"That is very frustrating. I would suggest ordering more copies of the death certificate, you'll need them. I ordered 10, and I have 2 or 3 copies left."
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Meema commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"My husband died of pancreatic cancer, too, a little over two years from diagnosis. We did almost everything conventional and alternative medicine had to offer. My husband spent hours and hours and hours on the Internet researching his disease, we…"
Meema replied to Ava's discussion Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
"My husband was overweight but otherwise healthy, rarely drank, and never smoked. He had a rare, more slowly growing type of pancreatic cancer, which is why he lasted 2 years from diagnosis. The symptoms are so vague and could be indicative of so…"
Meema commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"I totally agree with you, forever56, and I've had people get angry at me before for suggesting it, but to me it seems there's a great deal of financial incentive NOT to cure cancer. Look around, the hospitals and drug companies are making…"
Meema commented on telechick's blog post Don't look back in anger, I heard you say...
"I kind of like the anger. It's energizing, makes me feel less vulnerable, and burns away some of the fear. I think of it as a reminder that I'm alive."
Meema commented on Suz's event Suz and Jud's Anniversary
"Wishing you courage and comfort today and all days."
Meema commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"My feeling about most cancer treatments is that basically they torture you until you die anyway, and make a lot of money while they're doing it. I know that sounds harsh and bitter and isn't completely true, but really that's what…"
Meema commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Wow, I can tell you about alternative cancer treatments. There were the massive amount of supplements and Chinese herbs, a chemo sensitivity test that had to be sent to Greece, the vitamin C and ALA drips, low-dose naltrexone, injections of some…"
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Meema commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I'm in the process of selling the vacation home my husband loved. I even scattered some of his ashes in the pond there, as he requested. But I can't imagine ever going there on my own, my son never much liked the place, and as much as…"
Meema commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I hope this isn't too discouraging, but I'm closing in on 5 months and I'm having a really hard time. I thought I was feeling better, but for the past week or so I'm either crying or about to cry all the time. It feels like the…"
Daisy11 left a comment for Meema
"Hi Meema, I'm new to this site and I've been exploring it. I came upon your comment in one of the blogs and that led me here. I love the tattoo idea. I've never been a tattoo person, but your comment made me think of a picture Patrick…"
Meema replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"I got a tattoo a week ago, an exact reproduction of a little fish my husband had drawn. As soon as I saw it on my arm, I knew it was okay to take my rings off. The rings were a visual reminder of how much we meant to each other, now the tattoo…"
Meema replied to katydid's discussion Doing things that seem a bit out of character
"I had that urge, too, to go through every drawer, every email, every file on my husband's computer, any stuff of his that I could find. I never snooped through his stuff when he was alive, we allowed each other our personal privacy. I found a…"
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- At 2:05pm on July 29, 2012,
Daisy11 said… - Hi Meema, I'm new to this site and I've been exploring it. I came upon your comment in one of the blogs and that led me here. I love the tattoo idea. I've never been a tattoo person, but your comment made me think of a picture Patrick drew once. Now I think I'm toying with the idea.
- At 11:04am on July 17, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
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- At 2:54pm on July 8, 2012,
chrism said… Hi Meema,thank you for your supportive message and friend request,I am so sorry for the loss of your husband but it is good to hear you are starting to break through to happy memories ,I really hope they continue to grow and overtake the cancer related memories for you,take care.
- At 9:43am on June 28, 2012,
Ccdague said… - Meema....thank you for the friend request. I am so sorry for your loss...how long has it been? Denny passed away on March 22........
Are we neighbors eat Boston....I would love to have a subgroup to meet with in person.
Meanwhile I am sending hugs and peace your way.
Carol
- At 5:31pm on June 23, 2012,
Suz said… HI Meema,
Glad you found this site. I have really found it to be helpful. Please write and we can gripe about pancreatic cancer. It is pretty horrible. On the Discussion site, there is a question about it and a lot of people answered. There are a number of us. jud lost one of his colleagues to PC six months before. He also lived two doors down from us. Sounds suspicious but he had two grandmothers with PC. I wish I had the energy to contribute to the cause...just don't yet!
Fondly,
Suz
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Mourning is okay; feeling sorry for myself, maybe not so much
Posted on June 29, 2012 at 2:31pm 3 Comments 0 Likes
Ive been fortunate to have a great deal of good support since my husband died of cancer almost 4 months ago. I've been able to get a lot of things done that I could have never even attempted without such good help, and I'm very grateful. One of which is to get the vacation house on the market 2 months ago. Ted loved the place. I don't, and my son doesn't. It's a burden, both the cost and the worry, and if I don't sell it now, it's going to sit there until next spring.
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