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Mel
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  • Lake Charles, LA
  • United States
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Mel replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hi Dolly. I nagged and begged for him to stop drinking and to think of his son and I. He didn't really believe that things could go too far and they did. I feel like he played with his life and thought no consequences would arise from it. I am…"
Nov 24
dolly replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Mel I am so sorry to hear what you are going through in the loss of your husband. I wish I knew somwrhing to  say to take the pain away..I lost my husband 9/11/19...I am and have been working on myself with 'self talk' now as I have…"
Nov 23
Mel replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Thank you AtSam.  These things are not easy at all"
Oct 28
AtSam(Steve) replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Talking and reaching out hopefully is a good start Mel. Each minute seems like a struggle. Our minds telling ourselves we could have done more is not healthy but a sad reality. The truth is, it is doubtful anything you could have said or did would…"
Oct 28
Mel replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"It's so hard to tell myself that I'm a good person and that I couldn't save him. My mind keeps telling me that I could have done more and he would be here with me. I am frantically trying to avoid my own thoughts and emotions, but…"
Oct 28
AtSam(Steve) replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Mel, We can all tell you it is not your fault. Hopefully one day you will see that we are powerless over others. I hope his actions do not drag you down into his gutter. An alcoholic mind is so evil and self defeating, there was no way for you or…"
Oct 28
Mel replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Yes, it's overwhelming. The constant question of why they would choose to do what they did and what could've been said or done to prevent this. It's a whirlwind of guilty emotions and what ifs. "
Oct 27
Alma replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"No it isn't and yet here we are. Knowing my husband chose to die sends me reeling multiple times a day. My life in a lot of respects has become about trying to get through this loss and grief."
Oct 27
Mel replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Thank you. I will look online for it. I am so sorry you're having to go through this grief as well. It's definitely not something anyone would want to endure. "
Oct 27
Mel replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Thank you.  The what ifs are my torment. I do what I can to avoid them, but they creep up when I least expect it. There's so much I would like to change, do, and say but I can't anymore and it's so devastating.  I miss him…"
Oct 27
Alma replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to suicide on July 26, 2019. I blame myself as well. And grief is such an overwhelming emotion. It affects our minds, body, and soul. I think it could be very helpful for you to check out…"
Oct 27
DIVA70 replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"I am so sorry to hear of your loss and I am equally sorry for the guilt and pain you are feeling. It has been almost 18 months since my husband passed away. I have learned that it is impossible for us to really know the depth of a person's…"
Oct 26
Mel replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"Thank you so much. I have been trying to find as much support as I can, not for me but for my son's sake. I know my son needs me to be strong and I can't be strong unless I get help. I lived with his addiction for over 4 years and was…"
Oct 26
DebiT replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"I am so sorry that your husband did this.  If you have been dealing with his addiction for a while, then you have probably heard already that none of us can persuade an addict to give up his addiction.  And that addiction messes with their…"
Oct 26
Mel added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2019
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Loss By Addiction/Suicide

I lost my husband on September 22, 2019. He was an alcoholic and decided to take a whole bottle of pills. The guilt is eating me alive. He left me and my special needs son alone. He promised to never leave us, but that's exactly what he did. I miss him so much and I blame myself for his death. I could have stopped it. I could've done more for him and I didn't. I will live the rest of my life knowing it was my fault that he's not here and I don't know if I can live like that. Everyone tells me…See More
Oct 26
eliana left a comment for Mel
"Welcome to Widville, Mel. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you…"
Oct 24

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At 12:30am on October 24, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Mel. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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