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MartyG
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  • Lancaster, PA
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WELCOMES SPRING

Sharon's favorite time of the year...meant she could get outside and work on her beloved flower beds!!
yesterday
Thankfulheart commented on MartyG's blog post An Epiphany
"Hi Marty, yes I agree my husband was sick as well  and it is very tough to lose a partner. It get easier as time goes on. I toof feel I’ll never find another husband like I had. But I don’t want the same As I had I want a new person…"
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Monument

Of course, she isn't here...only her ashes remain from her "earthly tent." Her spirt and soul are in the immediate heaven praising Our Lord.
Sunday
Alberto left a comment for MartyG
"Hi Marty, Thanks for requesting me for a friend. I am sorry for your lost and for all you're going through which is a testament to the love you had for your wife.They tell me that the reason it hurts so much is because you love as deeply as you…"
Apr 4
MartyG commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post What comes first?
"      I think that the pain, like that from a searing and deep cut to one's guts, will slowly soften and the wound itself - Jerry's departure - will by itself also slowly close.  Yes, it will leave a deep scar and, yes,…"
Apr 4
MartyG replied to Deb's discussion The Value Of A WV Penpal
"Thanks, Deb for your reply.  And, yes, I am really benefitting from reading the blogs regardless of their posting dates as they are all priceless :) Best...Marty"
Apr 3
MartyG commented on MissingRKK's blog post Lists: Wishes, Anger and Hope
"Oh my, what an awesome post!! Thank you.  As I read through it I felt every single point that you made as if I had wrote the text myself (not that I have the ability to do so!!)  Nothing I can write here could possibly express the value of…"
Apr 3
MartyG commented on only1sue's blog post Lonely in a crowd
"Easter, for me, was the first major holiday since my Sharon went Home to be with the Lord after 3 plus years of slowly debilitating health replete with much pain and sorrow.  Although I went to church to celebrate that Our Lord has Risen, He…"
Apr 3
MartyG replied to Deb's discussion The Value Of A WV Penpal
"Hi, Deb :0  I, ytoo, find WV to be a blessing as I trudge down this "journey" called widowerhood since I lost my Sharon on January 19, 2018.  I have also foud the chat room and blogs to be uplifting.  A question, if I may,…"
Apr 3
MartyG commented on Tess's blog post Our Home
"Sharon passed away January 19th of this year. We had been married 43 years, 9 months and 12days.  Any yes, you are right!! Being here in our home of 38 years is beaming bittersweet and comforting. Thanks for both your post and for you reply to…"
Mar 30
MartyG commented on Jerseygirl2525 (Andrea)'s blog post I don't know where he's buried
"...and..I might add....and your Dad's observation is very applicable. He is in a better place!!"
Mar 30
MartyG commented on Jerseygirl2525 (Andrea)'s blog post I don't know where he's buried
"OMG!!! Wasn't he even put in a coffin?  What you write is criminal!! Some "second cousin"....hmpff!!"
Mar 30
MartyG commented on Tess's blog post Our Home
"Yes, Tess...how true. I am saving up to meet the entrance fee on a cottage in a retirement community here and I am glad it will take me a few years to do so as Sharon permeates this home we had for 38 years."
Mar 30
allmyheart commented on MartyG's blog post An Epiphany
"Marty, 10 weeks is early,  you are doing well to be able to express and write, that's a good sign I think . We were also married 43 years, our anniversary is close, I am just not sure what to do with that.  It's been seven…"
Mar 30
MartyG commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Getting what you ask for, only to find out it isn't what you want
"Wow, Tony....sounds a lot like what I went through with Sharon.  I even brought a death cert over to CVS so they wouldn't keep sending me TXT's on prescriptions for Sharon that needed refills t be ok'd.  Flustered the whole…"
Mar 29
MartyG commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Addicted to Camp? Well it can't be all bad..
"Thanks, Tony....if I ever get to a WV Camp (it would more than likely be the Toronto one), I will bear all you wrote in mind."
Mar 28

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I feel like I have been picked up and dumped on another planet!! Hard to eat or take care of normal stuff like showering, brushing my teeth, etc. The whole world is going ahead normally and I am frozen!!

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An Epiphany

Posted on March 26, 2018 at 4:46am 5 Comments

         It's been nearly 10 weeks now that Sharon was called Home by the Lord after having experienced increased physical and mental suffering for 3 and one half years. Yesterday I had an epiphany. I realized that it would be selfish of me to want her back in the state that she was in just so I wouldn't be so desperately lonely as I find myself now.  She told me, toward the end that "I wish I could have stayed here longer with you!" ...a remark that, as I look back on it, was extremely…

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At 3:58pm on April 4, 2018, Alberto said…

Hi Marty,

Thanks for requesting me for a friend. I am sorry for your lost and for all you're going through which is a testament to the love you had for your wife.They tell me that the reason it hurts so much is because you love as deeply as you hurt.

I lost Jane, this past Friday and I can't believe she's gone. I feel empty, lonely, sad and I don't know what to do about it. They say it takes time to heal from a lost. Throughout the day I experience waves of anxiety and I keep thinking I failed my wife and wondered if I did more she might be around today. The hurt is deep I cried all last week by her bedside while she slowly died. I told her how much I loved her and she would squeeze my hand as I told her how much I loved her. My wife suffered from chronic back pain, bipolar and had a serious anxiety disorder. I took cared of her for 18 years but the pain was too much for her to bear and she no longer wanted to live so she gave up after 5 weeks in the hospital. I spent every day of the 5 weeks with her from morning to night hoping that she would eventually come home like many times before. Jane's been in and out of the hospital for the last 20 years. It was her time to go to God. For now I'm just taking it one day at a time. I will be in a bereavement group in the beginning of May. I pray that God see's me and you through the pain that we are experiencing from the lost of a love found. Take care Marty, and I look forward to staying in touch.

Alberto

At 8:13am on February 21, 2018, Lupe's husband said…

OK, we are friends now.   Thanks for the kind words.

At 9:08am on February 17, 2018, judy said…

Hi Marty,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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