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MartyG (ver. 2.0) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty1...I am so, so sorry for your loss!!  I can feel the pain you bear jumping out at me from the narrative you shared because I, too, lost the love of my life after 43 years, 9  months and 12 days of marriage.  Yes, they are…"
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Rose of Sharon

Sharon planted these two Rose of Sharon bushes when they were just very young.
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MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on shellybean's blog post A Constant Battle
"Yes, Shelly, the Holy Spirit is indwelling. Remember "Footsteps".....He will carry you when you can not walk. AS for me, I drink a   lot of cawfee instead of yoga...lol."
Jul 10
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on bayoured's blog post Its just a Big Boom Boom
"He is always just in the next room....remember ?"
Jul 10
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post The Transmutation of a widow: emotional metamorphosis
"Misty....WV would not be what it is w/o you. You "da man!!"   Thank you....."
Jul 10
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on shellybean's blog post It's Not Heavier Than Yours
"You are very sage, Shelly...I value having you as a friend and as a comforter:)"
Jul 10
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on Mike's blog post Euphemisms for death
"Without in any way negating what you say, a sub group of us here are believers. SO "death" and "dying" men different things than to most. Death means an instant presence in the present or intermediary even wit Our Lord...and…"
Jul 10
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on shellybean's blog post How has it already been six months?!
"Awww...Shelly..so well written!! Yes, it takes courage...it does :)"
Jul 4
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on YLG's blog post Breakfast at Wimbledon
"Well written....thank you :)"
Jul 4
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on bayoured's blog post How do I make Peace witth the "Never Again"
"Beautiful, Bay...thank you :)"
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MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on gcortez55's blog post time to "do" something.
"Very brave....I have no answers but very brave. When you share something it often indicates that something greater than you (or I!!) is inside of you. For me, as  a believer, that would be theHoly Spirit who is indwelling. If that is also your…"
Jun 26
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on Ann B's blog post If Only You Knew.....
"Thank you for sharing this. It was very well written and conveyed the emotions that you felt in a most effective way. Darin (and you) had a beautiful love and, although it is little solace at the moment, you and he will see each other when it is…"
Jun 26
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on Phyllis's blog post Not sure I’m making progress
"Phyllis...life is so fragile!! It pains me to read about your burden with your son. The love you have for him, as your husband Don did as well, is monumental.  I can think of no simple answer for you except that  to contact, if you…"
Jun 23
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on hendrixx2's blog post LeftOvers
"Very, very well thought out and written...R.I.P, Hendixx2..thank you!!"
Jun 16
MartyG (ver. 2.0) commented on MartyG (ver. 2.0)'s blog post From Mourning to Joy....
"I totally agree!! Both I (and Sharon) have always felt that our lives belonged to God.  My fraternity's motto was "The gift is life, the responsibility is living". I do not fear the fate, either here in this world and certainly…"
Jun 10

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From Mourning to Joy....

Posted on June 9, 2018 at 3:00am 4 Comments

      

     

….that is the title of a well known grief support seminar series.  A well thought out, well researched, well constructed and, most of all, well intentioned series of videos.

 

    From Mourning to Joy…..

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An Epiphany

Posted on March 26, 2018 at 4:46am 4 Comments

         It's been nearly 10 weeks now that Sharon was called Home by the Lord after having experienced increased physical and mental suffering for 3 and one half years. Yesterday I had an epiphany. I realized that it would be selfish of me to want her back in the state that she was in just so I wouldn't be so desperately lonely as I find myself now.  She told me, toward the end that "I wish I could have stayed here longer with you!" ...a remark that, as I look back on it, was extremely…

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At 3:58pm on April 4, 2018, Alberto said…

Hi Marty,

Thanks for requesting me for a friend. I am sorry for your lost and for all you're going through which is a testament to the love you had for your wife.They tell me that the reason it hurts so much is because you love as deeply as you hurt.

I lost Jane, this past Friday and I can't believe she's gone. I feel empty, lonely, sad and I don't know what to do about it. They say it takes time to heal from a lost. Throughout the day I experience waves of anxiety and I keep thinking I failed my wife and wondered if I did more she might be around today. The hurt is deep I cried all last week by her bedside while she slowly died. I told her how much I loved her and she would squeeze my hand as I told her how much I loved her. My wife suffered from chronic back pain, bipolar and had a serious anxiety disorder. I took cared of her for 18 years but the pain was too much for her to bear and she no longer wanted to live so she gave up after 5 weeks in the hospital. I spent every day of the 5 weeks with her from morning to night hoping that she would eventually come home like many times before. Jane's been in and out of the hospital for the last 20 years. It was her time to go to God. For now I'm just taking it one day at a time. I will be in a bereavement group in the beginning of May. I pray that God see's me and you through the pain that we are experiencing from the lost of a love found. Take care Marty, and I look forward to staying in touch.

Alberto

At 8:13am on February 21, 2018, Lupe's husband said…

OK, we are friends now.   Thanks for the kind words.

At 9:08am on February 17, 2018, judy said…

Hi Marty,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you.  I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.

 
 
 

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