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Mark99
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Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Chef (John) I totally get your post here. The randomness of a moment or image or the silence of the apartment will strike me and I stop to realize where I am and where I am not. Then I do something like this to calm myself and understand what is…"
Jul 17
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Barzan, thank you for sharing your thoughts and path. This exercise makes us all stronger.  Cee: Moving on is what others think we need without the understanding that we all grieve differently. Yes there is complicated grief and that needs to…"
Jun 20
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Chef (John) Thank you. It is kind of my way to navigate this grief process in a way were I can learn. "
Jun 19
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Hey all. Even after six years there is that sense of loss and being thrust into an unknown world and life. Largely I am making my way though some days it takes much concentration and work. At times I find writing helps. Here is a recent piece I…"
Jun 13
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"August 7 this year will be the anniversary of Donna's passing. The years since then have been long and sometime hard. I continue to write about this whole grief issue and what it does and doesn't do. Below is a recent post "Grief if…"
Apr 13
Callie2 commented on Mark99's blog post The Barbs and Cortege of Memories
"Lovely tribute. Sometimes it is hard to put into words how much someone meant to us. A few words, a few pics and a poem expressed your feelings nicely. I hope, if you are able tomorrow, to remember her with positive thoughts of the time you spent…"
Feb 13, 2016
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The Barbs and Cortege of Memories

February 14th 2016 is Valentines Day for all of us. For Donna it would have been her 64th trip around the Sun. This annual sojourn of circling the Sun ended in 2011. Yet her ashes and memories continue to race through my personal solar system. “All we are is what we leave behind." I am left behind, your memory is not.http://www.bioc.net/blog/2016/2/10/the-barbs-and-cortege-of-memories…See More
Feb 10, 2016
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"It is that time again. Donna's birthday is on the 14th which of course is Valentines Day. So as is my goal to create a memory. A post titled "The Barbs and Cortege of Memories" I know you all get…"
Feb 10, 2016
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Entropy is waiting each evening for the sound of her key in the door but knowing she died four years ago."
Nov 5, 2015
Lost15 commented on Mark99's blog post Domesticating The Feral Nature of Grief
"Lots to consider.  Thank you for writing this and making us think!!"
Nov 3, 2015
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
""The Irish philosopher John O’Donohue had a concept he called the “reverence of approach.” He said, “When we approach [things] with reverence, great things decide to approach us.” What if, instead of trying to…"
Oct 28, 2015
Mark99 posted a blog post

Domesticating The Feral Nature of Grief

Sun Magazine had interview that struck a resonant chord with my writings on loss and grief. “The Geography of Sorrow” the interview is with Francis Weller a psychotherapist specializing in grief and sorrow. Below is one of many thoughts…See More
Oct 28, 2015
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Have you had a conversation with someone and there is a random idea in the middle of the discussion and BANG a blinding cosmic insight? Me neither but, I am attuned to thoughts and ideas that offers perspective and insight on my grief. Those ideas…"
Sep 30, 2015
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Animating My Grief Like A Pixar Film “Death doesn’t burden your life. It animates your life.” Stephen Jenkinson Ever wonder if you are going to find peace or a place in life after a loss? Wonder when there will be resolution of…"
Aug 2, 2015
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Another entry on my blog and the changing avatar of grief. I am looking at the world through a Japanese phrase that Sally Mann mentions in her book, beauty and darkness, mono no aware, “beauty tinged with sadness”. There is much…"
Jul 17, 2015
Mark99 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"I  It has been months since I put up a blog post. Most of my time has been creating podcasts. It’s time to return. And to trying to do a post or two a week. Let’s hope that’s not an over promise. Reading Sally Mann’s…"
Jun 29, 2015

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The Barbs and Cortege of Memories

Posted on February 10, 2016 at 1:56pm 1 Comment

February 14th 2016 is Valentines Day for all of us. For Donna it would have been her 64th trip around the Sun. This annual sojourn of circling the Sun ended in 2011. Yet her ashes and memories continue to race through my personal solar system. “All we are is what we leave behind." I am left behind, your memory is not.

http://www.bioc.net/blog/2016/2/10/the-barbs-and-cortege-of-memories…

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Domesticating The Feral Nature of Grief

Posted on October 28, 2015 at 3:50pm 1 Comment

Sun Magazine had interview that struck a resonant chord with my writings on loss and grief. “The Geography of Sorrow” the interview is with Francis Weller a psychotherapist specializing in grief and…

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My Interview Podcast

Posted on April 30, 2014 at 3:34pm 0 Comments

Podcast #7 Meet Mark: Carolyn interviews me. She was able to elicit much and bring back the emotional memories of Donna’s caregiving and death. As painful as it was it’s a window into why I am doing this and what I’ve learned. You’ll love the part about whole brain radiation evidence vs. quality of life.…

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My Interview Podcast

Posted on April 30, 2014 at 3:32pm 0 Comments

Podcast #7 Meet Mark: Carolyn interviews me. She was able to elicit much and bring back the emotional memories of Donna’s caregiving and death. As painful as it was it’s a window into why I am doing this and what I’ve learned. You’ll love the part about whole brain radiation evidence vs. quality of life.…

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At 10:31am on November 15, 2012, Renee said…

Hi Mark,

How are you doing? I hope you are doing well and just to busy to be around. 

This time of year is hard, I hope you have family and friends around. Robert's birthday is the 24th (62), it's seems harder this year than last, I think I was just to numb to feel, but not anymore. Were you able to weather the storm?

I've been thinking of you and hope you are okay, Hugs

At 9:41am on September 13, 2012, Len Heisler said…

"Hello, May I respectfully suggest that you check out www.breakthrugrief.wordpress.com which has free videos of others who have lost and grieve telling their stories and offering coping strategies that worked for them and perhaps you. Len"

At 5:17pm on August 25, 2012, maddogdolly said…

Hi Mark,

I haven't made that trip to Maine yet.  Very frustrating.  Something or other keeps getting in the way.  It's still on the radar and still on the very short list though.  I hope you make it up there -Fall is so beautiful there.  Where 'bouts are you headed?  Personally, I'd love to tour  the whole state, but I'm really into the coastline.

Take care of yourself.

At 6:43pm on July 10, 2012, Eileen said…

Hi Mark.  You are very welcome.  It is a wonderful site.  I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult to endure.  As August 7 approaches, I too am remembering all the events that occured in July.  Very painful.

I hope that you are doing OK this week.

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At 5:21pm on June 15, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome Mark: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 9:18am on June 9, 2012, Mark99 said…

I guess no one wants to be here, but here is where we are as part of a passage. Thank you all for the warmth

At 12:39am on June 9, 2012, Lisa (lost) Lamb said…

Welcome Mark to the one group I wish none of us needed to belong too. I hope you will find comfort and understanding here like I have. This is a wonderful community with kind, and friendly people, we are here when you need us.

 
 
 

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