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MartyG commented on Phyllis's blog post Not sure I’m making progress
" is so fragile!! It pains me to read about your burden with your son. The love you have for him, as your husband Don did as well, is monumental.  I can think of no simple answer for you except that  to contact, if you…"
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MartyG commented on hendrixx2's blog post LeftOvers
"Very, very well thought out and written...R.I.P, Hendixx2..thank you!!"
Jun 16
MartyG commented on MartyG's blog post From Mourning to Joy....
"I totally agree!! Both I (and Sharon) have always felt that our lives belonged to God.  My fraternity's motto was "The gift is life, the responsibility is living". I do not fear the fate, either here in this world and certainly…"
Jun 10
Rainy (Misty) commented on MartyG's blog post From Mourning to Joy....
"Marty, this is how I translate that verse:  (what it says to my heart)  We all interpret things differently and that's okay too, I just wanted to throw it out there.."So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be…"
Jun 10
MartyG commented on MartyG's blog post From Mourning to Joy....
"Yes, Misty......"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10  I don't think it is…"
Jun 9
Rainy (Misty) commented on MartyG's blog post From Mourning to Joy....
"OH, Marty, I wish I could hug you!I have been right there in those thoughts, I feel them creeping up on me and remind myself very often that the devil is a lie.  I know you are a man of faith so look for enlightenment in Isiah.  My…"
Jun 9
MartyG commented on Kenneth1!'s blog post Tough days
"I have read that when we lose our spouse or partner, we lose not only them but another person - the person we became together.  Therein lies the rub...."
Jun 9
MartyG commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post feeling small
"Again, Misty.....great insights!! You maybe don't wanna be but, you, Don, lyn, Bay, Step and guys are my heroes!!"
Jun 9
MartyG commented on Rainy (Misty)'s blog post We are called survivors
"Great post, Misty !!  Yes...warriors...and hopefully our remaining days w/o "them" will find us with fewer and fewer battles!! Maybe that is what we should hope for....solace and most of all erserverance!! You are, indeed, a warrior…"
Jun 9
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From Mourning to Joy....

           ….that is the title of a well known grief support seminar series.  A well thought out, well researched, well constructed and, most of all, well intentioned series of videos.     From Mourning to Joy…..     Ka -ka…absolute ka-ka.     Joy?     Sharon was joy.     She was joy in the constant, loving manner she cared about others. Whether she knew them or not!!  Near or far from her. Sharon reached out and helped in whatever way she could.       She was joy in the way she constantly…See More
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Sharon and I in our mid 30's...speculation has it that our Resurrected bodies will be ( as will everyone's) circa then
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From Mourning to Joy....

Posted on June 9, 2018 at 3:00am 4 Comments



….that is the title of a well known grief support seminar series.  A well thought out, well researched, well constructed and, most of all, well intentioned series of videos.


    From Mourning to Joy…..



An Epiphany

Posted on March 26, 2018 at 4:46am 4 Comments

         It's been nearly 10 weeks now that Sharon was called Home by the Lord after having experienced increased physical and mental suffering for 3 and one half years. Yesterday I had an epiphany. I realized that it would be selfish of me to want her back in the state that she was in just so I wouldn't be so desperately lonely as I find myself now.  She told me, toward the end that "I wish I could have stayed here longer with you!" ...a remark that, as I look back on it, was extremely…


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At 3:58pm on April 4, 2018, Alberto said…

Hi Marty,

Thanks for requesting me for a friend. I am sorry for your lost and for all you're going through which is a testament to the love you had for your wife.They tell me that the reason it hurts so much is because you love as deeply as you hurt.

I lost Jane, this past Friday and I can't believe she's gone. I feel empty, lonely, sad and I don't know what to do about it. They say it takes time to heal from a lost. Throughout the day I experience waves of anxiety and I keep thinking I failed my wife and wondered if I did more she might be around today. The hurt is deep I cried all last week by her bedside while she slowly died. I told her how much I loved her and she would squeeze my hand as I told her how much I loved her. My wife suffered from chronic back pain, bipolar and had a serious anxiety disorder. I took cared of her for 18 years but the pain was too much for her to bear and she no longer wanted to live so she gave up after 5 weeks in the hospital. I spent every day of the 5 weeks with her from morning to night hoping that she would eventually come home like many times before. Jane's been in and out of the hospital for the last 20 years. It was her time to go to God. For now I'm just taking it one day at a time. I will be in a bereavement group in the beginning of May. I pray that God see's me and you through the pain that we are experiencing from the lost of a love found. Take care Marty, and I look forward to staying in touch.


At 8:13am on February 21, 2018, Lupe's husband said…

OK, we are friends now.   Thanks for the kind words.

At 9:08am on February 17, 2018, judy said…

Hi Marty,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.


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