wonderful site.  I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult to endure.  As August 7 approaches, I too am remembering all the events that occured in July.  Very painful.

I hope that you are doing OK this week.

At 6:58pm on June 19, 2012,
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At 5:21pm on June 15, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome Mark: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 9:18am on June 9, 2012, Mark99 said…

I guess no one wants to be here, but here is where we are as part of a passage. Thank you all for the warmth

At 12:39am on June 9, 2012, Lisa (lost) Lamb said…

Welcome Mark to the one group I wish none of us needed to belong too. I hope you will find comfort and understanding here like I have. This is a wonderful community with kind, and friendly people, we are here when you need us.


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